How do I tell her ?

she is not ideal, not the woman I ever thought I'd even date, but I'm not looking for the ideal women, I'm looking for someone who has the characteristics this girl had a few months ago
its me wanting a hot GF, like I used to have, Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

B. I. N. G. O! And there we have it folks! Babe, darling, sugar monster, sweet dreams.... U have answer ur own demon! She is NOT her! And her is NOT she! (the crap?! Lol)

What a disappointment. Getting everyone's opinion on a sincere cry for help. Boo this guy lol!

Look on the bright tho.... As I always like to say "there's always a light at the BEGINNING and END of the tunnel"

Now maybe... Just maybe... Letting her go... U can free urself to be back hunting for ur sweet tooth gfe like provider the way u like... Be like ophrah " eeeeeeeeveryone gets a pu**y succcccccck" show us what u made for
I kid I kid

B. I. N. G. O! And there we have it folks! Babe, darling, sugar monster, sweet dreams.... U have answer ur own demon! She is NOT her! And her is NOT she! (the crap?! Lol)

What a disappointment. Getting everyone's opinion on a sincere cry for help. Boo this guy lol! Originally Posted by MissGeisha

ok you lost me
I have my answer?

do you think everyone ends up with their "dream mate"?
I have a good car, I like my car, it is not my dream car.
Stil I will invest a few stitches to save my car because the alternative of having to go out and get another car is more of a hassle(or to stick with the analogy, nine stiches)
so I want to have this girl, whom I like very much(love??) change the one thing I am finding makes it tough to do my job(fuck her)

So now you're comparing her to a car lol...............take!! Dahlia's advice let her go. Tell her she not the one. Instead work on yourself not your body, but rather your soul.

"Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resit them, that only creates sorrow.
Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like."

Lao Tzu

ok you lost me
I have my answer?

do you think everyone ends up with their "dream mate"?
I have a good car, I like my car, it is not my dream car.
Stil I will invest a few stitches to save my car because the alternative of having to go out and get another car is more of a hassle(or to stick with the analogy, nine stiches)
so I want to have this girl, whom I like very much(love??) change the one thing I am finding makes it tough to do my job(fuck her)
Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

My friend yes u have ur answer... Clearly ur not willing admitting to accepting ur own answer (imagine that). I'm not sure why but ur making yourself, the situation and others more confused... Maybe bc ur a tad confused herself. Or maybe u just wanted to stir others up or get a good debate... Or get minds together... That I can understand and relate. However do I personally believe EVERYONE ends up with dream mates? Umm no. But I hope they try. I personally believe in soul mates... And I personally never settle in life (in general) and I know one day I will find him because I believe he's out there looking for me.. but that's another discussion. Like one other said... Dude now ur comparing her to a car? I can't. I can't deal. I just feel your ego doesn't allow a defect as to what u might be taking as... However This is getting unstimulating for me... So I'm walking away saying I hope u find peace and harmony with her or the next one and above all... Balance.

So now you're comparing her to a car lol...............take!! Dahlia's advice let her go. Tell her she not the one. Instead work on yourself not your body, but rather your soul.

"Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resit them, that only creates sorrow.
Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like."

Lao Tzu Originally Posted by everyman kc

huh?
we talked and she understands and wants to be sexy and healthy
she's going to join a gym near her work
talking about it has helped us become closer,
Dahlias idea of Not talking about it and going to find someone else as an answer(IE running away from an issue) made no sense
communication is key in any relationship

whats natural about using a computer?
your quote does not compute

My friend yes u have ur answer... Clearly ur not willing admitting to accepting ur own answer (imagine that). I'm not sure why but ur making yourself, the situation and others more confused... Maybe bc ur a tad confused herself. Or maybe u just wanted to stir others up or get a good debate... Or get minds together... That I can understand and relate. However do I personally believe EVERYONE ends up with dream mates? Umm no. But I hope they try. I personally believe in soul mates... And I personally never settle in life (in general) and I know one day I will find him because I believe he's out there looking for me.. but that's another discussion. Like one other said... Dude now ur comparing her to a car? I can't. I can't deal. I just feel your ego doesn't allow a defect as to what u might be taking as... However This is getting unstimulating for me... So I'm walking away saying I hope u find peace and harmony with her or the next one and above all... Balance. Originally Posted by MissGeisha

LOL
hilarious post "u, personally" made.

if there was anything I got from this thread and posters like "u" it is I am with someone who is above average and a diamond in the rough
you dont wonder why some ladies are where they are when they tell others not to communicate about a change in the relationship, but to take this change as a sign its not worth talking about and Run away,
LOL
that is hilarious

huh?
we talked and she understands and wants to be sexy and healthy
she's going to join a gym near her work
talking about it has helped us become closer,
Dahlias idea of Not talking about it and going to find someone else as an answer(IE running away from an issue) made no sense
communication is key in any relationship

whats natural about using a computer?
your quote does not compute Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

Sweetheart, TRUST me I would have the balls to tell the person the truth about why I was breaking up with them. Unlike you, I just would NOT ask them to lose weight in order to keep dating me.

You have just activated a bomb. She IS going to work her ass off to lose weight, get toned and be Sexy as fuck...
It just won't be for you LMAO!!!.

I'll sit back, sip on my Mexican coke and wait for the tsunami to hit after the earthquake. The earthquake being you asking her to lose weight.

It is appearant that you know nothing about women LOL...

LOL
hilarious post "u,personal " made.

if there was anything I got from this thread and posters like "u" it is I am with someone who is above average and a diamond in the rough
you dont wonder why some ladies are where they are when they tell others lol! t to communicate about a change in the relationship, but to take this change as a sign its not worth talking about and Run away,
LOL
that is hilarious Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

Well I could have sworn u asked something personal smh. Mr big penis vagina licker lol... I find this very comical even more comical at first u was talking about potentially leaving.. Now u said "diamond in the rough" (laughing profusely) when earlier she was ur diamond in the gutt! lol. I'm sorry to be a female ass hole but this guy here... Cracks me up

Sweetheart, TRUST me I would have the balls to tell the person the truth about why I was breaking up with them. Unlike you, I just would NOT ask them to lose weight in order to keep dating me.

You have just activated a bomb. She IS going to work her ass off to lose weight, get toned and be Sexy as fuck...
It just won't be for you LMAO!!!.

I'll sit back, sip on my Mexican coke and wait for the tsunami to hit after the earthquake. The earthquake being you asking her to lose weight.

It is appearant that you know nothing about women LOL... Originally Posted by Urban Dahlia

not knowing anything about how to generalize/stereotype women is fine with me,

If I did that,I'd get called out on that also, right?
so which way do you go?

generalize or get to know someone and talk with them?

we are people, in a relationship that has open communication. I did lay down any ultimatum, like do this or ELSE
and I certainly didnt use any trigger words
LOL
have you ever been in a loving relationship?

Well I could have sworn u asked something personal smh. Mr big penis vagina licker lol... I find this very comical even more comical at first u was talking about potentially leaving.. Now u said "diamond in the rough" (laughing profusely) when earlier she was ur diamond in the gutt! lol. I'm sorry to be a female ass hole but this guy here... Cracks me up Originally Posted by MissGeisha

LOL
I actually thought the same thing and thought someone would say:
above average!???
yeah in the fat ass deptarment



but my intervention(if you want to be extreme) seems to have nipped this in the butt.
It helps a lot that when the health issue came up, her mom had breast cancer and her dad got diabetes and is on BP meds.
so she is happy that I'm full of knowledge and I'd help her with whatever goal she wants.

which is great for her and me,
I was able to bring it up in such a manner to not make her think it was my idea she drop fat
Talking about my own health concerns and my self-deprecating humor about the issue and then having a solution to my issues and showing her I follow through to fix myself(remember I gained some fat too) has made her want get back into shape also

I think most of the posters here are funny and the level of "I KAN post and i kan be unhelpful and tri 2 b degrading" is hilarious

Keep it up, yall

LOL
I actually thought the same thing and thought someone would say:
above average!???
yeah in the fat ass deptarment

Take a asshole to know a asshole lol!

[QUOTE} but my intervention(if you want to be extreme) seems to have nipped this in the butt.
It helps a lot that when the health issue came up, her mom had breast cancer and her dad got diabetes and is on BP meds.
so she is happy that I'm full of knowledge and I'd help her with whateverl Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

^^ good boyfriend

Full of something but I doubt it is knowledge.

not knowing anything about how to generalize/stereotype women is fine with me,

If I did that,I'd get called out on that also, right?
so which way do you go?

generalize or get to know someone and talk with them?

we are people, in a relationship that has open communication. I did lay down any ultimatum, like do this or ELSE
and I certainly didnt use any trigger words
LOL

have you ever been in a loving relationship? Originally Posted by bigcockpussylicker

___________________________


"Just The Facts Ma'am..." ~Dragnet~

(1) Yes lol.

(2) You are a HUGE Tool lol.

Nice try Jack Ass LMAO. "Gotta Get Up Earlier Than That Mr. Farmer". ~Funny Farm~.

^^ good boyfriend Originally Posted by MissGeisha

yes, I am thanks!
being aware of what others might say, that is a bad thing?
nope.
I treat her great, and that's all that matters.