How do you talk to girls on Sugar dating site?

Should I go straight to the point if the girl wants ppm or allowance? Is it rude? I'm not good at conversation and haven't attempted to pick up any girl before

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Mine didn't work in this fashion, but I believe the generally accepted protocol is to set up a meet-and-greet over coffee or maybe dinner to determine compatibility and negotiate terms, with no expectations of intimacy on this "first date."

I do not think it's rude but I do believe that the approach is very important. Everyone has a different expectation and you do not want to be caught off guard.

Start with respectful conversation. Nobody wants to fuck a jerk. You need to get to the specifics quickly. This saves everyone involved time. It's safest to discuss specific details elsewhere. The site has some specific rules.

I suggest you say something they all love to hear like...

Hey I'm a human wallet and walking ATM machine. When can you come over so you can drain my balls and take all of my money and then ignore me until my next paycheck?

I like to be subtle, discrete and not so outgoing or obvious until she's emptied out my bank account, robbed me or slashed my tires. Good times for sure!

My experience was the women were pretty up front with what they were there for. I'd like a few profiles and get flooded with messages

1. dont discuss ppm, sex acts for money, etc while messaging on any sugar site ... unless you wanna (possibly) get banned from tge site.

2. ask her to go to texts or email or phone calls to discuss amt for your visits.

3. once on the other comm channel, dont discuss sex acts for money ... unless you wanna up the risk of getting busted for solicitation.

Always get their number first then you can discuss off the site. How can you honestly offer a allowance without know anything about them? Start off with a PPM then see how things go. After seeing each other a few times both of you will know if you want to keep this going. At that point that is when i would bring up and potential changes either one of you are needing and come to agreement and change to a allowance. Everyone wants and needs are different but communication is the key.

Start with respectful conversation. Nobody wants to fuck a jerk. Originally Posted by slowmover

I disagree...For example look at the epidemic and dysfunction of all the single moms, hookers and skeezers that have between 2 to 6 baby daddy's. They love losers and jerks and loathe, use and dispise nice guys. But you do you.

I disagree...For example look at the epidemic and dysfunction of all the single moms, hookers and skeezers that have between 2 to 6 baby daddy's. They love losers and jerks and loathe, use and dispise nice guys. But you do you. Originally Posted by Vanilla Gorilla

Sir, this is a Wendy's

Should I go straight to the point if the girl wants ppm or allowance? Is it rude? I'm not good at conversation and haven't attempted to pick up any girl before Originally Posted by Bruce01

Well first thing, Seeking will ban you if you bring up PPM or any kind of money or "hooker language" and they monitor private chats too apparently with some AI tools. I suspect this is for legal liability.

SugardaddyMeet is much more lenient about asking a girl if she's open to PPM (heck, some of the girls profiles even say they're looking for it) or talk amounts in chat, it's lot less restrictive than Seeking.

But yes, bottom line is just talk to them like you would a regular girl on a dating site, both of you know why you're on the site, but you're not ordering up a girl on Tryst, so go with gentleman mode and if she asks what your expectations are, just give her a number and say you prefer to start with a gift each meeting and see what she comes back with.

Ideally you want to move the conversation off the app pretty early. I usually offer my WhatsApp/Snap/phone/etc. and give her the option to use that.

This might be helpful too:
https://sugardaddysuccess.com/sugard...uys-5-minutes/

Beware: I got an anonymous text from someone who had matched my Seeking profile with my RW ID somehow. I don't know how -- possible some AI facial recognition software. as I never used pics on Seeking that I had posted anywhere. The text had my name, my wife's name, and screen shots of her and my SB profiles, and threatened disclosure unless I paid some money.


(Funny thing is, I've never used my Seeking profile to meet anyone. I set it up when the SB kicked me to the curb but only lately have decided to banish the past and move forward, and I never got any decent hits, though a lot came for out of state or out of country.)

Beware: I got an anonymous text from someone who had matched my Seeking profile with my RW ID somehow. I don't know how -- possible some AI facial recognition software. as I never used pics on Seeking that I had posted anywhere. The text had my name, my wife's name, and screen shots of her and my SB profiles, and threatened disclosure unless I paid some money.


(Funny thing is, I've never used my Seeking profile to meet anyone. I set it up when the SB kicked me to the curb but only lately have decided to banish the past and move forward, and I never got any decent hits, though a lot came for out of state or out of country.) Originally Posted by Sir Lancehernot

You posted the exact same thing in another forum. Did it ever get resolved?

Should I go straight to the point if the girl wants ppm or allowance? Is it rude? I'm not good at conversation and haven't attempted to pick up any girl before Originally Posted by Bruce01

definitely check out the sugar daddy forum here
https://www.eccie.net/showpost.php?p...&postcount=530

Get them off the site to texting as fast as possible. You don't have to say PPM or Allowance...ask "what is your expectation"? You can refer to cash as 'donation'. Never say sex for cash....
"haven't attempted to pick up any girl before"
you're going to have to explain that statement

If you're using a website to 'meet', then you have to be careful with the language you use or get banned/censored.
The key for the sugar sites, is WE AREN'T DATING...i'm not trying to impress you, i'm not going out for coffee, i'm not taking you to dinner... If you're my BABY, then, yes....I spoil the shit out of you. However, there is no shortage of girls of all ages that are broke and willing to please a man for some cash. I am not trying to spoon a 35 yo mother of 3 off a seeking site so I can pay her cash to meet me. no way.

Beware: I got an anonymous text from someone who had matched my Seeking profile with my RW ID somehow. I don't know how -- possible some AI facial recognition software. as I never used pics on Seeking that I had posted anywhere. The text had my name, my wife's name, and screen shots of her and my SB profiles, and threatened disclosure unless I paid some money.


(Funny thing is, I've never used my Seeking profile to meet anyone. I set it up when the SB kicked me to the curb but only lately have decided to banish the past and move forward, and I never got any decent hits, though a lot came for out of state or out of country.) Originally Posted by Sir Lancehernot

call their bluff. I would get these texts from time to time from "THE CARTEL" threatening to kill me and my family because i wasted one of their "girls" time. lol....they wont do shit