Who pays?

Hi All,
So I have a question for everyone.
Guys your question is...
If you book an hour but don't stay your whole time (your choice) do you think it's fair to leave only the donation for the time spent?
Ladies...
What do you do if a guy books an hour but leaves after 40 minutes?
Do you expect less?

My question comes from having two appointments that decided to 1. Leave only my hh rate even though spending 40+ minutes and the other taking $ out of the envelope to justify what he thought was fair

No it's not fair. If you show up to see a provider for an hour, pay the hour donation. If you leave early, that's on you, not her, and it's rude. Sorry to hear that happened to you Grace.

completely agree with JS42.

Once the fee has been laid out in the bathroom, bedroom or wherever. Than the client forefits any right to it. If you schedule an hour and leave after 40 minutes, that is on you not the provider.

If at the door you do not feel a connection, than I would politely say sorry and give you a cancelation fee for gas or whatever.

It is rude as JS said and very tacky in my opinion.

Only way I could see that happening is you scheduled an hour and both agreed and the provider shortened it up, rushed it and got dressed saying well ill see you later kinda deal and only be into it 20-25 mins of the hour.
If the guy didn't last long and felt a little embarrassed or just wanted to leave afterward 15-45mins or so.... Then the agreed upon rate stays in effect.

I would say that it is up to the provider. It is the inverse of a tip. A provider can finish an hour session in 30, 35, or 40 minutes and be generous by returning some of the money. A hobbyist can finish early but have an extraordinary good time and pay more. I would like to think that a provider who is the business of making people happy would have more scruples than a con man. Their motto is never give the money back.

Anyone that know me, knows that I do my best to give the best bang for your buck. I've also given guys money back..

The guy that left the HH rate after 40 minutes MIGHT have been an honest misunderstanding..
maybe he thought he was only doing 30 minutes going in but if he scheduled for an hour then that is what he should have paid for.

The guy that paid for an hour and then took money out of the envelope is a thief PERIOD.
taking money out of the envelope after he FINISHED is no different then taking money out of your purse.
You need to name this thief...
and if the first guy scheduled for and hour and didn't change it to hh until after he was finished then you need to name that thief too.

You need to blacklist them both but especially the guy that mugged you.

The only time I would think that money should be returned is if the provider decided to leave or get dressed after one shot was completed and there was more than 20 minutes left in a scheduled hour-long session, because the provider is ending short of the agreed upon session time.

The only time I would think that money should be returned is if the provider decided to leave or get dressed after one shot was completed and there was more than 20 minutes left in a scheduled hour-long session, because the provider is ending short of the agreed upon session time. Originally Posted by finishlast

I agree accept if the girl makes it well known that she is a one and done girl...
If she tells you that going in and you pay for an hour and are done in 2 minutes... that is not her fault.
but on the other hand she should at least give you the time to cuddle and make small talk.

Anyone that has met Grace knows that she is not a one and done.
hell she wants more and more.. and if you don't give it to her, then you will owe her double the next time.

Only way I could see that happening is you scheduled an hour and both agreed and the provider shortened it up, rushed it and got dressed saying well ill see you later kinda deal and only be into it 20-25 mins of the hour.
If the guy didn't last long and felt a little embarrassed or just wanted to leave afterward 15-45mins or so.... Then the agreed upon rate stays in effect.

I agree with this. If the provider shortens the time then she's not providing what she was paid to provide. If the guy shortens it then he pays the amount agreed upon before the date begins.

Sorry that happened to you Grace, it is not right. Taking money out of the envelope unilaterally is totally unacceptable.

I agree accept if the girl makes it well known that she is a one and done girl...
If she tells you that going in and you pay for an hour and are done in 2 minutes... that is not her fault.
but on the other hand she should at least give you the time to cuddle and make small talk.

One and done doesn't matter because every provider here will tell you that you are paying for her time. If she doesn't want to provide the time you have paid for then she should not have agreed to that amount of time.

IMHO, of course.

I certainly agree with comments posted in this thread.
(1. Provide the agreed donation up front and 2. don't expect a "Rebate", Ha!)

However, the Glaring Discrepancy between the Opinions of the Providers and Hobbyists in these two correlated polls highlights a source of confusion and potential conflict:

Providers Opinion Poll: When do you expect to receive your "Donation"?

Hobbyists Opinion Poll: When do you expect to provide your "Donation"?

As Emily Post advises; in any business, sport or social grace, knowing the proper etiquette and protocol smooths the interaction for all parties.

PS: In My Opinion there may exist two rare exceptions:

1) If the provider you meet has blatantly misrepresented herself in appearance or is an obvious "bait and switch",
I feel the Hobbyist may cancel the appointment is under No Obligation to provide compensation for transportation, accommodations, or time.

2) If the provider is legitimate, but there is no intimate connection Before the session starts, fairness would dictate the Hobbyist provide some compensation for cancelling that appointment.

PSS:

I have often read of the inherent unfairness of the following scenario:

Hobbyist negotiates a longer session,
completes his Primary Mission Prematurely,
Provider, pops up, dresses, scoops the donation and bolts.

Etiquette for time and money cuts both ways.

Hi All,
So I have a question for everyone.
Guys your question is...
If you book an hour but don't stay your whole time (your choice) do you think it's fair to leave only the donation for the time spent?
Ladies...
What do you do if a guy books an hour but leaves after 40 minutes?
Do you expect less?

My question comes from having two appointments that decided to 1. Leave only my hh rate even though spending 40+ minutes and the other taking $ out of the envelope to justify what he thought was fair Originally Posted by Graceutr

That'sBS,especially taking $ out of the envelope. Was this the 1st time that you had seen them? I would make it their last.....

This is just me but I always get the money up front so if you diddnt I would be worried someone will stiff you one day thinking your two nice to argue with them about it... Also if he leaves and you diddnt force him out why would he not pay for the hour when he stayed over the half hr?? I know you enjoy what you do but this is a living you can't allow people to get you for the cheapest rate because they think they can get one over on you. I know I sound mean but honestly I'm just being blunt if a guy pays me for a half he gets a half and I know how long he should get because I know how much he payed me before we even do anything

This is just me but I always get the money up front so if you diddnt I would be worried someone will stiff you one day thinking your two nice to argue with them about it... Also if he leaves and you diddnt force him out why would he not pay for the hour when he stayed over the half hr?? I know you enjoy what you do but this is a living you can't allow people to get you for the cheapest rate because they think they can get one over on you. I know I sound mean but honestly I'm just being blunt if a guy pays me for a half he gets a half and I know how long he should get because I know how much he payed me before we even do anything Originally Posted by b@ileythepistol

I think that if their board members you should name them. This is the type of crap (people) we don't need here.