Married providers/hobbyists

How do you guys feel about being with a provider that is married? Does it affect your decision to see her?

And ladies? Do you prefer your gentlemen to be married or single?

I personally prefer married men (lol) I guess I think that the married hobbyists will come with less drama. Plus it kinda turns me on! Makes me feel like a naughty mistress

While I'm interested in the personal dynamics of such a relationship, I have no problems with what a provider does in her private life (provided she's not a cop or CI). I do have to admit to a certain level of discomfort when you go to an incall and there's a significant other at the location - I'm thinking in particular of the lady who used to provide haircuts (along with other activities).

I don't care about whether a hobbyist is married or not and if I was married, I wouldn't be doing this for a living. Lol

Lol I feel you on that gemma

If I were married I wouldn't be here either. As for providers being married... I don't care that is their business and I don't need to know one way or another.

I am married... that's why im here. If my date was married well that makes us even. I really don't care if she is married or not. but if I found one that was I probably would make her my regular just for the naughty factor.

Doesn't matter as long as it's separated in both cases. Sex doesn't necessarily equate with love or whatever the basis of the arrangement (yes, an obvious point), nor mean it is a reflection of lack of wanting the marital partner. The best I've heard it put was by a utr part time provider who wasn't necessarily in it or the money--'Why would you eat the same food at all times every day of the week your whole life?' Some would, but if they don't, so what. It can be an indication of other things in a relationship, but I'm responding with all things being equal and not reflecting on that.

Don't ask don't tell.

I am married... that's why im here. If my date was married well that makes us even. I really don't care if she is married or not. but if I found one that was I probably would make her my regular just for the naughty factor. Originally Posted by lookintoo1

Probably the best answer so far! Somebody give this man a gold star! I love it hehehe

i dont really care as long as he doesnt mind or doesnt find out. Makes the GFE experience a little better. After all it is a business transaction and if it doesnt interfer with the business at hand I am fine with it. Yea, I would feel uncomfortabel if her husband was in the other room. Probably better I just dont know. I agree with "dont ask, dont tell"

I agree.. Don't ask, don't tell both ways. There should always be a distinct line between pleasure and personal. A provider visit should be an escape from reality for both parties. I like the hobby in that matter. We can be anyone we want to be in a fantasy world with no personal inquisitions. The only time reality needs to be on the table is when the client or provider has never been verified. Once that's out of the way, party is ON!

Would take a different kind of man to let his mate escort. Unless he was lazy.

For the client, it is a choice that can be made with little pressure one way or another. But the provider can feel pressure to work because of economic reasons or from the significant other. That to me is the big difference. If she is happy to perform this services then I would be happy to procure them. If she feels trapped and that this is the only way she can make ends meet or to satisfy her partner, then I would not enjoy the transaction regardless of her exceptional techniques or talents in any area. I would prefer to think that she want to be there with me if only for the ultimate financial reward rather than she is feeling forced into performing the services. Guess I am a but if a romantic.

Would take a different kind of man to let his mate escort. Unless he was lazy. Originally Posted by i'va biggen

I noticed you used the word let. Do you think... in relationships... one person has the right to control or tell the other person what they can or can't do? At what point does allowing a person to make their own choices come into play? And from there, based upon the choices that person makes, deciding if personally you are willing to stick around?

Q1--not the right, but it's rarely that cut and dried. Q2--always have their choices, but those choices have consequences, intended or not, which answers Q3. Nothing but space happens in a vacuum.