What is the best way to handle....

I wanted to bring this discussion to the KC region since I'm partial to guys in my hometown!

Advice/Suggestions?

As the guys who i have had the pleasure in... pleasing.. can validate.. i like to please, give someone a very enjoyable time, have a blast,etc. I always make 100% the gent is completely satisfied and pleased with our time before ill let him leave.. (sadly during that time we also start a makeout session and its hard for him to leave then too, lol)

I never want to be rude

So I will take advice from ladies who's goal is the same

or

from men who can give me advice or suggestions from the male side

What is the best way to handle the following situations without sounding rude or hurting their feelings or offending?


1. When his breath is beyond tolerable? Seems mean to just outright tell him to go rinse with mouthwash.. at least to me it does.

2. When his southern regions have a not so fresh smell?

3. When he tugs on ur nipples so hard you have to check and make sure they are still attached?

4. When he is grabbing your arms or legs so hard you KNOW there will be bruises tomorrow.

5. When he sits there and tells you every single detail regarding the last provider he saw.. whether personal info or details of their session.

Luckily all of these have happened very few and far between. I hate to be blunt about any of it because it comes off offensive or mean.. and doing that can be a mood kill. Originally Posted by Devon Derriere

1. get some mouthwash and use it yourself, then offer it to him.
2. take a bath/shower together
3. "not quite so hard, baby"
4. "not quite so hard, baby"
5. start telling him every single detail of the last client you saw?

I really like the way you responded cluster.
1 matches 1....
2 matches 2....
3 matches 3....
Precise and to the point without really long explanations. Beautiful!

I think I'm with Cluster.

1. It happens. I try to keep breath mints, but....it would be fine with me if the woman requested.
2. Take a shower with him and wash his junk in the shower.
3/4: Tell him. For everything you don't like, there's a woman that does, and maybe that's the last one that he saw.
5. "Sweetie, I don't want to know that, and you don't want to know about my last client."

I'm sorry any of that happens but I'm totally with Kshunter, sound advise

1 mouthwash
2 take him to the car wash and spend a couple of bucks
3 twist his nipples
4 no bruising or people will think I have a pimp
5 wanna fuck or talk?

Lot of good suggestions so far. To avoid embarrassment, you might keep mouthwash available and say that you ask everyone to swish before a session. If said sweetly and with a smile, I don't think any man would be offended.

If he seems musty down below, take into consideration some men do shower before sessions but they may sweat heavily. Lot's of guys get wilted quickly. If you notice heavy sweat or odor down below, maybe tell him he feels really warm down there and you want to cool him off first with a rub and scrub. If he's sweaty and smelly all over, then obviously a complete shower, with you of course, is the solution.

If he's being too rough, the direct approach is best. A simple "not so hard", should be enough for most guys. If he persists, all niceties go out the window. I'm sure you ladies have game plans for cases like that.

For the chronic talker, again, the direct approach is best. Maybe, "Oh, let's not talk about that, let's enjoy our time together."

From a males perspective I like Cluster's responses and would certainty not be offended. I would think though that the guy would take the time to be as fresh and clean as he expects the girl to be.
As far as all the talking, guys talk when they're nervous and they don't want you to know it. So they talk about their last visit without realizing how inappropriate it is. Try just smiling at him as you put your finger to your lips as to SSSHHH him, then just lean over and stay touching him. He will likely be Pleasantly Surprised by your action and hiss stress will disappear.

What about the gent who insists he "already showered before he came over", when clearly you can tell he did not?! Those are always fun to deal with...not! Maybe he DID shower earlier in the day, but if it's been several hours (especially when it's so hot outside!) then as far as I'm concerned, a quick freshen up is certainly not uncalled for!
I'm always happy to offer my shower facilities at the start of a date.

Let me add one more thing, that shouldn't even have to be said, but here goes:

Guys, if you've had a bowel movement anytime between your shower and your date with a special lady, please rest assured that she will know it immediately if you're getting intimate. (That's an odor you never forget once you've experienced it.) If you're not getting the "up close and personal" experience you're seeking, you might want to consider the quality of the gift you're offering your partner... To keep it truly simple: WASH YOUR ASS. Literally. And not just one of those quick "splash water on your junk in the sink" kind of washings. Use soap, even. You might just be surprised at the change in the services you're receiving afterward...just my .02!

1. Mouthwash... any guy worth seeing will probably thank you for not ruining a date by making faces while you held your breath. You can be a little diplomatic by saying "I'm sorry your breath isn't very fresh right now, would you mind rinsing for a minute?"

2. A lot of women get ready for their dates like they're going on a date... the guy should to. "You're not as fresh as I'd like, would you mind if got more relaxed by letting me bathe you in the shower before playtime?"

3. " No taking souvenirs! Those nipples aren't detachable"

4. "No marks babe... you'll spoil the fun."

5. "I get uncomfortable when guys talk about other girls. Would you mind if we changed the subject?"

Staci, been there done that and my answer is the same. Take yourself back to the shower and scrub with SOAP or this session is OVER!

Thanks for your reply, Blaze! That's how I handle it, too!

It just amazes me that a man would think we wouldn't know OR care. Of course we care. Have some respect for yourself AND your date!

If your date is "shying" away from you, there's probably a good reason why!

There is absolutely NO shame in either a provider or a client asking to freshen up first, and if that means full-blown shower, then, by all means, GO FOR IT! *although a provider should be "ready" for the most part...but if she's providing outcall to you, then I guarantee she got a little moist in some areas out in this heat, and unless that's your thing, you might let her tidy up first.

If I feel not so...well...fresh, I'll ask if I can shower first. Had a session last week when I was out riding the bike on a 95 degree day. By the time I took off my helmet, jacket, etc....I wasn't exactly 'shower fresh.' To be honest, if a provider WOULDN'T want me to shower in that case, I'm not sure I'd want to see her.

If I feel not so...well...fresh, I'll ask if I can shower first. Had a session last week when I was out riding the bike on a 95 degree day. By the time I took off my helmet, jacket, etc....I wasn't exactly 'shower fresh.' To be honest, if a provider WOULDN'T want me to shower in that case, I'm not sure I'd want to see her. Originally Posted by Kshunter

Exactly! Even though you knew you'd showered prior, you knew your daily activities had most likely caused you to be "not so fresh".

I love a man that's aware of his hygiene! It really is a turn on, gentlemen!

What about the gent who insists he "already showered before he came over", when clearly you can tell he did not?! Those are always fun to deal with...not! Maybe he DID shower earlier in the day, but if it's been several hours (especially when it's so hot outside!) then as far as I'm concerned, a quick freshen up is certainly not uncalled for!
I'm always happy to offer my shower facilities at the start of a date.

Let me add one more thing, that shouldn't even have to be said, but here goes:

Guys, if you've had a bowel movement anytime between your shower and your date with a special lady, please rest assured that she will know it immediately if you're getting intimate. (That's an odor you never forget once you've experienced it.) If you're not getting the "up close and personal" experience you're seeking, you might want to consider the quality of the gift you're offering your partner... To keep it truly simple: WASH YOUR ASS. Literally. And not just one of those quick "splash water on your junk in the sink" kind of washings. Use soap, even. You might just be surprised at the change in the services you're receiving afterward...just my .02! Originally Posted by Staci Stacked

If going straight to the appointment from home, take a crap first, then shower. I can't imagine taking a crap then going to the appointment. If you gotta go, ask to take a shower. It doesn't take long to get stinky, let alone in the summer.