What would you have like to known when you started hobbying?

1. As people have said, doing your Research and finding an established, newbie friendly provider that you like will help out. I got lucky when I found bellabee on a different site. I had jitters at first, but she was able to put me at ease. I would recommend her, but I am not sure she is around anymore.

2. Listen to your spidey-sense. If you feel uncomfortable, dont hesitate to walk away, say no, or do whatever you have to do.

I learned DO NOT make friends with guys cheating on their wives!!! sorry fellas, yall fuked me over way to many times when you get caught. and of course never believe anything a Provider tells you, or rather, take it with a grain of salt

sorry Sweeties once again I have burned to many times....

#5600: Let them get to your Little Head, NEVER let them get to your Big Head.

Don't fall for the upsell.

Remember that there are other boards beside eccie. Don't get too dependent on one source of information. Know which boards are legit and which are scams. Many traveling providers will have reviews on boards more popular in their home region.

Eros.com is a scam. Legit providers will occasionally post there, but your odds are less than 5% and any legit provider will advertise elsewhere as well.

On BP, stolen pics are more common than not. Familiarize yourself with Google image search and Tin Eye.

and of course never believe anything a Provider tells you, or rather, take it with a grain of salt Originally Posted by RALPHEY BOY

How is that different from life in general? Trust is earned.

You dick is not that big, youre not the best shes ever had, and your not that handsome...what Toyz said too. Search button is your friend, no bbfs ever, you will get stood up, being sweet is appreciated.

#5600: Let them get to your Little Head, NEVER let them get to your Big Head. Originally Posted by fun2come

I want this as my new desk sign!

You dick is not that big, youre not the best shes ever had, and your not that handsome...what Toyz said too. Search button is your friend, no bbfs ever, you will get stood up, being sweet is appreciated. Originally Posted by Reincarnated

But...but...

You dick is not that big, youre not the best shes ever had, and your not that handsome... Originally Posted by Reincarnated

I'm having a hard time seeing how bursting that particular bubble is useful or advantageous. It's okay to indulge in a little suspension of disbelief during fantasies.

I'm having a hard time seeing how bursting that particular bubble is useful or advantageous. It's okay to indulge in a little suspension of disbelief during fantasies. Originally Posted by Centaur

Agreed, POI <-> IOP (a "reverse palindrome" or "semiordnilap" )

ok, I spell it out:
Power Of Illusion and Illusion of Passion.

How is that different from life in general? Trust is earned. Originally Posted by Centaur

well my typical work/life day I am not dealing in Black Market goods. its basically what Reincarnated said

Here's a take. Map out a plausible backstory. Many providers will ask questions about your occupation. Most aren't really curious but are trying to find a safe launching pad for the frequently awkward small talk that is part of a session.

There's really no advantage to getting into the details of your work unless it's a really generic occupation. If I had it do over, I would pick an imaginary occupation that overlaps with a subject I know something about.

"Babycakes, yours truly happens to be a Historical Research Librarian. Did you know Mark Antony was bisexual?" Now you've broken the ice with a nice segue.

I am always perfectly honest with them. I was a mission control manager at NASA when I was selected for the first walk on Saturn mission. While on the lovely ringed planet planet, I mated with one of the beautiful Saturnian mistresses (who still communicates with me via facebook)...I was infected with Saturn Super Powers during our myriad encounters & hence why I have such a Beeg Cawk now.

Usually I'll get "WOW that is awesome, wanna fuck now"?

So you see, honesty is always the best policy.

well my typical work/life day I am not dealing in Black Market goods. Originally Posted by RALPHEY BOY

Black market services, pedantically. Me, I just pay them for their time. I'm just such a hunk with a big cawk that they can't resist jumping my bones. That's what she said, anyway

1. Avoid Drama Queens
a. Don't BE a Drama Queen

2. Don't spend more then you would take to a Crap Table

3. Don't "date"

4. Do be happy, lighthearted and honest

Thanks for all the advice... I've got some serious searching to do now!

-DPF