My Swan Song

Some of you Upsetters are missing a couple key points...and I'm surprised you don't get it.

You blame the mods for not controlling your forums, yet when they control them the way you want, you bitch about censorship and locking threads.

Second, it takes two people for one of them to be upset. It takes someone to say something, and it takes another person to dislike it. Which would you rather control, the person who says it, or the person who dislikes it? In my experience, you need a moderator to change the first, but you only need yourself to change the second. A good moderator doesn't try to control their forum with infractions, they issue infractions for the rules they need to issue infractions for, and let the forum members set the tone for the rest.

If someone says something you don't like, ask yourself, why do I dislike it? And then ask yourself, should I post my dislike for it? If you answer the second question in the affirmative, you better realize that you're absolutely no different then the person who posted the thing you dislike.

This is the Interwebs...suck it up and deal... Originally Posted by Wakeup

OMG. I never thought I'll see the day when Wakeup was the voice of reason.

Shocking isn't it?

...when aholes speak hate and stupidity and the laugh along while decent providers and hobbyists disappear several months ago there were 104 showcases in wny now # is 80 thank... with hateful ignorant people... Ohwell maybe the haters are rights thanks guys Originally Posted by tinyisgreat

...I'm sure business hasn't been all that great lately, that can def make a person more hostile... Originally Posted by trisha.xxx .countrygirl

I’ve been on this Board for a few years now and, if memory serves, initially, I don’t remember this volume of hostility displayed toward one another when I first joined up. After the Great Recession, I began to notice a change – coincidence?

I’ve been mulling this over for quite some time and the above two posts have provided me the perfect segue to explore and, hopefully, solicit others’ insights.

Speaking for myself and, I’m almost certain, many others, the economy has affected us. Gone is my good paying job as I’m now – hopefully temporarily – relegated to working for “starvation wages”. Gone is my discretionary income, as I’m barely able to pay for the essentials.

Needless to say; I can’t afford to pay for the “companionship” of someone to ease my troubled mind, if only for an hour. I can’t afford the luxury of someone to talk to and share experiences with, both good and bad.

It runs deeper than merely “activities that took place” – a certain type of friendship has developed with a few of these “companions”. It’s only natural as they, oftentimes, share their joys and tribulations with me too. In an unconventional way, we become somewhat interconnected.

Anger, bitterness, remorse, jealousy, malcontentedness, rumination are just a few powerful and complex human emotions that come into play here and manifest in both constructive and destructive ways – and arguably, the most painful of all – loneliness.

I’ve been on this Board for a few years now and, if memory serves, initially, I don’t remember this volume of hostility displayed toward one another when I first joined up. After the Great Recession, I began to notice a change – coincidence?

I’ve been mulling this over for quite some time and the above two posts have provided me the perfect segue to explore and, hopefully, solicit others’ insights.

Speaking for myself and, I’m almost certain, many others, the economy has affected us. Gone is my good paying job as I’m now – hopefully temporarily – relegated to working for “starvation wages”. Gone is my discretionary income, as I’m barely able to pay for the essentials.

Needless to say; I can’t afford to pay for the “companionship” of someone to ease my troubled mind, if only for an hour. I can’t afford the luxury of someone to talk to and share experiences with, both good and bad.

It runs deeper than merely “activities that took place” – a certain type of friendship has developed with a few of these “companions”. It’s only natural as they, oftentimes, share their joys and tribulations with me too. In an unconventional way, we become somewhat interconnected.

Anger, bitterness, remorse, jealousy, malcontentedness, rumination are just a few powerful and complex human emotions that come into play here and manifest in both constructive and destructive ways – and arguably, the most painful of all – loneliness. Originally Posted by The Drummer

Nice post, Drummer. My financial position has not changed, but for time, since I joined the board, and I don't think a person should allow it to affect their temperament, but you are spot on to say it happens.

Tomkat1963
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op tapped out
the drama not as bad as it has been in past

fuck and leave

too much emotions caring shopping, buying things love

bs love, they want money

keep it simple
then no drama
you get drama when you get emotions and babies

on we go

Nice post, Drummer. My financial position has not changed, but for time, since I joined the board, and I don't think a person should allow it to affect their temperament, but you are spot on to say it happens. Originally Posted by JohnnyCap

fuck and leave

too much emotions caring shopping, buying things love

bs love, they want money

keep it simple
then no drama
you get drama when you get emotions and babies

on we go Originally Posted by bjwstw

Of course they want money. So do I!

I agree with some of what you say, but that's another story. I think you may be missing my point, bjwstw.

As JC says, it's about the effect on and individual's temperament and how they choose to proceed while carrying this weight.

As JC says, it's about the effect on and individual's temperament and how they choose to proceed while carrying this weight. Originally Posted by The Drummer

Thats what keeps the mod job fun and interesting

Thats what keeps the mod job fun and interesting Originally Posted by Chica Chaser

I'd rather chase chicas......

Well everyone it's been fun !! But, I need to go dark for a while. Things took a turn for the worse in my post PT relationship between Sexxi Lexxi and myself. Many of you warned me. I now admit that I was wrong. There are several of my favorite providers (Trisha, Lilly,MargeauxMe et al. and my new UTR) that I will remain in contact with but I will not be a regular contributor to ECCIE.
There is too much negativity to the providers and some of us that try to give emotional support to them. Take care and God bless. TK1963 Originally Posted by Tomkat1963

this is simply the results of the present mods like aj and Bruno that turn of deaf ear 100 times a day when aholes like jj ag and pm speak hate and stupidity and the laugh along while decent providers and hobbyists disappear several months ago there were 104 showcases in wny now # is 80 thank u mods for ruining this board amazing aJ makes her living in a illegal tax free business yet sides with hateful ignorant people her refer to her as cunt funnels and everything else. Ohwell maybe the haters are rights thanks guys Originally Posted by tinyisgreat

fuck and leave

too much emotions caring shopping, buying things love

bs love, they want money

keep it simple
then no drama
you get drama when you get emotions and babies

on we go Originally Posted by bjwstw

Has the dust settled enough to say whew

It was till it just got disturbed.....

It was till it just got disturbed..... Originally Posted by Celso

errr another house cleaner that's really a pipe cleaner ????????

thanks fer ...revivin ...another plastic classic

Lost my place here for a min, but founded a bookmark to slip in place