The Pretty Woman Syndrome

I’ve never fallen in love with a client. There are some though that has transcended the financial barrier into true and wonderful friendships. Could I fall in love in the demi-world? It’s possible I suppose. It was possible to forge friendships with people that I genuinely love.

I’ve never fallen in love with a client. There are some though that has transcended the financial barrier into true and wonderful friendships. Could I fall in love in the demi-world? It’s possible I suppose. It was possible to forge friendships with people that I genuinely love. Originally Posted by OliviaHoward

You haven't fallen in love yet ... simply because you have never eaten my cooking. (*grin*)

You haven't fallen in love yet ... simply because you have never eaten my cooking. (*grin*) Originally Posted by Laurentius

Mmmmmm, you're a good cook..............I think I'm in love already

Yep, I did it and I should have realized it was a demo (just one long list of many lies). Would I do it again? Not on your life with a provider who still wanted to be in the biz after telling me. Life is way too short to have to deal with all the lies. Originally Posted by PhantomofTheOpera

That is of course the conundrum. The ladies who are successful are supposed to make you feel that good. Figuring out what is real and what is memorex is of course the real challenge. But when it is real it is, IMHO, worth it, whatever the risks are. Relationships are always a risk, whether in demi-land or in civvie (hate that word lol) land. Originally Posted by discreetgent

You are right DG about relationships being a gamble and, true, it is a conundrum. Yet, I would have much preferred the short Memorex version because until the lines were crossed with the lies from her, fun times were being had by both of us in a good NSA/P4P arrangement. In this instance, it was a waste of my time, energy, money and not worth the ugliness I saw from her. I am thankful I moved on but what would make it complete is if she would do the same.

The ladies who are successful are supposed to make you feel that good. Figuring out what is real and what is memorex is of course the real challenge. Originally Posted by discreetgent

It's really not that hard, if the lady tells you that there is no need to leave an envelope any more...it's real. Otherwise.....it is what it is.

Have you ever fallen in love with a client or provider or have they ever fallen in love with you? If yes, what did you or do you do? Originally Posted by Alex Lieberman

Yes and we dated for 5 years. (6 years if you count the first year of non-civilian dating.) After a few months, there was no need for me to play in the demi-land anymore. I was getting all I was looking to get out of the demimonde (financially, emotionally and physically) from this one person. It was wonderful. Should a right person come along again, I'm certainly open to another relationship.

It's really not that hard, if the lady tells you that there is no need to leave an envelope any more...it's real. Originally Posted by Chica Chaser

That is the generally accepted rule in P4P; I know I used to think that until the experience I have written about occurred. Just be aware that it is not foolproof. Before someone goes there, the reasons why what Chica Chaser wrote would not be the case are irrelevant since there is very little reasoning in those situations. Instead ,there is more pure emotion while being caught up in the moment and in lust but certainly not love.

As this thread developed, it seems like the "fall in love ratio" is probably pretty close to real world. Sometimes two people click, sometimes they don't. Fancy that.

From my observations, it seems way more likely that the man falls than the lady. I know serial "I'm in love" guys but I've only known one situation that developed into a marriage et al. and he wasn't one of those IAL guys.

Ah affairs of the heart.....great thread Alex, Lauren you're indeed an old soul. I've often been amazed at statements such as, it's just business, only sex, or my favorite, it is what it is LOL. While true, the very things that make us return are what we seek between a man & woman. No one really goes looking for love. It has a way of happening almost unnoticed. To be honest I'm surprised it doesn't happen more LOL. ......Something for anyone who's felt love's pull.
"True hearts have eyes and ears, no tongues to speck; they hear and
see, and sigh, and then they break." Edward Dyer

Yes I have a crush on a client but it's just a crush nothing more and will pass.

Yes I have a crush on a client but it's just a crush nothing more and will pass. Originally Posted by Miss Molly

Yeah, well I've got a crush on your showcase and body type.

One of the nice things about this hobby is that you can become infatuated for several months and then move on without a problem. I think it is great to be infatuated with a provider as that makes the session incredibly hot which is the ideal. If both are infatuated, even better. You just have to leave it at the door at the end of the session and realize that those special feelings will end in a few months. It takes will power not to go beyond the hobby boundary but it is necessary to stay sane and not ruin your life. To me, the goal is finding a provider with whom you can fall in love. (I prefer the term infatuated rather than falling in love).

One of the nice things about this hobby is that you can become infatuated for several months and then move on without a problem. I think it is great to be infatuated with a provider as that makes the session incredibly hot which is the ideal. If both are infatuated, even better. You just have to leave it at the door at the end of the session and realize that those special feelings will end in a few months. It takes will power not to go beyond the hobby boundary but it is necessary to stay sane and not ruin your life. To me, the goal is finding a provider with whom you can fall in love. (I prefer the term infatuated rather than falling in love). Originally Posted by whitechocolate

So true brother...so true. I tend not to "fall in love" as falling in love means you fall out of it at well. There are higher peaks and lower valleys in VERY short periods of time. It is the intoxication of the new found infatuation that we deem "falling in love" only to find that it too has a hangover....and most often too quick behind the act of falling.

There are so many different kinds of love, sexual love, romantic love, infatuative love, brotherly love, parental...I could go on and on. Knowing what kind of love you feel, how it fits into your life and what you're going to do with it has much more impact than just acknowledging the feeling.

Me, I've had REMARKABLE experiences and relationships within the hobby...and I wouldn't give one of them up. They've been some of the most eyeopening reality checks I've known. I tend to bring my honest self into it looking for the connection we call "clicking." It can be thrilling and fulfilling. They become ATF's. They become friends... all of which are forms of love. I hope that each person I've come into intimacy with leaves a bit better for it.

This is the business of affection - love only follows. Just what form is the question.

And that....as they say, is my two cents worth!

There are so many degrees of love. The question is hard to quantify.I agree with the Dogger.