If CIM is not on the menu their is no excuse for doing it anyways...
•Let her know when your close so she can be prepared
•Instead of BBBJ go for CBJ then there's no worries at all
•If your a bit unpredictable with the timing of your "grand finale" give yourself a hand at the end and give her a nice peral necklace
With so many ways to make sure CIM doesn't happen their is no excuse, disregarding the rules and forcing someone into something outside of their comfort zone is never ok.