Money is money

When I need extra help with expenses, I run specials to cover them. I have had times when a guy will prepay for a future session, and I follow through. I realize that some ladies may not, but that is bad TCB. It doesn't matter if the guy prepays to help with an expense or at the time of the session, it is still paid for and the lady needs to follow through.
But I would prefer to get the money at the time of session, not have the guy pay for whatever my expense is.

The client's job is to come in, enjoy themselves, pay and leave. If they want to hear about anything else then I'm sure they can get that conversation at home. For example, if I'm about to go over my electric bill then I take care of it either before the client arrives or after and the consequences of all my actions are entirely mine. I don't tell them I'm behind on the rent, need groceries or any other tale of woe. I think that would ruin their time with me. We're supposed to provide an experience that has nothing to do with paying bills or any other day-to-day details. Unless that's what they're into.

The client's job is to come in, enjoy themselves, pay and leave. If they want to hear about anything else then I'm sure they can get that conversation at home. For example, if I'm about to go over my electric bill then I take care of it either before the client arrives or after and the consequences of all my actions are entirely mine. I don't tell them I'm behind on the rent, need groceries or any other tale of woe. I think that would ruin their time with me. We're supposed to provide an experience that has nothing to do with paying bills or any other day-to-day details. Unless that's what they're into. Originally Posted by Dharma

^^^^^^^^^ She gets it!!!

Maybe when I was younger I would consider it as more a business relationship and that's it. Provide the service and then I pay for it. Now that I am older and more financially secure I
think it depends on the relationship between the lady and myself. If I trust her and vice versa
I would not have a problem helping her out if she needed it. Besides it's only money. Life revolves
on more important things than finances.

In my humble opinion, I do honestly believe some gentleman strive for the role of someone actually needing them. There are many of ladies who are in situations who may need them( myself not included) and those who want to make you feel appreciated. There is a difference. I want you to know you are appreciated.

With a recent experience I had, a gentleman I had known for years wanted to take me on a trip. I said sure as long as my monthly duties where taken care of, as I was not in a position at the time to take a vacation. I did not expect or want any of this in advance. Though with him insisting to actually pay my bills and have all my real word info at his fingertips .This was not an option for me. The way he explained it to me, was that he did not want to feel as if were a paying client, but was just helping me out.

I gave him many other alternate routes to make him as well as myself comfortable. I truly believe deep down it was more of a control issue first and foremost. If I needed him to pay my bills, he would have full access to everything that controlled my life. It was a way for him to have the upper hand and feel needed. Needless to say, I prefer to keep everything in a business format. Never anything too personal.
I think he misunderstood my reasoning of me saying my rate was my monthly expenses. I declined the trip.

In addition to that.. I will also state, since I have been in the business. I often have many who ask for loans or hand outs. My number one rule is if I give you anything, it is yours. Same thing as if I am loaning a girlfriend clothes. If I give it to you to wear.. Keep it. I don't want it back..lol.

Never should a lady ask for anything upfront in this business.. if she is not in the position to take care of her responsibilities now, what makes you think a few hundred will suddenly change that around later. Just my opinion. It is your choice though I would go with the option of having the session and letting her figure it out. Don't get too caught up in others lives, unless you want to be part of there hardships.

Hey Melanie... Did i ever say i love you?

Perfectly expressed & your points are clear as a bell!!! (as I walk by and slap you on the ass!) as if to say 'Good Game'!��

Hey Melanie... Did i ever say i love you? Originally Posted by Luke Skywalker

SonOfA!!!!

To answer OP's question - A.

A) Pay for the session and let her take care of her problem herself


Perhaps the reason why nobody has a "happy ending" to share from Option B is because almost nothing good happens from electing Option B.

But if I hypothetically choose Option B, then I'd imagine that it had a negative impact on the upcoming session. I'd be too preoccupied worrying about whether somebody could trace the payment and discover my true identity. I'd probably have unrealistic expectations or develop sense of entitlement for helping her out. I just sounds like a lot of pressure. Originally Posted by omakase

Interesting answer. I had thought of many things that might detract from a session under these conditions but that was not one of them. Thanks

Money is Money . . . Trickin' is Trickin'.

Obviously, I'm going with option A here.

Option B looks like it could work on a sugar daddy/sugar baby website, like seeking arrangment.

I truly believe deep down it was more of a control issue first and foremost. If I needed him to pay my bills, he would have full access to everything that controlled my life. It was a way for him to have the upper hand and feel needed. Originally Posted by melannie_star

Brilliant! Privacy concerns swing both ways.

I learned this lesson back in the '80's, fortunately at not too big a financial cost. Since then I just tune out when someone starts telling me their problems. That awkward silence at the end of their story says more than I ever could. I'm becoming a bit grouchy at this stage of my life and it doesn't bother me at all. Great way to get people to leave you alone, I just turn on the charm when needed.