Q? ABOUT REFERENCES

Myself, I won't give a reference unless the guy has contacted me beforehand and informed me that he's using me as a reference. Originally Posted by MsElena

I thought this common courtesy was the norm? In any case I like knowing that 1) the provider is willing to provide a reference 2) the provider is available to give the reference.

I have had some problems getting references from providers. Usually their mailboxes are full and I cannot reach them. The exception has been Kaylen, I have called her many times. She usually picks up right away, if she doesn't then she returns my call within a couple of hours, always.

I have had some problems getting references from providers. Usually their mailboxes are full and I cannot reach them. Originally Posted by stacy in kc

Would have to agree, the lady requesting has responsibilities!

This is why>>.....
1. Contacted by a provider,....

2. Contacted by provider for reference,....
So again, no reference given.

3. Provider contacted me with a gent's name,....

Lesson: Guys, give complete information about....

Ladies: I'm not going to provide a reference if....

.....but I can tell you what issues come up that.... is generally insufficient information. Originally Posted by SinsOfTheFlesh

FireSerpent - you might want to "STICKY" this post for the reference process here so it can be referenced in the future for providers and clients both? It seems pretty complete to me anyway!

I thought this common courtesy was the norm? In any case I like knowing that 1) the provider is willing to provide a reference 2) the provider is available to give the reference. Originally Posted by ampad

You'd be amazed how many guys don't bother to give me a heads up about them using me as a reference.

Thank you for that Stacy....xoxo

I have had some problems getting references from providers. Usually their mailboxes are full and I cannot reach them. The exception has been Kaylen, I have called her many times. She usually picks up right away, if she doesn't then she returns my call within a couple of hours, always. Originally Posted by stacy in kc

Not on any kind of a regular basis but several times over the years I've been contacted by girls wanting to know if I know so & so. He claims to have met me or that he know's me and I have no idea who he is, so I get what you are saying. All this does is slow down the process. I don't get why someone would try and get an appointment by fabricating crap ..

+1 honey

Not on any kind of a regular basis but several times over the years I've been contacted by girls wanting to know if I know so & so. He claims to have met me or that he know's me and I have no idea who he is, so I get what you are saying. All this does is slow down the process. I don't get why someone would try and get an appointment by fabricating crap .. Originally Posted by malwoody

Not on any kind of a regular basis but several times over the years I've been contacted by girls wanting to know if I know so & so. He claims to have met me or that he know's me and I have no idea who he is, so I get what you are saying. All this does is slow down the process. I don't get why someone would try and get an appointment by fabricating crap .. Originally Posted by malwoody

I'm sorry malwoody! I promise to not do it again...

I'm fairly new to the hobby and had a guy tell a gal that I would vouch for him.
Boy that went over like a lead balloon. Told her and him that I would never vouch
for someone that I didn't know personally. But in his defense he is just as new as I
am and was nervous as hell.

$100 question, would you ever give a negative, or "iffy" reference for a guy/gal that you wanted to keep for yourself?

$100 question, would you ever give a negative, or "iffy" reference for a guy/gal that you wanted to keep for yourself? Originally Posted by rharley

Nope. If I enjoyed the pleasure of his company and would welcome a return visit, I will happily give a positive reference. The hobby is all about variety. Though some men do look for one woman they can see regularly, most hobbyists like seeing different women. Just because he's seeing another lady this time doesn't mean he won't return to visit me again. Its up to me, and how well I treat him to ensure he keeps coming back to see me.

$100 question, would you ever give a negative, or "iffy" reference for a guy/gal that you wanted to keep for yourself? Originally Posted by rharley

Why would I ever want to do such a thing? Maybe you missed it but the idea in this lifestyle is to change partners.

I always respond immediately but I ask that I get your requests by e-mail.

$100 question, would you ever give a negative, or "iffy" reference for a guy/gal that you wanted to keep for yourself? Originally Posted by rharley

No. I don't own him, I'm not married to him and its NOT my right to determine who he can or can't fuck.

$100 question, would you ever give a negative, or "iffy" reference for a guy/gal that you wanted to keep for yourself? Originally Posted by rharley

Never.... try doing the opposite and see how the lady rewards you!

Nope. If I enjoyed the pleasure of his company and would welcome a return visit, I will happily give a positive reference. The hobby is all about variety. Though some men do look for one woman they can see regularly, most hobbyists like seeing different women. Just because he's seeing another lady this time doesn't mean he won't return to visit me again. Its up to me, and how well I treat him to ensure he keeps coming back to see me. Originally Posted by SinsOfTheFlesh

Amen. And, when you set him free to wander and when he does, when he realizes you're doing a better job than the others, he'll be back . . . if in his wandering he meets someone that trips his trigger better than me, then great, I'm happy for him - THAT IS THE WHOLE POINT OF THE ENDEAVOR in many ways for a gentleman. Finding what he NEEDS. If that isn't with me, I certainly want him to have it with someone! If it is with me, great! But in the end, referenced or not, they all go where they want to go. Stacy is right, it is up to each individual lady to find a way to make each client happy and wanting to return to them. There's no benefit in being possessive. None.

Kisses,

- Jackie