Is my paranoia about my identity rational? And my experience so far as a newbie

Screening has become much more lax with many ladies in the past few years because of necessity. Oh, I won't be popular saying this but it's true.

Pick someone that you might be interested in visiting and just write or speak to her. Like Ivy said above, there are other ways that ladies screen. Some just wish to have a conversation on the phone and ask some general questions.

I used to almost need your blood type before seeing you and I just don't screen like I used to. I know that others request a bunch of information from their websites and if it were my choice, I would want that pointed information myself.

But most aren't willing to give it up. So good luck with that. Pick someone that is of interest to you and go in that direction. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Also ... it's never a good idea to crow about having a bunch of money to spend. Sure, ladies will pay attention to it but it often doesn't mean a thing. It doesn't to me. I have the worst experiences with men who are braggarts. Most men who really make good money NEVER mention the fact that they make good money.

I would hazard to guess that the majority of my client base makes a very good living. This is the hobby of kings, after all. Just don't talk about it too much. It's not flattering.

Since 30 is the new 20 for you....just a helpful hint for a 20 year old.

Elisabeth

411 is not for me for the same reasons.
And BTW "Data is Never destroyed" nor can it be. IMHO
Path for me was " a few Newbe friendly providers"
A few reviews on same.
Done. not a newbe
I have NEVER been turned down due to screening. Hell, I have never been turned down.
Also, always remember, these are Referral opportunities. If you are a Jerk this wont work.

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Also ... it's never a good idea to crow about having a bunch of money to spend. Sure, ladies will pay attention to it but it often doesn't mean a thing. It doesn't to me. ...

Since 30 is the new 20 for you....just a helpful hint for a 20 year old.

Elisabeth Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

plus, 30, if some women see that you "make a shit load of money ...", some women might not ever offer you a special or discount or extra time :^) why would they? you know, goose and golden egg metaphor.

plus, i also wouldn't be saying i was "paying for good no strings attached sex."
i compensate them for their consulting.

I had visited several of the private connection girls before P411 was started. Gina explained the screening to me at that time, but it's best to get it from them if you have questions. They've always been straight forward and honest in my dealings with them.

I personally trust P411 more than I trust the escorts themselves. Ladies come and go from this business on a regular basis. On more than one occasion I've witnessed other in this hobby deal with ladies who have tried to "Out" them. The less identifiable info shared with the provider, the better I feel.

I trust P411 as Gina has been at this since Preferred Connection, and now with P411. P411 seems like they are in this business to stay, and have a vested interest in keeping the information private. If something were to happen, and customers found they had kept information, or information was leaked, news would spread like wildfire, and kill their business in a very short time. I trust them to keep the info private, more than the providers.

The point for the OP is that there is no one path to non newbeness. Just chose which you are comfortable with.

411 is not for me for the same reasons.
And BTW "Data is Never destroyed" nor can it be. IMHO
Path for me was " a few Newbe friendly providers"
A few reviews on same.
Done. not a newbe
I have NEVER been turned down due to screening. Hell, I have never been turned down.
Also, always remember, these are Referral opportunities. If you are a Jerk this wont work. Originally Posted by harkontume

Very well said.I'm not a P411 member and I choose not to be.Started my way from the bottom like every other newbie.Was careful in choosing newbie friendly providers and just went from there.It'll work out for you.You just have to be patient.

plus, 30, if some women see that you "make a shit load of money ...", some women might not ever offer you a special or discount or extra time :^) why would they? you know, goose and golden egg metaphor.

plus, i also wouldn't be saying i was "paying for good no strings attached sex."
i compensate them for their consulting. Originally Posted by pmdelites

I am embarrassed that I said that about my income. A agree with Elisabeth and you. Thanks for all the replies everyone. Huge help. I'll be back in the thread tomorrow to try and add.

30,

My AMP girls can help take care of the excess $. I have lots of K-girl friends and I am such a nice guy that I can deliver it for you.....$200 at a time.

Just BSing you.

Torito

Also ... it's never a good idea to crow about having a bunch of money to spend. Sure, ladies will pay attention to it but it often doesn't mean a thing. It doesn't to me.
Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

And for those that do, you've just made yourself a more tempting target.

[side note]
p411 is based in toronto, canada.
gina started PC back in 2003 or 2004 and p411 a few yrs later [i remember when there were only 93 dallas providers on p411]. and i believe that she was a provider before that [as i recall from some posts about her back in the aspd days].

she runs a great ship.

[/side note]

Just because we're all paranoid doesn't mean we aren't being hacked.

It is always good to be cautious and paranoid sorta helps that state of mind. Early on, there were times, I make some unecessary (bad areas, crime/ incall locations)
risks that now I would never take now and learning on the boards.

I don't mind the screening, but when a provider ask for more info than 411, and ECCIE, I just move on. I think those two should be more enough to lend a person's credibility and if isn't, then the chemistry wasn't there to begin with, and wouldn't be a fun date anyways, just my thoughts. Now if it happens, it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't. No sense in getting all worked up over it, just wasn't meant to be.

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I don't mind the screening, but when a provider ask for more info than 411, and ECCIE, I just move on. I think those two should be more enough to lend a person's credibility and if isn't, then the chemistry wasn't there to begin with, and wouldn't be a fun date anyways, just my thoughts. Now if it happens, it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't. No sense in getting all worked up over it, just wasn't meant to be. Originally Posted by pairofhearts33

everyone runs their life they way they want to, at least that's the hope in this world.

and if you dont feel comfortable with providing a woman more than your eccie userid and p411 account name, fine with me.

BUT, two things.
1. while you think it "should be more enough to lend a person's credibility", that DOESNT mean that it should be enough for everyone you might contact. each women screens in her own way. take it or leave it.

2. other than the chemistry involved in the energy it takes for two people to communicate via internet or phone, what does her screening process have to do with chemistry? like i said, if you arent comfortable w/ her process, fine - just move on. but dont say "the chemistry wasn't there to begin with." imo, there is NOT any similarity between your preferences and the chemistry between you two.