As a hobbyist, part of the anticipation of the encounter is buying a gift to bring. But, sometimes it just doesn’t work out logistically. A pre paid gas card is alway easy to buy and carry around until the appointment.
On an overnight, out of town, one date ended with me bringing her to range where I gave her a few lessons with a couple of my handguns and one of my evil black rifles. It makes for wonderful memories.
The thoughfulness of Nicolet, not only giving me the gift, but cooking me lunch, provides something that brings a smile to my face today.
To answer your question, Lovely Siberia, I think that if you develop a relationship comfortable enough, birthdays, etc. are acceptable. It’ up to those involved and their comfort zones.
I still get gifts from a couple of you in the form of photos in my email. They include a few words, “Hey lover, I miss that bald head.” or “Thinking of you.” Now THAT is a great gift. To know that you singled me out and thought of me enough to send a photo and a sweet word. I’m sure some are comfortable with that and some aren’t.