Providers: Who are the SUBs, Who are the DOMs

I'm a KINKSTER!
I agree with Mia that it happens in a blink. The chemistry is what's important.

The correct term is "dominant", not "dominate".

THX for the responses so far...

Didn't intend to cross over to Another Realm with this thread, was just curios who likes to lead or be led in a session or switch mid-stream.

Really, what comes most natural to you ....

I prefer an assertive woman, not a dominant one. Take the lead if there is a lull, nudge me in a direction you want me to go. But don't bark orders or call me a bad boy, I'll just bust out laughing from the absurdity of it all.

That said leather boots over leather pants; kinda hot. Just don't think you're getting to wear a ball gag or a gimp mask.

I'm 100% dominant, a TOP in play. But that doesn't mean I want some non-aggressive, non-vocal, shy and literally doesn't move unless I instruct them to like some geisha girl from the middle ages type of submissive woman. To me that would be boring, if I wanted a mindless blow up doll I'd just buy another!

Now some in the lifestyle that is exactly what both parties want from there dynamic, which is totally cool. But to me I've topped multiple pro Domme's who would never or have never let anyone else do that to them in their pro or private lives but me.

It all goes back to where do your submissive or dominant urges, thoughts and feelings comes from, what is the root of them. Some people can only be submissive or dominant with one person or a few people ever.

It's an energy, vibe, feeling, trust, confidence and vulnerability thing that's hard to put into words. It's rare, but when it matches up damn it's like fire and ice exploding over and over onto each other mentally, emotionally, physically, sexually and spirtually.

I would think with most provider's most guys want you to be top dog and you certainly need to have more trust with a guy when you're in the submissive position by nature.

Two cents

BL

P.S @BobMcV I never understood the whole gimp mask fetish, those damn things remind me of the Gimp from the movie The People Under The Stairs and they scare the crap out of me! LOL!

im usually very sub. even gone the route of seeing pro dommes,although i tend to prefer domme providors. always looking for new ones