Do you think you could date or get married to a provider?

I have dated a few. Some were serious. Three wanted to get married. I chose not to, but my reasons were not related to her job. In each case it was differences that I believed we could not overcome.

If I were in such a relationship and I truly believed other differences could be handled, don't get in my way or I will run over your ass. LOL

Torito

I've dated a few providers and lived with one for almost 2 years. I was wandering if you guys could have a relationship with a provider, knowing that she's home screwing 2 or 3 guys a day while your at work? Your thoughts? Originally Posted by Race

On the main discussion forum we talked about this. It CAN work but it takes a LOT of work, does that make sense? I married one of my clients and had a beautiful wedding ceremony. My parents knew how we met and my bridesmaids and maid of honor LOL were all girls who worked with me at the time at an agency. It didn't last because my husband lost his job, and I had to go back to work providing, and he would throw it in my face all the time about my work even though that very line of work was what was paying our bills. He got too comfortable with it, and I left after a short period of time.


After that, I dated three men, and one lasted for almost four years. I never wanted any of these men to 'support' me so that I 'didn't have to work' but they never offered either, and the alternative therefore was I wanted to work and have my own money, and buy my own place, which I did.


I think what these men might have been dealing with was this: if I could fall in love ( and vice versa) with a client, then what was to stop me from falling in love with another and dumping the current boyfriend? But I continually told them that the men I saw through business was purely that...business. I reminded the men I began dated ( and the one I married) that even we began as 'business' and as time progressed, well, you can't help human emotions.

Ultimately, these relationships never did work out for me, and I know some providers just balk at the thought of ever getting involved with their clients just as some clients could never imagine seeing a provider as a girlfriend knowing she's banging other men. That being said just because it didn't work for me doesn't mean it won't work for others.


I have been single now for five years and loving it, and believe it or not, as odd as this sounds, there are some regular clients where we go on dates for a set fee and it's like what I call the Boyfriend Experience...just as you gentleman call us ladies the GFE...we both end up with good experiences on both ends. And really, sometimes you have to wonder, what IS the difference between a paid 'date' and then some civilian girl you might meet where you have to end up paying for dinner, buying her gifts, and flowers and all that, in order to try to get into her pants? ( er, her skirt LOL)? The lines get blurred. It's all so simple, and yet so complex, which is the paradox of this business.

Yep. I'm dating four of them right now.

shit. Did I type that out loud?


where is the delete button?

Yep. I'm dating four of them right now. Originally Posted by J.G. Wentworth

Currently I am only dating two.....most of the time.

Torito

I've had the privilege of meeting several ladies in the hobby who more than meet any preconceived qualifications I might have for prospective significant others. I'm talking women with the whole package -- intelligence, beauty, wit, and more. But the answer to the question is, "No." Why? I'd worry too much about their safety -- this is a dangerous business. And because I couldn't even bring myself to seriously date them due to those same worries, there's really no way around the conundrum as I couldn't very well ask anybody in any walk of life to give up their profession for me before the relationship even begins in earnest.

The foregoing doesn't preclude an evening out now and then, but my concerns over their personal safety (even the ones who screen meticulously) would drive me completely insane.

No. But that has more to do with the marriage part than the provider part.

I've been in 3 provider relationships... it happens, it doesn't bother me how she makes her money at the end of the day her heart is mine, you just have to be comfortable with the idea. Originally Posted by kenpachi

awww, kenny....

Even after the other thread, I'm still waiting for THE Dannie to post her opinion on this....

shit. Did I type that out loud?


where is the delete button? Originally Posted by J.G. Wentworth

Better make sure you get the names straight. One time I dated two guys in a year and I accidently called one by the wrong name.

Better make sure you get the names straight. One time I dated two guys in a year and I accidently called one by the wrong name. Originally Posted by alluringava

when i was married he called me by his 1st ex wife's name by accident...

sometimes you just got to roll with it...

can't sweat the small stuff.

i knew he was mad at me, and her ass was long gone. maybe it was that i had just gone and done something she use to do to piss him off all the time too.

Wouldn't bother me in the least.

I would marry JG's avatar girl, wouldn't care
what she did for a living.

Answers: Yes and almost did