Preparing to leave the hobby for love; should you say something?

I made NO generalizations at all as its implied that I am speaking in reference to the providers I have dated or to those with the aforementioned mindset Originally Posted by rmrstyle23

I meant no offense. That may have been a little bitterness on my part taken out unfairly on you. I have met with some gent's who have told me how refreshing it is to spend time with a woman who is not only attractive and affectionate, but can also carry on a mature conversation about current events, business, politics, old pop culture references, etc. I will ask if they you usually see younger providers, and the answer is often yes. My response is, well what do you expect? There are some exceptions (I know some), but for the most part why would you expect a girl who is barely legal to be able to, or to want to, engage in an intelligent conversation at this level? If all you want is hot sex with a firm body and cute face, then by all means go strictly for that. But if you also you want someone you can converse with on your level and not have to dumb down your language, maybe you should reconsider your selection criteria so that you alleviate disappointment.

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I meant no offense. That may have been a little bitterness on my part taken out unfairly on you. I have met with some gent's who have told me how refreshing it is to spend time with a woman who is not only attractive and affectionate, but can also carry on a mature conversation about current events, business, politics, old pop culture references, etc. I will ask if they you usually see younger providers, and the answer is often yes. My response is, well what do you expect? There are some exceptions (I know some), but for the most part why would you expect a girl who is barely legal to be able to, or to want to, engage in an intelligent conversation at this level? If all you want is hot sex with a firm body and cute face, then by all means go strictly for that. But if you also you want someone you can converse with on your level and not have to dumb down your language, maybe you should reconsider your selection criteria so that you alleviate disappointment. Originally Posted by Gabriella Vega

When I was dating I always told the truth as soon as I knew I was going to sleep with the guy.

I don't think you have to say anything in the beginning, although stating you are in the adult industry, and will disclose more as time progresses is a good thing because then he won't feel as mislead when you do decide to tell the truth.

For me I always thought before we slept together was the right time to disclose, because anyone I am having sex with, and respect, deserves the right to know I am also sleeping with other men. Then it's up to him if he wants to move forward.

On the plus side of this for the ladies, during my time, I noticed the guys that accepted it have always been super confident men that wanted me to reach the stars regardless of how I got there, as long as I was happy and safe. And my SO, most will never understand, but he is a phenomenal man. I am a free spirit and he never holds me back, because he knows his place and knows I am always coming home.

Yeah you gotta have cheddar or else going back into the business is a real option for them. Originally Posted by Sistine Chapel

Very true. I need 100k a year just for me and that is a pressure I would never want to put on a man, ya know, unless he made 700k and up. Then my 100k worth of needs, seems more reasonable.

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And my SO...knows his place... Originally Posted by Brooke Wilde

Heh

Which one is he?

When I was dating I always told the truth as soon as I knew I was going to sleep with the guy.

I don't think you have to say anything in the beginning, although stating you are in the adult industry, and will disclose more as time progresses is a good thing because then he won't feel as mislead when you do decide to tell the truth.

For me I always thought before we slept together was the right time to disclose, because anyone I am having sex with, and respect, deserves the right to know I am also sleeping with other men. Then it's up to him if he wants to move forward.

On the plus side of this for the ladies, during my time, I noticed the guys that accepted it have always been super confident men that wanted me to reach the stars regardless of how I got there, as long as I was happy and safe. And my SO, most will never understand, but he is a phenomenal man. I am a free spirit and he never holds me back, because he knows his place and knows I am always coming home. Originally Posted by Brooke Wilde

^ this is interesting. So I'm totally trying to be sarcastic like Marlon and Damon Wayans but do you tell him right as the foreplay begins right when he's all hot and bothered. "Hey I'm in the adult industry I'm an escort" lol

Very true. I need 100k a year just for me and that is a pressure I would never want to put on a man, ya know, unless he made 700k and up. Then my 100k worth of needs, seems more reasonable. Originally Posted by Brooke Wilde

If he's taking care of you why would you still have 100k of needs. Is that for shopping and nails and all that vain shit?

I used to do a regular happy hour with a provider at a bar we both liked for a particular drink we both liked. We never talked about hobby stuff except for this thread topic. She always struggled with if to tell, when to tell, how to tell, etc. She never had relationship success in her opinion once she disclosed. We have drifted apart, so no idea if things got better for her on this topic.

^ this is interesting. So I'm totally trying to be sarcastic like Marlon and Damon Wayans but do you tell him right as the foreplay begins right when he's all hot and bothered. "Hey I'm in the adult industry I'm an escort" lol Originally Posted by Sistine Chapel

LOL. Of course not like that. It was always over dinner or while we were out taking a stroll.

If he's taking care of you why would you still have 100k of needs. Is that for shopping and nails and all that vain shit? Originally Posted by Sistine Chapel

I'm not really comfortable being taken care of per say, meaning I don't want to move into your house. You come to mine or we find a place together. I don't want to drive your cars. I don't want to ask for money. Some months not including bills I might only spend 2k and other months I may spend 8k and I just want to be able to do that at my freewill so I want to share a bank account. I want to make my own car note, pay my son's tuition, pay the phone bills. Ect. Plus all the girly stuff I require. And of course car modifications but I dont want to beg to be able to do these things but at the same time I don't want a man I love to work his fingers to the bone to provide for me, when I can contribute and lighten the load on him.

I'm not really comfortable being taken care of per say, meaning I don't want to move into your house. You come to mine or we find a place together. I don't want to drive your cars. I don't want to ask for money. Some months not including bills I might only spend 2k and other months I may spend 8k and I just want to be able to do that at my freewill so I want to share a bank account. I want to make my own car note, pay my son's tuition, pay the phone bills. Ect. Plus all the girly stuff I require. And of course car modifications but I dont want to beg to be able to do these things but at the same time I don't want a man I love to work his fingers to the bone to provide for me, when I can contribute and lighten the load on him. Originally Posted by Brooke Wilde

Wouldn't it depend on who's more established? It's hard for me to imagine how you can go from spending 2k some months to 8k in others especially not including bills. I mean what are you doing for 8k a month that doesn't include bills. If you're accustomed to such a spending range (more so on the 8k side) may I suggest you look into investing (different from saving) to get more on the back-end especially if you're thinking about college tuition and other things for the kids.

I can appreciate your desire to work. I think women should work in a relationship. Never be totally dependent on any guy; make your own money and have your own career. I love meeting women who are not worried about hair and nails and eyelashes but focused on tangible shit. So many plastic people running around out here giving the appearance of success and wealth (on social media and buying cars) when they don't have any real assets or financial worth. It's not even funny.

Of course the fellas won't say shit but this ain't about the fellas. lol

Ladies just wondering is it even worth it if you're not prepared or willing to tell your new 'successful entrepreneur' boyfriend upfront that you "used" to escort. Should you just get it out of the way and let the chips fall where they may to save yourself a ton of problems later on?

I ask this question because 1.) many girls come and go and find themselves coming back and 2.) a close friend of mine met a girl while working out and they started what he thought was serious dating. lol Anyhow, she was always evasive about what she did for a living and was always showing up for lunch in scrubs. I didn't really think nothing of it until he kept telling me how she doesn't like black guys. lol So he gave me her number and I checked it out and sure enough she was on a rub site full body profile and all. I gave him the link he confronted her and she denied it but it was obvious. About a week later she came clean (sobbing and all) by saying she doesn't sleep with guys but only does the hand jobs. I guess she gave him the hobby number instead of the real number which was her mistake given they met at a gym.

At any rate I can see the conundrum, if you say something he may reject you while still knowing what you do but if you say nothing then maybe he will or won't find out later on. Originally Posted by Sistine Chapel

Do you tell your wife a hooker sucks your cock better?

Was this friend of yours named Bumpy_Deek? Originally Posted by Dorian Gray

I Miss Bumpy he was fucking awesome

Do you tell your wife a hooker sucks your cock better? Originally Posted by Dorthy_Monroe

Wife or Girlfriend? Let me bring you up to speed ;-)