Middle aged gentlemen

I have to admit it. When I look in the mirror these days, I see an image which more resembles my father than the me I was in my 20s or even 30s. It's weird. I am still nice looking FOR A GUY MY AGE. I'm still fit FOR A GUY MY AGE. I hear that shit all the time. Sucks, but it is what it is.

So, occasionally I like to hobby and some of the younger ladies might catch my eye. Many of them have tattoos nowadays, which isn't my cup of tea but I don't hate it either. It just is but it reminds me of the generation gap.

So I'm almost afraid to contact any of these ladies for fear that when they see me they also will be seeing a "father" image which probably doesn't do much for them. And no, I am not the kind of guy who can just say, screw them, this is all about me. I like both people to feel comfortable and have a good time.

Am I alone with these feelings? Am I overanalyzing stuff? Am I just bored right now and felt like posting something?

I think you are overanalyzing things. A lot of the younger women enjoy us slightly older guys or do a good job of faking it. If you notice, some of them specifically don't want to see younger guys. I can't explain it, but I certainly can enjoy it.

I think it's because when we are older we are more depenable and less likely to cause drama. Drama can come in all shapes and sizes, from wanting porn experience, pounding away or the other end - falling in love. Besides LE I would think they are most afraid of the two extremes - 1. Rip offs or violent hobbiest and, 2. Fall in love and/or become a stalker. I think us older gentlemen have a much less likely chance of fitting into those catagories. Remember it's a business. If they get paid and there is no drama from us plus it stays as a business transaction with the illusion of GFE then everyone leaves happy. Just my opinion, but it's based on what various providers have told me over the years.

I agree with I think you are overanalyzing. I myself love gents with that are older than I. I find the older gents to be more experienced, relaxed and about enjoying the momemnt! Also good convo as well

I have seen younger gents and don't mind them either, at least not the ones I have met. They have been pretty mature and very nice.

Just relax I am sure know one is looking at you as a father figure, I think 80% of the guys that hobby are mid 30's and over. Just my 2cents

I have to admit it. When I look in the mirror these days, I see an image which more resembles my father than the me I was in my 20s or even 30s. It's weird. I am still nice looking FOR A GUY MY AGE. I'm still fit FOR A GUY MY AGE. I hear that shit all the time. Sucks, but it is what it is.

So, occasionally I like to hobby and some of the younger ladies might catch my eye. Many of them have tattoos nowadays, which isn't my cup of tea but I don't hate it either. It just is but it reminds me of the generation gap.

So I'm almost afraid to contact any of these ladies for fear that when they see me they also will be seeing a "father" image which probably doesn't do much for them. And no, I am not the kind of guy who can just say, screw them, this is all about me. I like both people to feel comfortable and have a good time.

Am I alone with these feelings? Am I overanalyzing stuff? Am I just bored right now and felt like posting something? Originally Posted by barneyrubble

Yes you are!

Now, as to whether those young girls will see you as a father figure.
Honestly, I doubt it, Barney. You don't want me to state the obvious so I won't.

But I wouldn't worry so much about the generation gap. If you find a young girl that appeals to you. Then go see her.
However, if it bothers you more times than often. Then perhaps the young girls aren't meant for you to enjoy.
Don't over think it!

You make good points 1trvlman. They may also like that many of us are normally biologically limited to only one shot on goal. ;-)

I think it's because when we are older we are more depenable and less likely to cause drama. Drama can come in all shapes and sizes, from wanting porn experience, pounding away or the other end - falling in love. Besides LE I would think they are most afraid of the two extremes - 1. Rip offs or violent hobbiest and, 2. Fall in love and/or become a stalker. I think us older gentlemen have a much less likely chance of fitting into those catagories. Remember it's a business. If they get paid and there is no drama from us plus it stays as a business transaction with the illusion of GFE then everyone leaves happy. Just my opinion, but it's based on what various providers have told me over the years. Originally Posted by 1trvlman

I disagree with that statement.
The majority of *mature* gentlemen from 40 on up make up a great portion of the hobby land. (not saying all). But a good portion.
And those of us whom have experienced stalkers & trouble makers.
Have been from men of an older age.

In fact many men of an older age, tend to prey on the young providers. Some do in a fashion that comes across as threatening & controlling.

So unless your in a providers shoes. I wouldn't be too quick to state that the men of a mature age are less likely to do the above mentioned acts against women. As that would be incorrect.

I am in my "prime" at 68 ! In the last 10 days, I have had coitus or DATY with young ladies aged 18, 20, 25, 26, and 30. WHO SAYS YOU ARE DEAD WHEN PAST 60 ?? (thank God for Viagra!)

I really don't think about it a lot. Was really wondering more if anyone else had these thoughts.
I appreciate all the responses.

I think the getting older thing is just hitting me lately more than it used to. Cycle of life and all that. I am a deep thinking dude. LOL.

I think the getting older thing is just hitting me lately more than it used to. Cycle of life and all that. I am a deep thinking dude. LOL. Originally Posted by barneyrubble

Ask yourself one question.

Be it in or out of the hobby.

Who makes you feel more like a desirable man?
Young girls or *mature* women?

I feel the same Barny....I am 40, and just not sure of the young girls anymore, for me it is the full GFE the younger ones seem to be in it for the quick cash or one and done now get out.

I couldn't agree more! I don't even see guys under 30 for those very reasons!

I think it's because when we are older we are more depenable and less likely to cause drama. Drama can come in all shapes and sizes, from wanting porn experience, pounding away or the other end - falling in love. Besides LE I would think they are most afraid of the two extremes - 1. Rip offs or violent hobbiest and, 2. Fall in love and/or become a stalker. I think us older gentlemen have a much less likely chance of fitting into those catagories. Remember it's a business. If they get paid and there is no drama from us plus it stays as a business transaction with the illusion of GFE then everyone leaves happy. Just my opinion, but it's based on what various providers have told me over the years. Originally Posted by 1trvlman

I feel the same Barny....I am 40, and just not sure of the young girls anymore, for me it is the full GFE the younger ones seem to be in it for the quick cash or one and done now get out. Originally Posted by yogi692

Hey! Don't make sweeping generalizations! I have NEVER been accused of rushing anyone...

sorry brittany did not mean to generalize...... i should have said in my experience with the younger girls.

Heh, I have a hang-up about seeing a provider younger than my oldest child. Just can't go there.