For Those thinking of having sex with a Transwoman

Sexual orientation is about who you are generally attracted to, not whether a partner is cis or trans, or what specific acts you did together. From what you describe, your experiences most clearly show that you are attracted to women (including a trans woman), which fits comfortably within being straight, though some men also choose labels like bi, heteroflexible, or just “no label” for similar experiences.​
How orientation is defined

  • Sexual orientation is usually defined by the gender(s) you’re attracted to over time, not by one encounter or specific acts like anal sex or oral sex.
What your experience suggests

  • Everything you describe involves you with a woman, who happens to be trans, and you enjoyed that; that is consistent with attraction to women rather than to men.
A trans woman is a woman; many cis men who date or have sex with trans women identify as straight or heterosexual and do not see themselves as gay.
Enjoying being penetrated, giving or receiving blowjobs, or swallowing semen does not, by itself, make someone gay; those are just sexual behaviors, and many straight-identified men enjoy similar acts with partners they see as women.
shooter6.5's Avatar
certainly an interesting observation--and I can see your thinking.

But just curious as to why you posted this--since I see no post prior to this that caused it.. Maybe I missed it. I am sure that you will get all kinds of responses--as far as I am concerned, what one chooses is their decision as long as it does not infringe on mine or anyones else life style.
robbiebdaar's Avatar
Trans women are men with a mental illness.
Ripmany's Avatar
Trans women are men with a mental illness. Originally Posted by robbiebdaar
Every one I dated has a mental illness, or there would not date me. But being born male is a line drawer for me.
corona's Avatar
There's nothing wrong with being gay. Men fucking an mtf trans is just gay & cosplay mixed together.
Trans-women are women but we adults have this thing called sexual choice. and it's my sexual choice to not want to deal with a pecker. And I'm not going to say Trans-women have a mental illness cause they used to say that wanting to have sex with black people was a mental illness. soooo.....
pmdelites's Avatar
Trans women are men with a mental illness. Originally Posted by robbiebdaar
ya know, when you point at someone, there are 4 more fingers pointing back at you.

so, unless you have uncontovertable evidence about your statement quoted above, pls leave your claims at the door and dont mention them here.
or preface them w/ an explicit indication so there's no uncertainty about your statement.
or provide us w/ uncontovertable evidence.
pmdelites's Avatar
Trans-women are women but we adults have this thing called sexual choice. and it's my sexual choice to not want to deal with a pecker. And I'm not going to say Trans-women have a mental illness cause they used to say that wanting to have sex with black people was a mental illness. soooo..... Originally Posted by liliumdark
and though it says more about the people saying it,
i would guess that some people said people who visit adult sex workers were mentally unfit and/or moral degenerates.