Apparently you can SO get laid by a girl who wants to pay off her college loans....and then you're still fucking a 20 yr old. There are some women that are amazing providers that are in their 20s that meet that - I know some - but c'mon. I can't fuck someone my own childs age and most men don't want to either. for a 50+ yr old, not many of these "sugar babies" are particularly interesting
Originally Posted by Sydneyb
That the only person willing to fight for the HDH model is out of the biz speaks volumes about how badly the model is broken.
As for most men not wanting women in their 20s, I don't know what to say. The women I know are the most sought after there are. There are a lot of hot women in their 30s and early 40s, but these women have been spoiled beyond belief because there were so few of them. There are millions more women in their 20s today than there were a decade ago. The reason is the U.S. economy was horrific from 1973 to 1983, and people were having fewer children. Toss in today's economy and nose bleed education costs, and the pendulum has swung in the wealthy man's favor.
As for these women not being interesting, I disagree. I think they often have more interesting lives than women in their 30s. They may be more immature, but there is something to be said for helping someone figure out their problems.
No one wants to talk about this either but thanks to the feminists taking a hatchet to the traditional male role, a lot of these women are positively starved for positive male role models. The panic I see with these women over some trivial matters has often stunned me.
The article only talks about women in debt from education, but there are a lot of women who have been hosed by religion and society. They have been told that having an abortion is evil. They "do the right thing" and have children and then get ridiculed for being single moms and are often penniless from having to support their children. Often, I hear stories of CPS treating these single moms inhumanely. They have little choice of where to turn.
I think you are misunderstanding many men, Syd. Maybe some do like the maturity an older woman provides. I think a lot of men like to be idealized, and I hope that you can see why some of the SBs may do just that.
Part of the reason men see women is their own mortality. They can still fuck/get the hot chick, but in the back of their mind, there is still the question: is it me or my money?
If you fast forward ahead, you will see a different attitude. The Sugar Daddy may meet the sugar baby's mother, children, and friends. What does it tell you when a SB's mother comes to you and tells you that you were the greatest positive influence in her life, and the SB says to you that you are the best man that they have ever known.
I was talking to a friend of mine and said, "I can get head anywhere. I want a woman who wants to give me head to please me." Where am I more likely to get that, from a woman who I just pay and has seen multiple other men or a woman who thinks that I am the best man that they have ever met and the only one she supposedly sees?
There is an emotional component to the SD SB relationship that does not exist with HDHs. A SB will rarely fuck a man she does not like. A HDH, as you just admitted, will.
Now that I'm not chasing money, I am more like my former patrons than ever -- including having bought ridiculous things in the name of love or desire for someone beautiful - a $400 30 year old scotch, a custom made suit jacket....and I don't regret going overboard with those silly gestures.
Originally Posted by Sydneyb
I'd hate to be thought of as teaching someone that money is to be used primarily for material pursuits. Sure, I am guilty as the next guy for fulfilling his indulgences, but one issue with the HDH is that I have no say in where the money goes. I don't object; it goes with the territory.
However, I have say with the SB, and there are many times that I can make things cheaper in their lives by applying a little common sense in essence paying them. I am also far more likely to be generous if they are trying to better their lives. SDs have paid for health care, dental work, tuition, lodging, cars, child care ETC.The idea is that these girls mean a little more to the men that just an orifice.
In essence, I find that the best SDs are ones that are role models. Ideally, a SD is not providing fish but teaching the SBs how to fish, and there is a great deal of satisfaction with that. Most ask what will it take to be successful like the SD. With a HDH, a millionaire is a dime a dozen.
If a woman can make thousands a night on her back side, there is little that they need to be taught, but it is not like that any more. There are too many women, too few dollars, and an overall age related decline in male sex drive.
You worked in the golden years, Syd. Count yourself lucky.
