Still sorta disturbed...

Goggle Mick Hucknell

Some women enjoy this type of thing. But personally I think it should be discussed beforehand. Originally Posted by Janele

x1000 what she said. It goes both ways. If you have fetish, talk about them.

(lots better to know before the heat of passion ) Originally Posted by JohnHeart

+1

I love this kind of play, but in the hobby I can't think of more than one person I've ever gone there with..... its just scary not knowing if your partner is concentrated on you- there are so many subtle signs of *STOP* when you know each other very well, and you simply cannot establish those with someone you randomly play with.

I do not plan on seeing her again..I liked the sicko stuff we did but that is just too much. Thanks for the insight and links. Originally Posted by notanewbie

It's interesting when we find ourselves in a highly erotic situation, it's hot, you're in the moment and do things that afterwards you ask yourself, "Why"?

I would think it would be a wee bit challenging to yell out the safe word while being choked. I would guess sign language would be the alternative.


Now what was that sign safe word I'm suppose to look for???

amateurs

There have been a few topics about this subject. Although it's sexy, I've certainly done it and had it done to me, it's exceptionally dangerous. People have been jailed for accidentally killing their sexual partner.

Even the high level kinksters tend to shy away from it. This is the best essay that I've read, by Jay Wiseman, about choking and his thoughts on it from the perspective of once being an EMT and now, an attorney. It's really good reading:

http://www.jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_B...irst_Essay.php

I'll try to find the other topics for you to peruse. Just remember, it's in those moments of hot passion that a partner wants something. But a man's hands are VERY strong and if you don't know about pressure points, etc., someone could be seriously injured.

I, personally, believe that it shows good sense to have stopped when you did after she begged for more.

Elisabeth

P.S. Seemed like a hot time!

Edited to add: http://www.jaywiseman.com/SEX_BDSM_BreathPlayMain.php This is the most recent of articles concerning breath play with links. Very good source of information. Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

Thank you for posting that link, Elisabeth. I wish I had found that information a year ago. I got sucked into this by a provider who decided I was safe and asked me to do it to her. I had NO CLUE what I was doing. Tried doing some research but didn't know the correct terms. She was always frustrated with me that I couldn't (wouldn't is more accurate) choke her harder. As this request/complaint of my performance ramped up over a couple of sessions I chose to stop seeing the provider. I don't think it is anything I am ever willing to do again. It was like a drug to her, and that scared me more than my fears of doing it wrong.

I love being choked out! It's like, you wake up out of nowhere, having an orgasm over your entire body. It's not something I do everyday, mind you. Nor would I ever be one over those people who obsesses over this fetish, has to have it. But if the two right people do it, it is unlike anything else.
I only do it with my partner. I'm not opposed to ever doing it with anyone else, but I would have to completely know them and trust them, also they have to be an experienced dom.
Not first date stuff lol.

In all of my play, I've never been choked to unconsciousness. I'm glad that the feelings are just in describable and delicious, but I do worry for you if you keep doing it.

There are just so many variables. Perhaps JaneBondage could shed some light on this condumdrum?

Thanks for your post, Rosemary. "Rosemary" is a beautiful name and it was actually on my short list of names when I was deciding who I would be.

Otherwise ... a welcome to JaneBondage. I believe that you've posted here before and for many of us, we are somewhat inexperienced with some of these activities.

That is why we have this forum! (And it ain't Fetlife. I love Fetlife, but this is a bit more gentler in context.)

Hugs,
Elisabeth

I can say they have gotten pass "vanilla sex"and looking for more edge. However, it is sad that they desire it and with unwilling partners. I know that all top well
Not everyone can do it. And she should respect that and give you the passionate experience you need. I. Like a balance perhaps being a Libra.

I have to thank you all for your posts. Erotic choking has long been a huge turn on for me. It's not the losing consciousness that turns me on, it's the level of submission. Funny thing is, whenever I have wrapped my hands around my partner's neck, it's been pretty gentle (a gentle choke, I know it's an oxymoron...)

EW - I read the essay. I'll never go near the losing consciousness thing again! Many thanks.

Having a partner who allows me to place my hands around her neck is still a huge turn on. I also had a girlfriend who wanted me to slap her when she came. I tried it...we were both in the middle of some great sex, but slapping is something I could never do again.

Now...ass spanking? That's awesome! And fodder for a whole other post...

amateurs Originally Posted by JaneBondage

lol.

I was part of a very diverse accomplished group. We lost a married couple to this. They loved the spix. Taught on it, showcased it, mentored it. Was a part of their 20+ years of married life & was part of teh push to go into the scene. Great couple, wonderful people. Until she died and he went to prison for involuntary manslaughter. No argument could overcome the "you knew it was deadly" stance of the court. Course that was in the 90's & in AL. So....

Nope. Not on any of my agendas.

Its just like anything else..... you have to know what you are doing...and you must be going for intoxicating scenes without substances...... I was a member of this previously it is a good resource
http://www.br.org/

This whole thread reminded me of this.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u_hYAWUk5F0
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1hnDs8TuSb0

Join fetlife.com. There's a whole community of people into alternative kinks. Originally Posted by YummyMarie

So I joined because I'm a freak in the sheets not in the streets and IF I HAD KNOWN THERE WAS SO MUCH TO KNOW ABOUT FETISH....

I would have gone to college for it!!!

I LOVE FREAKS!

takes one to know one though, doesn't it?

Cali