By the way, for anyone that missed out on the op's original title of this thread, it was, "Is Arverni a provider".
Originally Posted by jl11
No I'm not a provider! LOL
I've been working every single day for the last two weeks and haven't had a whole lot of time to read up on ECCIE. I have no clue what this thread was about.
If it's about respect for providers though - well, I don't know if I have more than most other guys - but I DO have a lot of respect for them.
Yeah I know that SOME providers look at us guys as commodities ... I think I can usually sense that though, and I just don't go back to see them.
The "universe" of escorting encompasses a whole spectrum of girls - some of them not so nice. However, i try to keep myself limited to the spectrum of ECCIE ladies who are doing it for the right reasons.
I know people call me a "White Knight" ... but my opinions are honestly mine and I don't fabricate them in order to get the girls to like me and give me good deals or freebies. In fact, I have never taken a freebie from a girl (non was ever offered) and I've never taken a "special" - and I always tip. I would rather hobby a bit less and pay more - because I genuinely believe, with few exceptions, that you get what you pay for.
When I show up for a date I just want the girl to make me feel like I'm her man for a few hours (and I always do multi-hour appointments because I don't like feeling constrained by the clock). There's more to sex involved in that - it's the talk, the way she looks at you or rubs your back when she's listening to your problems.
I believe that providers are the most liberated women in the world - and the smartest because they understand men and the whole male/female dynamic.
There's a girl that comes into the bar that I work in - she is not an escort but she wants my ass with a passion. However, she knows that, due to my circumstances, I can't commit to her and what she really needs is a man in her life - she'd be wasting time with me and I'm not about to take advantage of her. She's a single mom and she's running low on money because she's unemployed. I'd gladly PAY her to spend time with her - something I KNOW she'd like to do anyway - and it would help her with her house note and other bills.
But I'm not offering her money to do that because she'd get offended - and I think that is just plain silly. Women are a prize ... men are supposed to sacrifice something to be with them. If you can't offer them commitment - then monetary compensation for something that is really easy for them to do just seems completely logical to me and I don't know why "straight" girls have such a hangup about accepting this.
This is why I am so thankful for the enlightened women on ECCIE. They UNDERSTAND the lay of the land between men and women. Additionally, I just LOVE women and I love when they spend time with me - and I'm thankful there are girls that will do it with me. I don't think I'm that hot - I routinely see girls I think are way out of my league ... so I'm pretty lucky.
If this is what I believe ... then what's wrong with me SAYING it? I know for a fact that I'm not the only guy who feels this way - because I have spoken to providers who constantly talk about the wonderful guys they have as clients. Something about male egos though ... I guess a lot of us have a hard time expressing a "softness" here ... we have to, instead, say macho things like "find 'em, fuck 'em, forget 'em". I am not a smart guy ... but I am a big guy and when I walk into a room people know I OWN it. Because of this - I've just never felt that I needed to act really macho. Just ask April Cox - half the time I visit her I'm wearing a pink shirt with lime green crocs! LMAO!!
Add to that - the fact that the ECCIE ladies provide this service under the constant threat of LE - or abusive or violent clients. Add to that - the fact that any violence committed against a sex worker will be ignored by LE. These women do not enjoy equal protection under the law like the rest of us do - AND THAT IS FUCKING WRONG!!!!
So yeah, ECCIE ladies are SPECIAL and I'm thankful for that - and I want them to know their efforts are understood AND APPRECIATED.
MORE OF US GUYS SHOULD DO THIS. Yes, we thank them with the donation envelope - but it's still nice to let them hear it come from our lips or keyboards.