What am I doing wrong?

On a Tuesday, I saw a post in Provider Ads for a lady visiting T-W-Th that week. I sent her the following pm (mentioned in the ad as a way to contact her) Tuesday, then followed up with the same thing to her email (also mentioned in the ad) Wednesday morning since she hadn't been back on ECCIE to see the pm.

Hi! I'm <name>, and I would love to see you around 3 tomorrow or the day after. <local provider 1> (her showcase) and <local provider 2> (her showcase) will verify me.
You can text me at <my cell #> tonight, and text or call that number tomorrow starting at 7am.
I really hope we can get together. You look amazing and everything said about you on ECCIE is great.

Nothing. No call back, no pm, didn't even contact my referrals. She even posted another ad in the Weekend Lineup on Thursday, so it's not like she was already completely booked up.

Ladies, can you tell me what is so off-putting about the way I contacted her that she didn't give me any sort of reply? It's the third time in the last couple of months I've sent basically the same message to a provider and gotten nothing in return. I'm beginning to get a little paranoid.
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I also include my age, ht, wt, and ethnicity in my initial PM, but I'm not sure that's the missing link for you.

Have you tried sending a brief text after sending the PM? I will often send a text like "Hey this is luvinkdgrlz, I just sent u a PM on eccie/P411 w/ references. Hope we can meet sometime." That has always worked for me...

I was going to say that it could be that she had a lot of PM's and or e-mails and thought she had replied or somehow skipped over it. the e-mails could have gone to her spam folder as well. But then you mentioned you have had this happen with other providers.. I don't travel so Im not sure on how they do their references but IMO it might be that the 2 references you provided she didn't like or didn't want to bother contacting. It could also be she looked at your history with only 1 review and not many posts and didn't want to bother with it. Which she still could have sent back a reply letting you know something... I don't see anything wrong with the messages you sent.

I'm with queen on this, I don't think your message through any red flags. it could have very well been the references (didn't like the review they received, personal issues with the reviewers, you having a low amount of reviews, or maybe you're contacting tour girls and they're no longer in your town.) It could have been her off day on the day you requested the appointment. either way I think it would have been appreciated if you would have got some response.

I'm with queen on this, I don't think your message through any red flags. it could have very well been the references (didn't like the review they received, personal issues with the reviewers, you having a low amount of reviews, or maybe you're contacting tour girls and they're no longer in your town.) It could have been her off day on the day you requested the appointment. either way I think it would have been appreciated if you would have got some response. Originally Posted by Carlylov

Both of my references are happy to see me again, so I don't think that's it.

Maybe the 2 references you have are not trustworthy/reputable providers? Or maybe just providers the girls you are calling have not heard of? Either way they should message you back and let you know what the problem is. That isn't right, and your messages seem fine, hun!

Another thought that comes to mind on this is prebooking. I have seen ads where they require you to prebook and won't take same day appointments, or appointments after they have reached town. As for the whole not contacting you back brings to mind that they are just flakes and you saved yourself some money by not seeing them. In that case go see one of the girls that you have already seen and have a good time with her.

His references were both great. One returned very quickly and she had seen him multiple occasions. I was also still waiting for the 2nd, as I require 2. (And not being locked out of car and house.) As long as the reference is positive, there would be no issue.
He also sent his stats on request!

I think you are doing well! Little patience will pay off!

knight I know what you mean I thought I was set up to meet someone thursday afternoon I sent a pm to confirm our meeting she read it but never replied. So I sent another one asking if I had did something wrong or if I had a bad name or what ever so I could fix the problem but never have heard back!

Call another lady, they have no love for a respectful client.... They are merely looking for fast money and you most likely didn't fit into their availability time frame. Your pm sounded respectful enough to me...enough, that I would reply to you either way. Dont fret on it, call ANOTHER beautiful lady sweetheart.

knight I know what you mean I thought I was set up to meet someone thursday afternoon I sent a pm to confirm our meeting she read it but never replied. So I sent another one asking if I had did something wrong or if I had a bad name or what ever so I could fix the problem but never have heard back! Originally Posted by Highwayman 10

Same thing happened to me yesterday. Had an 1130 appt with a known provider coordinated 2 days prior. She asked that I call an hour beforehand. I did. No response. I called again 30 minutes prior. Still Nada. In my book that's just plain rude. If u need to cancel then say so but don't make me drive 45 minutes and stand me up. What happened to common courtesy these days?

Sorry to hear your problems, been there myself. Listen to Gemma's advise, seek another provider, the one's that don't respond or stand you up, aren't worth the effort. There are many great providers out there, don't obsess over the flakes.

Same thing happened to me yesterday. Had an 1130 appt with a known provider coordinated 2 days prior. She asked that I call an hour beforehand. I did. No response. I called again 30 minutes prior. Still Nada. In my book that's just plain rude. If u need to cancel then say so but don't make me drive 45 minutes and stand me up. What happened to common courtesy these days? Originally Posted by Cumslinger

Sadly ,common courtesy isn't so common these days.

Should there be a Thread or Tab, about Providers that NCNS so we the Client can keep track.
Isn't this all about Business, and Service.
I think what the biggest issue is over booking, or taking the first client that shows up, even through the provider had the client booked, made contact earlier and confirmed.
Then some other client calls maybe a Reg. client, and she get's him right in, of the new client pulling into the parking lot.
So the call is made and Nothing... wait 15 or 30 minutes, try again, and nothing...
The provider never calls or returns any message. To give a reason why this happened. things happen we all now. BUT BUT Nothing.... this should tell us a lot about the Provider and how the meeting will go. (rushed, done, get off me and get out, where's my tip)
Then we get threads about how slow the hobby is going, or they can't get clients.
I feel very strongly that we need a Tab or Accountability for NCNS, or Dumped in the parking lot.

No need for a tab when we have you sir.