A question for the guys

It's never happened to me. What HAS happened, is I have contacted 2 or 3 ladies trying to set something up. I finally got things sorted out with one and was on my way when provider #2 contacts me and agrees to a session. I informed her that she was too late and that I was on my way to provider #1. Provider #2 tries to get me to cancel on Provider #1 and come see her instead. I don't play that way. If I set a session I do all in my power to keep it, even if offered a discount. I don't like being stood up and I won't do it to someone else … PERIOD! I think in 20+ years of hobbying I have only canceled 2 or 3 sessions due to unavoidable circumstances: Automobile accident (it does and did happen), daughter went into labor with grand baby (there are some things more important) and I don't remember the other.

I have a list of a few ladies who I know in fact don't return reference requests or always say I can't remember etc when they just saw the guy a week or two ago. Originally Posted by Britttany_love

I wonder if your list matches my list, lol.

Any provider on here knows that I will give a reference in record time. So it pisses me off to find out that others are pulling this shit.

The only issue I’ve had with giving references are dudes that are trying to use me as a ref when they saw me prior to August of 2015.

my problem is i never know when im going to have free time so i dont plan in adbance. So ill post something in the ISO section and a couple days later ill get 3 or 4 ladies sending me PM's

If i say im looking for this afternoon that doesnt mean 2 days from now.
and if i say im looking for south that doesnt mean parmer and mopac

Amusing read. Claire has again brought up an interesting tcb item.

I've never been offered a discount to try prevent me seeing someone else.
But, once upon a time ago, a gal got an attitude of: "maybe I won't see you again if you see xxx".
I said: "Ok, I guess you're stepping away from my dance card". And went communications silent with her.
Several weeks later she actually apologized and made dinner for us.

If a provider gives me a good reference I'm more likely to repeat with her and tip on my next visit. Sometimes I even schedule a repeat so I am fresh in her memory when I use her as a reference. This isn't a game where you can "corner the market." Variety, respect and honesty.

If a provider gives me a good reference I'm more likely to repeat with her and tip on my next visit. Sometimes I even schedule a repeat so I am fresh in her memory when I use her as a reference. This isn't a game where you can "corner the market." Variety, respect and honesty. Originally Posted by Azaezel

Yes sir

One lady offered to pay lady wanting a reference to see me. Does that count?

Why not just start a thread in the ladies area and everytime you have an appointment post if he's ok?

Say you just had an appointment with Joeblow you could put.

Hr appointment with Joeblow, with good or bad after his name.

Then you could just search that thread when you need to screen. You can go off the time/date on the post and the providers rep to see if more screening is necessary.

Excellent idea. And at the same time you can streamline reviews to NAME, DATE, YES/NO.

Think how much time that would save.

There are a few ladies who are known for this behavior in Dallas... most of them gone now.

The only comical memory I have is a gent who scheduled with me for FBSM. About 5 minutes prior to his appointment, he calls me and says "Lady _____ will see me for $100--" I inform him that clearly he can get a much better deal with Lady _______ and should plan on going to see her and I politely say goodbye and hang up. He calls back almost immediately and says "Well, I'm already here and I really thought you'd just see me for the $100 rate". I informed him that he thought wrong and that he should hurry up and call that other lady back and get that great deal, because I wouldn't be seeing him.

I'm sure there are some ladies who really need the cash who would fall for that... dude obviously read the E-book by that guy who advertises that method in the pop up ads here. But me.. I prefer guys who don't try to finagle a deal. I'm generous to those I've seen before but I'm not inclined to wheel and deal with an unknown person.

This thread really makes me glad I joined P411. It also makes me wonder why more ladies don't offer a discount for guys who use it for screening since it would completely avoid this situation.

There are a few ladies who are known for this behavior in Dallas... most of them gone now.

The only comical memory I have is a gent who scheduled with me for FBSM. About 5 minutes prior to his appointment, he calls me and says "Lady _____ will see me for $100--" I inform him that clearly he can get a much better deal with Lady _______ and should plan on going to see her and I politely say goodbye and hang up. He calls back almost immediately and says "Well, I'm already here and I really thought you'd just see me for the $100 rate". I informed him that he thought wrong and that he should hurry up and call that other lady back and get that great deal, because I wouldn't be seeing him.

I'm sure there are some ladies who really need the cash who would fall for that... dude obviously read the E-book by that guy who advertises that method in the pop up ads here. But me.. I prefer guys who don't try to finagle a deal. I'm generous to those I've seen before but I'm not inclined to wheel and deal with an unknown person. Originally Posted by Grace Preston

I love it!

It is pretty much implied that reference request are not a 100% for anything.

I have been lucky, that yes with variety also comes taste in the business ethics, which as much as it maybe fun to hobby. For many it is still a business.

Safety is always first.

I would hope one is providing a reference to someone who knows that you like the change, and many time the reference is a repeat so there is no worries on her end. (Everyone takes time off, overbooks, is not in mood, is on the down low.. or whatever) I can get of topic really quick on other issue but will save that for another time.

Maybe this helps you, ... a Little? PM let me know have great week.

Never happened. Though if it did I wouldn’t accept.

That tells us that you saw ladies, that doesn't tell us how you behaved with said ladies. If someone contacts me and asks me to check his reviews-- I'm always going to ask which of his reviewed ladies he'd prefer I contact for a reference. Simply because, we all know some ladies are a bit nutty about being contacted. Originally Posted by Grace Preston

Exactly how i feel about it!