References

i get it. you refused to change his colostomy bag.

O...M...G... That was a bad choice of wording. Lol! Honest mistake. He is in the present BUT he moved on to a younger and more submissive Philly other than myself. LMAO! What can I say?? I'm bossy. Originally Posted by Gemma34

Then I need his instruction book. Just thinking of the future...and in case he's not around at 92. Originally Posted by bartipero

LMAO! You're too much hun.

i get it. you refused to change his colostomy bag. Originally Posted by clusterlizard

OMG! That too.... Hehe

So, I'll ask. What is the purpose of references? I would imagine it is to find out; 1) LEO, and 2) safety(?). Are there other reasons I'm unaware of?

I'm curious because I can't think of a way to reasonably navigate your criteria in order to see you; if I don't currently have references, assuming those references meet your needs.

I get that you have to be comfortable and of course you can do what you like. I just don't see how a person gets from "A" to Gemma? I could attempt to build up references but how do I know the references I have are the references you accept? I must be missing something.

I WONT accept a lady as a reference:
I know she is a 'managed' lady
I think she may be a 'managed' lady
She is a high volume provider
She sees newbies regularly
Her screening process is much too simple or inadequate or just weird
Her behavior is tacky and/or shady
She has had more than one negative review
She has a 'new' provider friend all the time
She posts on BP frequently Originally Posted by Gemma34

I get that you have to be comfortable and of course you can do what you like. I just don't see how a person gets from "A" to Gemma? I could attempt to build up references but how do I know the references I have are the references you accept? I must be missing something. Originally Posted by Passerby

Well if you do your research when you set up sessions with other providers then you should know whether you're seeing a managed provider or not. The rest of my reasons are based on my knowledge and observations. And plenty of people get from point A to Gemma. Have you ever tried? Shortly after posting this thread I received a lot of pms from gentlemen who already knew what ladies I WOULDN'T accept references from. Most guys know who the reputable solid ladies are.... however, if you are uncertain, just ask me! I don't bite!

I'm curious because I can't think of a way to reasonably navigate your criteria in order to see you Originally Posted by Passerby

What part is so confusing about it? I'm confused as to why you're making this more difficult than needbe. Provide solid references, that's all there is to it.

Im with you Gemma! I will only accept references from WELL KNOWN ladies on here, with a good rep, p411 id helps, and still in the business. I have been VERY careful in the business and so far, had a great experience.

I'm all for being safe, but this is the reason there's a market for traveling &/or managed girls in the first place. I don't participate in the hobby frequently enough to have 2 current references... from girls who also won't see you without 2 references. So, I'm left with no choice but to see those girls that don't qualify according to your list. I've been around since the old ASPD days & had a few reviews there. Heck, I've been I'm this hobby longer than some of these girls have been in business... the same girls who scoff art my lack of references. There's got to be some other criteria that can also be used. Do I need a P411 account? Would that help?

I would think all that other stuff is unimportant if the provider is honest and accurate.