Hobby related pet peeves

I had posted a question about pet peeves couple months back.

This one is for only hobby related pet peeves.


Mine is not getting any answer back when I send a PM from either ECCIE or P411.

I am a big boy I can take rejection.

DITTO.....72 hrs later still no answer or reply.....makes me think Im not wanted....but there are others

I will continue with the theme Bad communication....bad TCB skills in general

yeah, not answering Pms is annoying.

If you don't want to do a session or are down for anything with me just tell me "no thanks".

Reading other threads, I think that in some instances, the women don't want to appear to turn someone down without coming off as bruising an ego.

Heard too many stories where guys don't like that. Just a possibility.

Well guys I can tell you from seeing the process first hand, that some have a minimum of 100 pm's. They can spend 3-4 hours answering say 20 of them, stop because they are tired, then 30 minutes later they are back up to the original 100 pm's. Sometimes you have good luck and catch them while they are online and answer you right away, then other times it is buried with the other 99. But complaining about it on the boards just assures you that when your pm is finally read, you get declined or no answer at all. Catch 22

my main pet peeve is texting me on first initial contact.especially if you dont include your name or handle

Asking what my rate is *after* confirming a date
...i almost expect negotiation and/or a cancellation...
(I am aware my showcase and site are currently m.i.a. ..ask away!)

yea, understand about alot of pm's. From reading I see some send lots of pm's and wait for a response and either pick first one or cheapest. I personally don't do that. I contact one wait, if no response, send a sorry we missed each other and maybe next time and either wait till another time or try another provider.
I can understand a provider not wanting to bruise a hobbyist ego by saying no, some do act that way.

I'd rather
No thanks, I'm busy, tired, RW stuff, drunk, going partying, too many clients today, don't see guys your weight, don't like your online personas, real aunt flo.
(I've had provider's contact me days later apologize for not getting back to me, and can we arrange a different time, but they replied)

than
really badly made-up excuses, No reply, just silence

Well guys I can tell you from seeing the process first hand, that some have a minimum of 100 pm's. They can spend 3-4 hours answering say 20 of them, stop because they are tired, then 30 minutes later they are back up to the original 100 pm's. Sometimes you have good luck and catch them while they are online and answer you right away, then other times it is buried with the other 99. But complaining about it on the boards just assures you that when your pm is finally read, you get declined or no answer at all. Catch 22 Originally Posted by Cygnus X-1

Admittedly, this is something I do. Now, I do not get 100 PMs in a short amount of time. But I get quite a bit. And when you have to sort through the PMs picking out the gentlemen that want to see you weeks down the road, or the ones that have no references and are new but still message you it gets time consuming. I try to answer the gentlemen that want to see me the soonest and get them verified or anything else that needs to be done. But it is difficult for us ladies to sort through much of our messages in a short amount of time. Especially for the ones that have RW jobs, children or go to school. Patience is definitely a great thing for a hobbyist to have with us providers. Although I can see how it can get annoying when they do not answer you, EVER. I at least answer you, whether or not I'm going to see you.

my main pet peeve is texting me on first initial contact.especially if you dont include your name or handle Originally Posted by DallasRain

THAT is definitely very annoying. I have a message saved in my note pad for gentlemen that do this. It asks them to please contact me via PM with a physical description and references. I copy and paste it every time a gentleman does this. LoL!

Besides these two things, I can think of several pet peeves of mine.
1.) Gentlemen that try to haggle a lady's donation. Really?! Either wait until a later date when you can afford us, or wait until we have specials.
2.) When my ad CLEARLY states I am NOT Newbie friendly, yet gentlemen that joined 2 days ago with no posts, reviews or references STILL PM me asking if I will see them or make exceptions.
3.) Gentlemen that get mad at me and say rude and nasty things to me because I do not want to see them and tell them they didn't pass my screening.
4.) When a gentleman schedules a session with you days or weeks in advance, and you tell him you will contact him a few hours before the session on the DAY OF to confirm, yet he messages you a thousand times late the night before, or early the morning of, trying to confirm. Then when you contact him a few hours before the session (like you said you would) he tells you that he made other arrangements because you didn't answer earlier. I understand wanting to confirm the day of if you scheduled the session days or even weeks in advance. But, as I stated before, some of us ladies are in school, have RW jobs or have families to take care of and we cannot be online 24/7. This is why we tell you to contact us at a certain time, so to make sure we are online at that time as we said we would be.
5.) Bad hygiene.

These are only a few pet peeves of mine from experiences I've had in the hobby. I cannot wait to hear other's pet peeves.

SweetCara I'd have to say you have some valid complaints and presented them very clearly.

No one deals with rejection well, and not responding at all is a form of rejection. Personally I do a lot of silent rejection, I see a providers ad her pictures and just scroll down to the next one, aka instant rejection.

One thing I learned doing "semi pro rejection" holding tryouts for competitive level sports is that when some one tries out and they don't make the team, I never tell them why, just Sorry, you didn't make the team, thanks for trying out. Getting into the reasons caused a shit storm.

I've sent PM's and waited, but hey life is short if I didn't get a response in the time I expected it I moved on. I could call it a peeve that 4 months later she text me, "Are you ready", huh? who is she?

Peeve getting a text at 5 am that you are available all day. Couldn't she have waited till 6:30 am? or 9 after all she had all day!

Not being ready at the "time of appointment". This goes double for Doctors, if you doing 18 holes instead of 9 you shouldn't make all those appointments.

Making me wait in a Hotel Parking lot, well actually I never do I call from two block away, stupid is as stupid does.

Bad hygiene, yep, that dumpster behind the bait stand, never coming back.

no political discussion please. i dont want to know about your sentiments about obamacare, whether pro or con.

oh yeah and if you have a SO currently, dont tell me. i assume each of you ladies have one, but i dont want to be reminded. omg and in the past a provider told me an ex was stalking her and followed her to the apts where she had her incall

Messy, smelly incalls. Happened to me yesterday. Still had fun!

Not being ready at our confirmed scheduled time. Hasn't happened lately. Still had fun!

Provider wearing strong/too much perfume. Way too common. Still had fun, but had to take 2 or 3 showers before going home.

Pussy smells like a condom. Has happened more than once. Not so much fun!

Flakes.....
Queen Bee attitude.....
And of couse cleanliness

these are the big 3 for me

Late cancellations or no shows. Fortunately this has happened rarely for me. However, I'm a busy guy in real life and carving out several hours to travel to and enjoy an encounter affects not only me, but others in my professional circle. It's an absolute killer when a cancellation / NS happens.

Other stuff, which I've long since learned to avoid, include:

- Pets, family members, live ins, etc., hanging around the incall.
- Trashy incall
- Responding to calls/texts during the visit
- Feeling rushed as if in an assembly line
- Mechanical skills