BBBJ Etiquette: Controlling her hair

quotes i have read on this board
Well if you come to new orleans anonone babe. You can do more than hold my hair. Lol. I don't have much hair but I love it when a guy pulls it while he's pounding me. Or when I am giving head I want him to pull it and make me deepthroat him. Yummmmmmm fun! Originally Posted by DallasRain
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I rather the lady brings her own little hair ties just because BBBj takes all day for me if she continually stops to fix her hair. Its too much of a tease sort of when I really want to achieve that way pse.

However it is a bit more gfe to gently hold and caress her hair away from her face especially ladies with long hair. As long as her hair doesnt impede her from stopping its of no concern to me anyway.

I may be a tad biased as I have seen more black providers who prefer not to have their hair touched entirely to much besides an occasional brush away from face.

I try no to grab to much on the hair as some ladies might consider this degrading and overly submissive in a sense. I just try what works for me and see if shes able to accommodate.
I can only speak for myself....grab my hair! It's not long enoough to bother me or be in my way, but.....grab my hair!
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That is a very good question, but you really should have included a poll to properly quantify the total input and classify the results.

So now who is going to do the count manually?

Florida?

Personally, I thought that most every girl liked to have her hair pulled during a session, but some ladies are extremely concerned about their appearance and very vocal in instructing you not to touch their precious hair with your mere mortal hands of an unwashed beast!

Sometimes you just have to tolerate her unreasonable demands temporarily until she gets more comfortable with you.

The question I always have is why can't they simply brush their hair back into place if it is so God-awful important to them?

How long does it take to get a ladies back into place?

I would say about 5 or ten minutes and you're good to go.

So what's the real problem?

Tell the beast.
Fast Gunn, I don't think it's unreasonable for a woman to tell you that she is not comfortable with you touching her in a certain way or in a certain place. Also, you say that you thought that "most every girl liked to have her hair pulled during a session." I might be using a different definition of the word "pull," because this sentence is a little disturbing to me. I hate it when a man assumes that I like my hair pulled because it creates an awkward situation when I have to tell him that he needs to stop. It feels degrading to me.
  • PullT
  • 05-03-2010, 11:42 PM
I usually defer to the preference of the person who holds my cock between their rows of teeth.
I usually defer to the preference of the person who holds my cock between their rows of teeth. Originally Posted by PullT
Their? Their??????? Shouldn't this be HER??!!!!
  • PullT
  • 05-04-2010, 07:54 PM
Their? Their??????? Shouldn't this be HER??!!!! Originally Posted by charlestudor2005
Hey, I think it's a good policy across genders. Not my bag, but I respect others' differing tastes.
WetVelvetSAT's Avatar
Hi,

It made me think about how many times I pulled a man's hair or ears when giving me daty....I wonder how that feels...(but that is another topic though) aheheheheh

Sincerely,
Wet
Hi,

It made me think about how many times I pulled a man's hair or ears when giving me daty....I wonder how that feels...(but that is another topic though) aheheheheh
Originally Posted by WetVelvetSAT
If you dish it out you better be able to take it IMO! Too bad I have a crew cut, but you can pull on my ears anytime!!!
Fast Gunn's Avatar
Fast Gunn, I don't think it's unreasonable for a woman to tell you that she is not comfortable with you touching her in a certain way or in a certain place. Also, you say that you thought that "most every girl liked to have her hair pulled during a session." I might be using a different definition of the word "pull," because this sentence is a little disturbing to me. I hate it when a man assumes that I like my hair pulled because it creates an awkward situation when I have to tell him that he needs to stop. It feels degrading to me. Originally Posted by China Doll
Oh, come on, China Doll!

What can possibly be even remotely degrading about a man playing with a girl's hair while having sex? That's only natural.

I'm sorry to inform you, but anything that you find degrading in that is simply your own mental baggage that you're bringing into the bedroom.

Nothing more.

Sex is much better when you leave your baggage outside the bedroom!
Oh, come on, China Doll!

What can possibly be even remotely degrading about a man playing with a girl's hair while having sex? That's only natural.

I'm sorry to inform you, but anything that you find degrading in that is simply your own mental baggage that you're bringing into the bedroom.

Nothing more.

Sex is much better when you leave your baggage outside the bedroom! Originally Posted by Fast Gunn
I'm sorry but I was under the impression the word used was 'pulling' not 'playing'

Why are there some guys on here tonight that are trying hard to start a fight? Get over yourselves already! Let's play nice!

IMHO
A woman can ask you not to touch her in a certain place, and it does not make her any less of a GFE then anyone else. For example, I know women who do not like their feet touched. It doesn't matter what part of her body it is, or the reasons why she doesn't want it touched...just use mutual respect all the way around and there's no problem.
Fast Gunn, there really is no need to resort to insults. I was pretty sure I made it clear that we were talking about "pulling," not playing. Your words, buddy. Not mine.
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I have had the pleasure of "slapping" a few bald heads when the daty was feeling "oh so so so good"...lol
  • PullT
  • 05-04-2010, 11:14 PM
I;m too new and don't want the WK label, but there are troubling posts here...