Is having a relationship hard as a provider?

Whatever makes you ladies feel better is ok with me. Guess I'm narrow minded because I don't want a hooker as my SO lol! You should really ask yourself do you want a man that's ok with you being a hooker? I want more of my partner then that, I expect and deserve more and would do anything to prevent that. Any man that is ok with that to me is a loser. But I'm not a hooker looking for love, everyone needs hope I guess. Originally Posted by trey

Trey forgive me in advance, Darling what's good for the goose is good for the gander! What SO wants a hobbyist as a SO. He runs around town spending leisure money on BBBJ's ,Alot even DATY of a provider then go home and kiss thier wife and kids with the same mouth. SMH, Just really think about it really hard and put yourself in someone else's shoes for a chance. Being so narrowed minded is like the men that love DATY an BBBJ but doesn't want to kiss! grow up all our fluids have already mixed or go live in a bubble and in what society wants you to believe is a "great" relationship.I am just as human as you and just as caring I also take extreme good care of my health. So why wouldn't a provider make good as a companion?


Ps : If I give you a BBBJ hell yea I want to DFK your tonsils! Right Sharkman!

No SO wants a hobbyist as her mate duh. She would be stupid to accept such a thing. This proves my point as I don't want a girl that runs around giving bbbj to any guy with cash that can pass her screening. Your only option is to lie as one guy said, or find the guy that's ok hearing the tales of you fucking dudes for cash.

I think you're getting me wrong SS I never said you or anyone was a bad person. I don't think you're trash, but I do think you need to stop being a hooker to have a real relationship. IMO a man that would let his lady do it is not much of a man. This is my opinion, you don't have to aggree with me. You also won't change my mind.

The guy with the swinger question. I don't see this as the same thing at all. It's not a profession you don't get paid for it. And most times both parties are involved at the same time.

For purposes of the OP's questions and concerns it is not helpful to cite a specific instance, reported on this board of a relationship that is reportedly "working" with two specific individuals as a basis for advice for the OP .... ..

... the specific instance cited has a "wild card" in it ...

.... a third-party who may not be comfortable with the reality in the future.

When does the "rest of the family" find out?

As I opined before .. there are consequences for our decisions and those consequences are not limited to ourselves ... they limit our mates/spouses/SOs and our "other family members" ... siblings and offspring.

No SO wants a hobbyist as her mate duh. She would be stupid to accept such a thing. This proves my point as I don't want a girl that runs around giving bbbj to any guy with cash that can pass her screening. Your only option is to lie as one guy said, or find the guy that's ok hearing the tales of you fucking dudes for cash.

I think you're getting me wrong SS I never said you or anyone was a bad person. I don't think you're trash, but I do think you need to stop being a hooker to have a real relationship. IMO a man that would let his lady do it is not much of a man. This is my opinion, you don't have to aggree with me. You also won't change my mind.

The guy with the swinger question. I don't see this as the same thing at all. It's not a profession you don't get paid for it. And most times both parties are involved at the same time. Originally Posted by trey

"let his lady do it" - what if she actually likes her job? In any relationship you have the ultimate ability to leave if it's not working for you, but it's pretty shitty, imo, to try and dictate behavior of your partner (whether you're a man or a woman). Just like we like to say in Texas, if you don't like it - leave!

Regarding swinging: So the main factor for you is money? As long as someone's not getting paid for it, it's ok? You feel a guy who is ok with his girl going out and banging other dudes for free isn't a loser? To clarify, I don't think he is - if that works for them, then have at it, but I don't see much of a difference in the two situations just because of money being exchanged. Likewise, I don't see much of a difference where a guy is going out and banging other chicks for free (and his SO is ok with it) vs a guy going out and hobbying (and his SO is ok with it).

Not many if any will go for you being a hooker. Only a pimp or a loser would stand for it. Originally Posted by trey

This isnt true actually

Wonderful exchange of opinions. Glad the hobby can still express itself openly with grace and dignity, GB

I'm a bit confused! Aren't you married to wakeup? Trying to understand this board is impossible! Originally Posted by SensualSpecialist

Sweet girl, taint is the key to knowledge.

Just for the record, it wasn't me that Marie met that night...but I love my wife dearly, I honestly do. She's an outstanding woman, even if she is a bit needy from time to time...

Just for the record, it wasn't me that Marie met that night... Originally Posted by Wakeuр

Thank God. For a minute there I thought you had gone from Soldier to Nanny.

Thank God. For a minute there I thought you had gone from Soldier to Nanny. Originally Posted by rwksl

Speaking of Nanny... WU would actually make quite a good one, he was a natural the first time he met my daughter

Just for the record, what trey said is that...you are either a loser or a pimp.

....either a loser or a pimp (or a Nanny). Originally Posted by Sarunga

Fixed it.

Being a little judgemental without knowing all of the situation is not very bright.

Being a little judgemental without knowing all of the situation is not very bright. Originally Posted by pyramider

Disclosing any "of the situation" is less "bright" than "not very bright"!

Speaking of Nanny... WU would actually make quite a good one, he was a natural the first time he met my daughter Originally Posted by Valerie

I'm going to lose my rep here baby...