I am so sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately THINKING with the WRONG head can get gentleman in a lot of trouble.
Most of the time it can just take seeing sexy picture for that to happen. It is VERY IMPORTANT to do your research on who you are going to be spending your time with. NO such thing as too much RESEARCH! Look at profiles. Just because someone looks sexy in a photo DOES NOT mean you are going to have the encounter you think you are going to have in some cases it can be a complete letdown.
Take it slow and STAY SAFE!!!
I truly hope everything works out for you.