It is never ok!

I think the "No advanced notice required before noon." statement is very confusing. Why say that at all...based upon what you said you always require advanced notice and an appointment time to be set. So, to say "No advanced notice required before noon." is confusing. So, maybe he just got confused and didn't understand your text. I doubt anyone would just come by without an appointment. Originally Posted by bueller22

She cleared that up in a few posts before yours. She game a summary of what was said; she didn't say the words "No advanced notice required before noon."
According to her she was very clear that he was NOT to come over unless invited, and he came anyway.

Apparently she let him know exactly what he did wrong, and he turned around and left.

I think the "No advanced notice required before noon." statement is very confusing. Why say that at all...based upon what you said you always require advanced notice and an appointment time to be set. So, to say "No advanced notice required before noon." is confusing. So, maybe he just got confused and didn't understand your text. I doubt anyone would just come by without an appointment. Originally Posted by bueller22

The posts above explain everything clearly. As mentioned the full text cannot be be posted as it's against board policy so a simple summary was what I posted. As for your last comment actually he did just come by and I have the text message to prove it along with an ass chewing for showing up with out a time and appointment being set. I have been on the boards since aspd days and have read many alerts about hobbyists and providers showing up unannounced at peoples homes just like you see the alerts here and there about providers spamming hobbyist personal cell phones. Shit like this does happen and thats why I posted this to alert to some and warn others that its not ok. I dont post bullshit and have a great reputation so I wouldn't just say he showed up if he didnt... what do I have to gain?

Nope no apology just said farewell I will leave you alone. Thats why im so mad. He wants things safe and discreet which im all for but I didnt get the same. An im sorry goes a long way. Im a really sweet girl but not cool when you do something like that. Originally Posted by Britttany_love

Dementia. Did you consider dementia? Sad as it sound it can onset early. I'm betting on dementia. It explains a lot.

It still sucks, but it would explain a lot.

I hate being txt'd when I have not initiated the text, and I use a hobby number. There is no excuse for this for any reason. You are not a "place of business" that advertises, lends itself to, eludes to anyone showing at any time unannounced. Common sense and respect dictate that unspoken rule. In fact, I seldom show up at personal friends home unannounced. So sorry there are complete idiots out there.

Dementia. Did you consider dementia? Sad as it sound it can onset early. I'm betting on dementia. It explains a lot.

It still sucks, but it would explain a lot. Originally Posted by LordBeaverbrook

He is in his maybe late 20s early 30s.,, so most definitely not dementia... wish it was then he wouldnt have remembered my address from when we met a long while ago.

I hate being txt'd when I have not initiated the text, and I use a hobby number. There is no excuse for this for any reason. You are not a "place of business" that advertises, lends itself to, eludes to anyone showing at any time unannounced. Common sense and respect dictate that unspoken rule. In fact, I seldom show up at personal friends home unannounced. So sorry there are complete idiots out there. Originally Posted by onei

Exactly ty sweetie.

He is in his maybe late 20s early 30s.,, so most definitely not dementia... wish it was then he wouldnt have remembered my address from when we met a long while ago. Originally Posted by Britttany_love

I was going to suggest that as a happy ending, he will forget the addy and you, but you beat me to it. Oh well, I tried

I hate being txt'd when I have not initiated the text, and I use a hobby number. There is no excuse for this for any reason. You are not a "place of business" that advertises, lends itself to, eludes to anyone showing at any time unannounced. Common sense and respect dictate that unspoken rule. In fact, I seldom show up at personal friends home unannounced. So sorry there are complete idiots out there. Originally Posted by onei

That is what I was thinking!!! I always call a friend before coming over....
I don't ever text or call my clients.... and I only save their number if they want me too. This whole situation is crap on his end... he knew better.... maybe his other head was bringing him to the last place he had a great time!!! haha still not right..... he should have at least said "I'm sorry" as he walked away in shame....

Some providers freely text random people they've seen in the past.... they think it's ok to text just because you've given your number to them.... then you get a "hey baby come get this pussy" or "hey baby I'm in town come see me." I think clients have a problem with this...

1. The first text is not becoming of your image as a female.... unless you're looking for this type of clientele... as for the second text....
2. A HUGE % of these guys ARE married or have an SO
3. These guys aren't atm's try not to make them feel as such....

4. Use TACT!!!!

That is crazy, I would have been livid. SMDH