Well, being neither fat nor short, I did cringe reading that blog. Granted, it's your business and your right to make your choices, but the attempt at humor just smacks of bigotry. Just simply putting it on your requirements or stating somewhere you have a weight limit would suffice. I wouldn't question your right to choose who you see, much the way we pick and choose providers, but when you put it out there and attempt to cover your disdain with poor humor, I think it cheapens you.bigotry [see below]??? i wouldnt go that far in characterizing Alex's thoughts and questions.
That's not being a hater, don't know you, but just my observation. Anytime you use a segment of society for your personal gain, which in this case is you trying to be funny and stay relevant with your blog, than I find it distasteful. We're not talking being overly politically correct, just within normal societal boundaries of good taste. Now seeing as obviously providers operate outside the socially acceptable norm, maybe you feel it's ok and makes for good reading. I don't know. I guess we afford prisoners the same right, why not you? Coming from your own blog "I never had a thick skin, and being in this business shockingly didn’t make it any thicker. I didn’t like hanging around mean girls." If you reread your blog and put yourself in the the big boys' place or any big man reading that, haven't you become the 'mean girl'? Originally Posted by Sa_artman
everyone, and i mean everyone, uses some sort of preferences or criteria or questions or likes when getting ready to perform some action, being it eating, driving, walking, singing, enjoying art, existing, surviving, and being sexual. the preferences may be simple or they may be complex.
if you claim you dont have preferences, then that probably means you'd live anywhere on planet earth, eat any kind of plant or animal, wear any or no clothes [regardless of the climate], and get it on w/ any other human being.
[an aside: see http://eccie.net/showthread.php?t=71232 for a discussion of preferences]
does the use of that criteria for her "personal gain" have something to do with your "distastefulness" toward her use of it??
turning tables around, if you would only consider employment for an organization that will pay you in mid 6 figures, is that distateful??
and i dont even see where she interjected humor into her post. or, as you said, "cover your disdain with poor humor, I think it cheapens you."
she just asked "is weight any different?" and "Would hobbyists be offended if it was asked?"
perhaps you are reading way too much into her post.
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wrt alex's question, my answer is no, it's just another criteria that one can use. and as long as alex states it clearly and upfront, i dont have a problem with her using that criteria.
one woman i've considered charges more for men over 50, in which category i now reside. do i consider that unusual? kinda. do i consider that discriminatory? yes [see below] do i consider that offensive? no
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bigotry n.
1. stubborn and complete intolerance of any creed, belief, or opinion that differs from one's own.
2. One who is strongly partial to one's own group, religion, race, or politics and is intolerant of those who differ.
—Synonyms
1. narrow-mindedness, bias, discrimination.
Word Origin & History
1670s, from Fr. bigoterie "sanctimoniousness" (see bigot).
1590–1600; < MF (OF: derogatory name applied by the French to the Normans), perh. < OE bi God - "by God "
Word History: Bigots may have more in common with God than one might think. Legend has it that Rollo, the first duke of Normandy, refused to kiss the foot of the French king Charles III, uttering the phrase bi got, his borrowing of the assumed Old English equivalent of our expression by God. Although this story is almost surely apocryphal, it is true that bigot was used by the French as a term of abuse for the Normans, but not in a religious sense. Later, however, the word, or very possibly a homonym, was used abusively in French for the Beguines, members of a Roman Catholic lay sisterhood. From the 15th century on Old French bigot meant "an excessively devoted or hypocritical person." Bigot is first recorded in English in 1598 with the sense "a superstitious hypocrite."
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discriminate
–verb (used without object)
1. to make a distinction in favor of or against a person or thing on the basis of the group, class, or category to which the person or thing belongs rather than according to actual merit; show partiality: The new law discriminates against foreigners. He discriminates in favor of his relatives.
2. to note or observe a difference; distinguish accurately: to discriminate between things.
-verb (used with object)
3. to make or constitute a distinction in or between; differentiate: a mark that discriminates the original from the copy.
4. to note or distinguish as different: He can discriminate minute variations in tone.
