It's okay for the guy to treat us like a prostitute but you still want us to act like a lady!

We have not met but I appreciate you telling this story. This sounds like actions of a total tool. I have gone to many sessions where I was disappointed in what she looked like but I still treated my date with respect. I believe every session is training for real-world endeavors. I do understand why you follow through with the session. There is no telling what he would've done if you would've denied him service. I would've never tolerated the poor hygiene. Just listening to it makes me want to dry heave.

I am going to analyze his actions from your story. He kept you in the K-9 position because it shows dominance and masculinity. He clearly has insecurity issues. The reason for leaving abruptly is a sign of disappointment and discuss in his self and in the act. Buy taking the condom and wipes is a sign of paranoia. The reason for not showering is that in his mind he was doing a filthy act and there was no reason to clean up for you. The boy was clear not hugged enough as a child. There is no excuse for that type of behavior.
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Sorry jucci if we ever get to set something up I'll be clean and friendly!
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Sorry, Lady. That guy sounds like a walking time bomb - in some respects you may have been fortunate to get off "lightly." Sounds to me like he is capable of much harsher aggression.

You have done well to put this story out.
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Obviously NOT a gentleman!
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Doll,

Don't let it bother you. One thing you can't control is ones lack of concern for their own personal cleanliness/hygiene. Next time they ignore your request for a shower. Bid them goodbye. or again as you did, deal with their stench.
I personally would of shown him the door.

Also, as for him being cold after he nutted. There's many like him!
Some men shut themselves off like that, when they partake of this lifestyle. All you can do is bid him goodbye (regardless if he reciprocates it or not) and choose to see him again or not.
You can't change who who these men are or how they act. But you can be in control of going forward and enjoying the date or foregoing it all together.






Here I go venting again....

I don't know how to start, I've been sitting here for about a hr since my last appt and I just feel a little bothered on what took place. Maybe he needs a review.....
Anyways well it felt like all was going to be a ok session he was extremely nice and talkative on the phone. This guy is a newbie, so i kept asking questions and stayed on the phone to make sure he was legit. He comes in and I noticed he is in PT worrkout clothes I say " oh you went running this morning??!" He replies that he had pt earlier and he just got finished and came right over

I OFFER/Insist on him showering up for me, but he grabs some wipes instead and asked to wipe off. WOW. I told him I'm a germaphobic and he still ignored it.
I'm at this point I'm TURNED OFF but still goes in like a champ. I perform my duties as best I could, now here were it gets weird(or is this just me). He only wants to do doggy he is done, slides out, puts his clothes back on takes condom,wipes he used from before, and walks out without evening waiting for me to come out of the restroom. That's crazy as hell.he didn't sy thanks. He didn't say that's was ok. He didn't say anything to me after he Nutted. I wasn't even dressed before I herd my front door clothes. (My Private Incall residence, non notel)

I'm so mad that I gave him fs. It's because I'm nice that I didn't go off on his ass.
Instead I post his terrible actions on the web and tell u ladies to pm me for info on this not so Gentle man!!
Just a typical guy (asshole), after he gets the pussy he acts like he never wanted you. Thass something you do to a broad whom you never plan on calling again.....hmmm Na that's not it he was A Class A Jerk
Xoxo
Jucci Originally Posted by me_jucci
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Yikes....
So sorry to hear that....OMG
Hmmmm I'm always going to treat you like a lady , but want you to act like a prostitute !
Go figure ?
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Just a typical guy (asshole), after he gets the pussy he acts like he never wanted you.
Jucci Originally Posted by me_jucci
I hope for your sake and all the other ladies out there that this isn't the case. After reading your post I realize how lucky I am that I didn't grow up with any sexual hangups. As far as what happens when I come is that I continue to enjoy the company of the lady, the last thing I want to do is get up and leave! And the thought of going to an appointment straight from working out and being all sweaty is gross. I always shower before I head over and if I manage to work up a sweat I always ask for a shower when I get there.

I hope you have better luck in the future.
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I am going to analyze his actions from your story. He kept you in the K-9 position because it shows dominance and masculinity. He clearly has insecurity issues. The reason for leaving abruptly is a sign of disappointment and discuss in his self and in the act. Buy taking the condom and wipes is a sign of paranoia. The reason for not showering is that in his mind he was doing a filthy act and there was no reason to clean up for you. The boy was clear not hugged enough as a child. There is no excuse for that type of behavior. Originally Posted by Salsa man
Truu!!!
I like this. This made me smile because that's what I was thinking.....

Thanks guys I'm just glad it's over!,
Sorry. While some awkwardness and stiffness is to be expected from a noob (myself included...), he sounds like a douchebag in real life, period.

But you raise a problem that goes well beyond any particular jerk - the overall unfortunate social attitude of stigma and disdain towards providers, which - just as unfortunately - is shared by some hobbyists. Plain and simple, many are simply intellectually and morally incapable of wrapping their heads around the fact that a provider lady is a real, normal person just like everybody else, and entitled to the same basic decency and respect as any other human being.

I'm sorry that y'all have to endure all this, but please remember that there are also many people out there that don't think any less of you just because of what you do. Besides, y'all are usually far more pleasant people than any run of the mill banker or politician (now, those folks really ought to be ashamed of what they do...!)
Babe, this is why it's best to stay away from virgins/ newbies, most of the percentage, nothing good comes from them. Yuck.
Hmmmm I'm always going to treat you like a lady , but want you to act like a prostitute !
Go figure ? Originally Posted by The Rover
Hhmmmm, cough cough, clears throat, I'm sorry, excuse you, but WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOUUUU talking bout??!!
Thanks for sharing the story. That was horrible of him to treat u like that.
Wow! That sucks. I can't relate, but I really hate being treated like a walking wallet.

You have the power to refuse someone, just like we have the power to walk away.
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Sorry. While some awkwardness and stiffness is to be expected from a noob (myself included...), he sounds like a douchebag in real life, period.

But you raise a problem that goes well beyond any particular jerk - the overall unfortunate social attitude of stigma and disdain towards providers, which - just as unfortunately - is shared by some hobbyists. Plain and simple, many are simply intellectually and morally incapable of wrapping their heads around the fact that a provider lady is a real, normal person just like everybody else, and entitled to the same basic decency and respect as any other human being.
.I'm sorry that y'all have to endure all this, but please remember that there are also many people out there that don't think any less of you just because of what you do. Besides, y'all are usually far more pleasant people than any run of the mill banker or politician (now, those folks really ought to be ashamed of what they do...!) Originally Posted by tylerd564

I guess your right too I apologize if I made newbies seem crazy. They can learn a lot in the beginning. I'm heare to give experiences you can't get at home. And BTW I'm a sweet girl, only til the guy starts acting crazy.


Babe, this is why it's best to stay away from virgins/ newbies, most of the percentage, nothing good comes from them. Yuck. Originally Posted by ExoticEzra
Hhmmmm, cough cough, clears throat, I'm sorry, excuse you, but WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOUUUU talking bout??!! Originally Posted by ExoticEzra
. Still trying to figure that out