Is having a relationship hard as a provider?

date a hobbyist, that way everyone knows everythihng. find one you click with and work it together. No matter what you do, you are a Lady and deserve to be treated as such!!! Anyone want to flame-on, go for it, can"t hurt my feelings. It is just a casual thing and the company would probably make both people happy!!! A lot of men would love someone to talk to and spend some quiet time relaxing...

I'm sorry Val I did not know we had so many ladies here in great relationships who's partners know they suck dick for cash. I've seen plenty of guys come on here and say they are married to a provider but they always say she stopped providing services when they got together. That is hard enough to date a former provider, but to date a girl that currently sucks dick for cash... I'm gonna stick with my loser or pimp idea. Maybe in England it's ok for your wife to be a whore, but here in the Great State of Texas we don't play that shit. Unless you're a pimp or maybe a loser. Originally Posted by trey

As I said.. Narrow-minded... To be able to have a relationship in this industry you need to have a mentality than can see past and goes deeper than "My misses sucks dicks for cash holy shit"

So should the same be said for porn performers who are in relationships? Technically their partners are having sex for money, so are all of them either pimps or losers as well?? ...No, they aren't.

Being so close minded and ignorant really is bliss for some...

I'm a bit confused! Aren't you married to wakeup? Trying to understand this board is impossible! Originally Posted by SensualSpecialist

Haha, no...

Being so close minded and ignorant really is bliss for some... Originally Posted by Valerie

Hate to break it to you, ....

.....but not wanting to be married to a hooker is not being ....

... "close minded and ignorant" .... and the hooker who thinks so ... is ....

"close minded and ignorant" herself. That's your lifestyle ... and you have to select a companion who is compatible with that lifestyle......

... even us hill-billy Texas boys no better than that!

Hate to break it to you, ....

.....but not wanting to be married to a hooker is not being ....

... "close minded and ignorant" .... and the hooker who thinks so ... is ....

"close minded and ignorant" herself. Originally Posted by LexusLover

No, but thinking that anyone who does or is is automatically either a pimp or a loser, is ignorant...Very ignorant.

Where's Marie anyways? She met my partner last time I was in Houston, I would be shocked if she says he came across as a loser let alone a pimp.

No, but thinking that anyone who does or is is either a pimp or a loser, is ignorant...Very ignorant. Originally Posted by Valerie

I agree.

Touting the extremes at either end of the spectrum is ... well ... out of touch.

In the final analysis it depends on what one wants from a long-term relationship.

When breakup rates are higher than 50% on the first ride out of the chute ... one needs all the stars lined up as close as possible to their expectations...to last the ride for any decent period of time. There are certain choices people make early on that taint their future opportunities and distort their view .. just like a tattoo.

It ain't gonna rub off and there always seems to be a "shadow" of a scar.

As I said.. Narrow-minded... To be able to have a relationship in this industry you need to have a mentality than can see past and goes deeper than "My misses sucks dicks for cash holy shit"

So should the same be said for porn performers who are in relationships? Technically their partners are having sex for money, so are all of them either pimps or losers as well?? ...No, they aren't.

Being so close minded and ignorant really is bliss for some... Originally Posted by Valerie

I have to agree with Valerie. Narrow minded is the problem. Many porn stars have husbands and their husbands are proud of them. In no way am I comparing myself to a LA porn star but hey they get paid to fuck too. I am really good friends with Dee Siren , She was on the board as well as in porn and her husband loves her dearly! Idk maybe I should move to the UK

Whatever makes you ladies feel better is ok with me. Guess I'm narrow minded because I don't want a hooker as my SO lol! You should really ask yourself do you want a man that's ok with you being a hooker? I want more of my partner then that, I expect and deserve more and would do anything to prevent that. Any man that is ok with that to me is a loser. But I'm not a hooker looking for love, everyone needs hope I guess.

You should really ask yourself do you want a man that's ok with you being a hooker? I want more of my partner then that, I expect and deserve more and would do anything to prevent that. Any man that is ok with that to me is a loser. But I'm not a hooker looking for love, everyone needs hope I guess. Originally Posted by trey

So basically we should ask ourselves if we really want someone who could love us for being the horrible little jezebels that we are? And then judge that person for being open-minded enough to look past that and see the bigger picture, because who in their right mind could possibly love us right?

Not only are you narrow-minded, but also deluded...But hey, enjoy living in your bubble!

So basically we should ask ourselves if we really want someone who could love us for being the horrible little jezebels that we are? And then judge that person for being open-minded enough to look past that and see the bigger picture, because who in their right mind could possibly love us right? Originally Posted by Valerie

Exactly! Now you get it! When you stop being a hooker is when you look for a man.

Exactly! Now you get it! When you stop being a hooker is when you look for a man. Originally Posted by trey

Too daft to understand my sarcasm eh? I don't get any of your non-sense mate

No, but thinking that anyone who does or is is automatically either a pimp or a loser, is ignorant...Very ignorant.

Where's Marie anyways? She met my partner last time I was in Houston, I would be shocked if she says he came across as a loser let alone a pimp. Originally Posted by Valerie

I'm right here hunny Yes, Val's hubby was great and seemed very supportive of her. She and I had stayed up chatting after a duo session we did together, and she invited him to come by since her day was over. I could tell that he was just happy to see her without any judgement for what we had just finished doing. We even chatted a bit about the good experience and he was glad to know all went well. There was nothing "loser or pimp" about him. I also had the honor of seeing them interact as parents together. They really are a very down to earth, loving, and supportive couple/family. There was nothing different about them from one happy couple to the next, except that their openness with one another is a step above most couples I've met in the civi world. Her hubby is not in the adult industry either. He is a competent professional with his own successful career.

It's hard to explain how it's possible for a woman to be fantastic in the industry but still be able to maintain her professionalism and be able to separate work from home, but many people in life do the same thing every day in their own professions, lest they go crazy. Compartmentalization is a skill that the human mind is very capable of, and in the case of people in this industry, we learn to master it.

Yes, I agree it takes a very secure man to be in a relationship with a provider and be okay, even encouraging of them, but they DO EXIST. I can attest to that personally.

Whatever makes you ladies feel better is ok with me. Guess I'm narrow minded because I don't want a hooker as my SO lol! You should really ask yourself do you want a man that's ok with you being a hooker? I want more of my partner then that, I expect and deserve more and would do anything to prevent that. Any man that is ok with that to me is a loser. But I'm not a hooker looking for love, everyone needs hope I guess. Originally Posted by trey

Not wanting to be in a relationship with a provider isn't narrow minded. Everyone has their limits. Thinking that people who are in relationships with providers (and are accepting of it) are losers or pimps is the narrow minded part.

I'd also be curious to hear your opinion on couples that swing (since logistically that's not far from sex work in that you're still having sex outside the relationship, just not getting paid for it) or on women who are in relationships with male sex workers.

Are you ok with our fellow hobbyists who are cheating on significant others?

Do what every married couple does.
Lie.

I'm right here hunny Yes, Val's hubby was great and seemed very supportive of her. She and I had stayed up chatting after a duo session we did together, and she invited him to come by since her day was over. I could tell that he was just happy to see her without any judgement for what we had just finished doing. We even chatted a bit about the good experience and he was glad to know all went well. There was nothing "loser or pimp" about him. I also had the honor of seeing them interact as parents together. They really are a very down to earth, loving, and supportive couple/family. There was nothing different about them from one happy couple to the next, except that their openness with one another is a step above most couples I've met in the civi world. Her hubby is not in the adult industry either. He is a competent professional with his own successful career.

It's hard to explain how it's possible for a woman to be fantastic in the industry but still be able to maintain her professionalism and be able to separate work from home, but many people in life do the same thing every day in their own professions, lest they go crazy. Compartmentalization is a skill that the human mind is very capable of, and in the case of people in this industry, we learn to master it.

Yes, I agree it takes a very secure man to be in a relationship with a provider and be okay, even encouraging of them, but they DO EXIST. I can attest to that personally. Originally Posted by YummyMarie

Well said : )