Great sex.. is it technique, or mental?

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  • 01-26-2011, 09:16 AM
Going forward I thinck that scheduling the appointment and laying down the envelope should be foreplay enough... Originally Posted by boardman
We want PSE, or GFE, not SO!

At $200-$300 per hour indy, or $4-$5 per minute, you want me to seduce you?

(I might do it if you are an AMP girl! )
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It depends on what percentage I group you in when I call you. If its the 90% arena,then its a combination of mental, technique and a desire to please. It doesnt matter if its an escort or civie. The other 10%... its satisfying my animal needs and its all about my selfishness to stifle a hunger.
Period.
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We want PSE, or GFE, not SO!

At $200-$300 per hour indy, or $4-$5 per minute, you want me to seduce you?

(I might do it if you are an AMP girl! ) Originally Posted by Dad
I'm of two minds on this.

Sometimes I just want to be pampered; that's usually when I schedule a FBSM, preferably with one of my ATFs who know how to give a mind-blowing finish. Then it's all about me. (Afterwords, I've been known to offer up some DATY if she's worked up; amazing how that sort of tip improves the next session.)

But if I'm doing a GFE session, I do want to seduce her, and I want her to enjoy herself beyond the pleasure she gets from the donation. If I'm spending time with any woman who turns me on, the experience is going to be far better if I turn her on, too.

Providers are women, not machines, and treating her like a desirable woman goes a LONG way to make sure that YMMV goes in the positive direction.

Some guys view a provider as an excuse to be a lazy or selfish lover. That's fine if it works for him, but what he gets in return is a professional session. Nothing more.
I'm of two minds on this.

Sometimes I just want to be pampered; that's usually when I schedule a FBSM, preferably with one of my ATFs who know how to give a mind-blowing finish. Then it's all about me. (Afterwords, I've been known to offer up some DATY if she's worked up; amazing how that sort of tip improves the next session.)

But if I'm doing a GFE session, I do want to seduce her, and I want her to enjoy herself beyond the pleasure she gets from the donation. If I'm spending time with any woman who turns me on, the experience is going to be far better if I turn her on, too.

Providers are women, not machines, and treating her like a desirable woman goes a LONG way to make sure that YMMV goes in the positive direction.

Some guys view a provider as an excuse to be a lazy or selfish lover. That's fine if it works for him, but what he gets in return is a professional session. Nothing more. Originally Posted by blowpop
So true!

I like the way you think!
john353's Avatar
Blowpop... I couldnt have said it better.

I agree 100%!
ICU 812's Avatar
As the Great Yogi once said, "Ninty percent of the game is half mental."

Most of it is in your head . . .which one is the question.
lizardking's Avatar
Sex is like any other sport, you need a certain measure of skill and you've got to love the game. You also need to train and show up for practice every fuckin' day.
Wakeup's Avatar
So I guess my question is how much of sex is mental versus technique for you? Originally Posted by Bebe Le Strange
I can give women orgasms with my mind...



/obscure?
//Patti D'Arbanville
I can give women orgasms with my mind...



/obscure?
//Patti D'Arbanville Originally Posted by Wakeuр
Oh my that is an old movie! I loved that scene where he is giving her one orgasm after the other through telepathy and she is in the bathroom yelling, and moaning..!
mental, absolutely. all of my most memorable experiences have been after a long, long date or a longer round of flirtation (over days, weeks or months). nothing beats that pent up sexual frustration finally releasing itself.
The graphic stuff please!!!!!
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Definitely chemistry! Without a doubt. I was thinking about a gentleman who I had been dating. The first time was incredible, during the whole evening at dinner he would talk about how incredibly beautiful and smart I was, and would make subtle touches to my hair, and face. Occassionally he would wrap his arms around me when we went out walking in the moonlight. During that first encounter with him, well.. we were sitting on his couch at his place and after some sensuous kissing, he gently picked me up off my feet and took me to the bedroom! OMG it was so exciting, and had me so sexually aroused! He was incredibly gentle and his foreplay was out of this world. I think for women it is a good portion of mental foreplay as well as physical foreplay.

Your right blowpop he was very patient with me and he was well rewarded! Originally Posted by Bebe Le Strange
You hit upon most of it here with your own post. The anticipation is a tremedous thing to work with. It can either come from never having been with someone or wondering if this time will be like the last time. There are so many variations of it you can bask in it forever. The place where technique comes into play is utilizing that anticipation in different ways. Poor technique though can ruin it which is why communication is so very important. Seduction is an art on both parts and it doesnt matter whether it is provider or civilian life anyone can experience it.
i like for it to just happen. if i think about it and anticipate....im what you call a few and out banger. my lasting ability gets real hard if i know im getting up in it....to far in advance. but the bj seems to slow down my thoughts and allow me to get my whits...
pyramider's Avatar
Foreplay is just another urban myth like the g spot and multiple orgasms.
a good nut is technique good sex is mental!