I will not repeat what has already been said so elegantly by Nina, London, and Naomi.
But one thing I cannot stand is the mistaken belief held by some, whether in the hobby or not, is that rude behavior means that you are high class or better than others. Or having your nose so high in the air, all we see is your neck. On the plus side, you'll be able to see me roll my eyes at you. The quickest way anyone can get on my "shit list" is treating people deemed as "the help" like so much trash: waitstaff, valet, ushers, etc. I haven't worked any of those jobs but I don't think that someone who is working that job is unworthy of respect; they are human beings too. I had one client (another time, another name) actually snap his fingers at waitstaff one time, I think in an effort to impress me. I wasn't, not at all.
Provider, client, or neither doesn't really matter to me on this topic. I think how a person treats another person, especially if they are your "social lesser", is what determines class. Elegance, in my opinion, is about physical and social etiquette graces: elbows on the table, how legs are crossed, dress, personal comportment, etc. Just my $0.02.
Originally Posted by Claudia Christophe
True.
For me, we are all humans, and this is what counts. And sometimes , if you look behind the show people put up as a facade it makes your toes curl anyways. My grandmother always used to say : "When we use the bathroom we all have to bend over" . And this is my Motto ever since.