Who charges differently for kink?

I posted a question along these lines in Houston, but wanted a more general feel of the consensus.


If you enjoy certain fetishes, which are you willing to pay/charge more for-and which are part of standard rate?


As of now, my time is my time regardless of activity. This works for me-but for more exotic/risky services, there may be an upgrade. This is all in the thinking stage at the moment!

Thanks for any input!
Xo,
Viola

I figure if it feels good and all are enjoying it....no need to add any extra donation.

Ms Dallas Rain rules. She is what the hobby is about and I wish all providers followed her around. You might learn a lot about having years of success in the business.

IMHO what ever a lady advertises for a given donation should be available for the requested/agreed upon donation. For example if a lady lists "greek" as being on her menu for XX amount per visit then this should be available during the visit if the client so desires this "kink", so to speak.

I have visited ladies before that advertise this, greek, as being available but when the time came, I donate at the beginning of the visit, they have told me, "oh no that is extra". I only bring what the lady advertises as her donation because of the possibility of ummmm possible ummmm "management/rip off" problems, so I don't have the "extra" required to enjoy what she advertises. IMHO this is akin to upselling in a way.

Basically what I am saying is decide what you are willing to do and set your donation to cover the everything you are willing to offer....or set your donation for the basic "GFE" you offer then list the "extras" you offer with the expected donation you expect. Let the client know well ahead of time all the specifics about the visit so he can be properly prepared for what he wants and you will both be happy when you part company...just me .02 worth.

Its all about having a good time and feeding me your cock.....Why would I upsell for something that I soo adore doing. Better to have a set rate then have someone guess at what is up for grabs and for what cost...........

I have 2 different kinds of dates, a regular vanilla date and a kink date, it's very plainly advertised. The extra is consideration because being a sub in extreme circumstances is hard and wears on your body(need more recoup time and some extra prep time before for greek).

I do not charge per item or activity fees, it's a blanket separation between GFE or PSE.

I understand why some people just do for time, but the things I offer make my time more valuable(to me) but at the same time take me out of the regular vanilla guys price range.

As many other people will say, it's whatever the lady is comfy with, just make sure the guys know quite clearly what they are getting, no surprises.

I figure if it feels good and all are enjoying it....no need to add any extra donation. Originally Posted by DallasRain

i agree as well. im greatful for my providers who are open to and wont charge extra for bdsm, roleplays, candlewax, pain inducement, food play, rough sex, etc. those are the providers i tend to see for my return visits.

but one thing i do understand an added donation for is greek: if were gonna mess around back there, the provider who is going to charge me extra better make sure she prepares, ive dealth with chocolate surprises with one provider twice and it was funny yeah but still gross.

i dont consider greek a fetish, but its something i understand an extra donation for and it frequently comes with an upsell for good reason.

Very well said DallasRain, its about time and joy....Also the fact that 2 people sharing a similiar though different non vanilla scene can really be amazing and allow great chemistry...

I can not imagine up selling for "kink" especially as it is what I really crave. If one of my clients asked for wax play, or really got into giving me a beating, I would be overjoyed! Needleplay would be extra in way though, as I really would need a longer time for true aftercare.

I can not imagine up selling for "kink" especially as it is what I really crave. If one of my clients asked for wax play, or really got into giving me a beating, I would be overjoyed! Needleplay would be extra in way though, as I really would need a longer time for true aftercare. Originally Posted by badbadgirl2013

Surely you jest about allowing an upcharge for blood play in the hobby. Private personal relations and limits should be quite different than mass availability......

I don't upcharge for different activities but IF I were going to do hard play and be submissive? Oh, I would charge prime rates. Especially with what I've observed with all of that. But I do not offer submissive play, not officially.

Otherwise, a little hair pulling or butt smacking just feels good while you're in the moment.

I've never considered charging different rates. As a very experimental type anyway, it just adds a little something.

Doing alternative play is more expensive, for us, in other ways, though.

I do spend a lot of money making sure that I have new anal toys, different lubes, handcuffs, good shibari rope, canes, floggers, fuzzy blankets to feel good when covering someone up ... just a lot of different costs associated with kink appointments.

I considered a different rate and a lot of ladies do that. I guess with such a glutted market, I like the fact that I offer an affordable time with a lot of options.

But that's just me.

If I had to do it over, I might reconsider my rates. But only if I created a completely different personae for the one. It would be too confusing for my client base to offer two sets of rates for "elisabeth" and with it only being determined by activities.

You're paying for my time when you're with me.

Really good topic. Thanks!

Sincerely,
Elisabeth

quote--You're paying for my time when you're with me.

amen!

Well... there is a difference between GFE and PSE.... PSE comes at a premium. Porn stars make a lot more than your average girlfriend imho

Personally I have 2 rates that I believe is fair. There is submission and then there is BDSM. Which can and will take a lot of preparation and total tranquility of the mind. Aleast for me it does. It is something I enjoy,as it is a personal kink of mine.Although it doesnt at all mean that it is easy, in any way, shape, or form. After experiencing an anal hook in my backside and nipples being pulled to extreme, this type of play is not for everyone. There is flogging,caning,ect. An extra fee is not because I am working for the sale, it is because this type of play is dangerous in certain aspects and it is not for everyone. BDSM sets a different standard than my normal GFE/PSE sessions. WALDT and I love that there is a market for such things. I appreciate anyones opinion. Love the topic

BTW-- Dallas Rain.. I'm loving the avatar!!