some very valid points here
for me anyway, when i guys gives me his references, I prefer they are recent, not suzy somebody he saw once in Texas, and please no phone numbers. i do not want to call these ladies and interupt their lives when it could easily be done thru PM. also, if you call a random number, that could be anyone on the other end! Its very helpful to provide your phone number and something memorable about you or your time together that will jog your memory....great question!