Impregnated

Having unprotected sex with someone else when you are married. Wow! Dude what were you thinking? Life in my opinion is about cause and effect. And the effect hit you like a hammer over the head. There have been others giving their opion but I agree with some aspects of what others have said.

Here is what i do not agree with what you said. To even think about walking away when it might be yours is horrible. Which means you have considered it. To say she only has your license plate number. There are enough deadbeat dads in this country without adding another one. Do the right thing. Do get a DNA test and find out once and for all. If it is yours provide.

As ATX said you put your wife at risk here also. Damn shame.

Wow, what a topic, but i agree with alot of what everyone says especially likinikki, at least he is being honest and brininging this up alot of guys would have just ran with out a second thought. I know my oldest sons dad just vanished when i told him i was having his kid, didnt see him untill my son was 2years old and thats cause someone told him his son looked just like him (which he did) and this was my boyfriend, so in this case i can see where he is coming from, but at the same time he really needs to find out and take care of his child if is his rather it be child support, adopting the baby himself or giving to a loving family. As for the question would i try and work out with my SO if he came home and told me he got a girl pregnant and help raise the baby, it would depend on how long we have been together and the whole situation, but i would never turn my back on any child love kids to much, all i can say is good luck and im sure you will do the right thing.

Liz

I re-read the OP's post just to be certain, and nowhere in there did I find a request for moralizing or bashing the shit out of his decency as a human being. And as I am a very careful reader it is almost a certainty that if it was in there I did not miss it.

To the OP I will suggest this: that you have THOUGHT ABOUT what to do and considered all options is proof that your brain works; you're character will not be revealed until you ACT ON what you have determined to be the correct course of action - take your time to think and feel this through. Best wishes to you with this life-altering event.

To the rock throwers: I am curious as to the state of your houses.

To Nikki: blessings.

Man up do the right thing

I second that.

Man up do the right thing Originally Posted by pickupkid

Can this thread be exempt from the 30-day bump rule so the OP can provide updates as this situation develops?

It's always much easier to say what we would do...when we're not in his situation...it's a noble idea, at best!. You don't think...that if someone here made a foolish decision...that could be the cause of your entire family to be collateral damage...that you wouldn't at least...THINK...of a way out FIRST?

I've known hobbyists who have given up all the 411, on providers they've met, to SAVE their a$$ and marriage. And, I've known providers who have been busted...not understanding their rights. Years of threads saying...remain silent...yet, when they're in that room getting grilled...you just really can't say...100% what you would do exactly...until you're in the hot seat.

trynagetlaid ==> hard to exempt something when the 30 days rule only applies to reviews

Damn I don't have the words.

It's always much easier to say what we would do...when we're not in his situation...it's a noble idea, at best!. You don't think...that if someone here made a foolish decision...that could be the cause of your entire family to be collateral damage...that you wouldn't at least...THINK...of a way out FIRST?

I've known hobbyists who have given up all the 411, on providers they've met, to SAVE their a$$ and marriage. And, I've known providers who have been busted...not understanding their rights. Years of threads saying...remain silent...yet, when they're in that room getting grilled...you just really can't say...100% what you would do exactly...until you're in the hot seat. Originally Posted by Likinikki

Well said Nikki.

As for the OP, sorry dude and good luck. Hopefully for your sake it is not yours. If it is..... good luck, you are probably going to need it.

trynagetlaid ==> hard to exempt something when the 30 days rule only applies to reviews Originally Posted by dennisrn

It was my understanding the 30 day rule applied to all threads.

.....this thread has really brought out some hopefully very true and honest feelings by many. Do hope CowboyJohn is trying to read them all and realize how difficult it is for all of us to even think about something like this - much less being a part of it.


trynagetlaid ==> the rules for this site are in the left hand column under Forum Guidlines. I believe the rule I've copied and pasted here applies (request staff review for accuracy):

#13 - In our review forums, be mindful of the 'maturity' of threads you are posting to, ie. the date of the last item posted. We ask that you refrain from posting to a review in which the last post was made 30 or more days ago. Some exceptions may apply if you are providing relevant, valuable or updated information about the provider, but as a general rule of thumb, this can best be accomplished by writing a new review altogether and avoiding the bumping of old ones. This applies to our review forums, in particular, as discussion threads are often allowed to flow for an unspecified length of time.

Hope this helps to explain my reply to you above.

To CowboyJohn: I feel for you and I hope you do the right thing. I can't imagine what you and the young lady are going through right now.

I would definitely find out for sure if she is indeed pregnant and then make sure this is not part of a scam.

I see that you are married and if it is true that the girl is indeed pregnant than I hope everything works out for everyone involved.

I have some experience with a similar situation growing up.

My father had several affairs while married to my mom and he had a long time girlfriend for about 8 years. His girlfriend became pregnant and had a son. He tried to cover it up but in the end my mom found out. You cant hide something like this and my dad had to come clean. The woman took my dad to court and he had to pay child support.

It was hard growing up with that but I forgave my dad and my parents are still married.

So best of luck and know that this is not the end of the world

Can this thread be exempt from the 30-day bump rule so the OP can provide updates as this situation develops? Originally Posted by trynagetlaid

It is not a review thread so it already is.

It was my understanding the 30 day rule applied to all threads. Originally Posted by trynagetlaid

That is not correct.

The Thirty Day rule applies exclusively to the review threads. The rest of them can remain open indefinitely.

WOW good luck to ya babe..