Direction or Control

Stiffy008's Avatar
Question:
Do providers like to be forced controlled by the client, or take easy direction.
What would a provider do if a client grabbed her head while she was giving a BJ?
I, personally am more of a sensual GFE provider. I dont like rough sessions and I don't partake in them. I especially don't like to have my head pushed down during a bj. I might give a nice warning first time and inform him if it happens again, date is over. But realistically, if it happened again my other personality may take a stiletto to his inner thigh. *ooops*
I seriously doubt a provider would take kindly to being forced to do anything unless it was a prearranged fetish that was okayed with both parties.
lmao. Doing the bj head grab thing is a good way to determine if you've got a Natural Dom or a Natural Sub on your hands but wouldn't recommend on the first date unless she leads in to rougher stuff.
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I think it depends on how comfortable you are with one another... the more you see one another, the more comfortable you both get in exploring each others boundaries.
If a provider needs direction you need another provider. Tho if she is hitting the spot she needs to be told. Goes both ways if you are hitting the spot it is nice to be told.
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If a provider needs direction you need another provider. Tho if she is hitting the spot she needs to be told. Goes both ways if you are hitting the spot it is nice to be told. Originally Posted by i'va biggen
I've found that if I am hitting the right spot I can't hear what I'm being told.
If a provider needs direction you need another provider. Tho if she is hitting the spot she needs to be told. Goes both ways if you are hitting the spot it is nice to be told. Originally Posted by i'va biggen
Very true!!
I do not like when guys put their hands on my head while I'm giving a bj.

Please tell me why do some guys like to do that?
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I do not like when guys put their hands on my head while I'm giving a bj.

Please tell me why do some guys like to do that? Originally Posted by LeilaniBebe
I think it is a control thing... it feels so damn good that we don't want it to stop so we try to "hold on" to that sensation by holding your head...
That and watching to much porn thinking that ALL girls love it... smh
I think it is a control thing... it feels so damn good that we don't want it to stop so we try to "hold on" to that sensation by holding your head...
That and watching to much porn thinking that ALL girls love it... smh Originally Posted by ElumEno
Ahh ...now I understand...Thank you.
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Ahh ...now I understand...Thank you. Originally Posted by LeilaniBebe
Do I detect just a hint of the sarcasm font in your reply...
Do I detect just a hint of the sarcasm font in your reply... Originally Posted by ElumEno
I think if a provider likes it and is comfortable with you, she will let you know; in my experiences, a few, albeit very few, actually do; I had a first-time date with a provider in January; she told me light force and being restrained turned her on; by invitation only IMO.
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I do not like when guys put their hands on my head while I'm giving a bj.

Please tell me why do some guys like to do that? Originally Posted by LeilaniBebe
See, this is where I wish people could switch bodies like in the movies. Remember that really bad David Spade movie? Anyway, if you could be a guy getting a BJ for like 3 seconds a lightbulb would go off over your head like a goddamn exploding supernova. Holding her head feels way better.

Now let's be clear; there's a huge difference between firmly grabbing her head and force-feeding her your dick until she gags and gently placing your hand on her cheek so you can feel her soft warm face and her silky hair.

What you should be asking is why do some guys NOT grab your head while you're giving a BJ. That's because we're trying extra extra extra hard not to grab your head. Isn't that nice of us? Now you know.

If you want to get a special guy's attention, grab his hand and put it on your head. See how he reacts.