A quick google gave this definition of messy:
1.
untidy or dirty.
"his messy hair"
synonyms: dirty, filthy, grubby, soiled, grimy, begrimed;
2.
(of a situation) confused and difficult to deal with.
"a messy divorce"
synonyms: chaotic, convoluted, complex, intricate, tangled, tortuous, confused, confusing, difficult;
My question is whether OH is messy, under the second definition.
Is she "chaotic, convoluted, complex, intricate, tangled, tortuous, confused, confusing, difficult"
Of course, many of these traits may be considered delightful and enticing. There is no attraction in a dull predictable female.