I just feel the need to say it..... regarding paying up front or after.....

Whispers's Avatar
Note that sometimes this kind of experience can happen before you have PA and access to ROS. That's how I was ripped off by my first on eccie. Originally Posted by rockerrick

Which is a good argument that newbies should pay until they can contribute and earn it..

BCD access is more valuable than the fee....
Really? 10 points for including a link to a university website that was relevant to the topic? Do people have no sense of context?! Jesus wept, sometimes I really feel like I'm surrounded by reta-wait! PC Check! the mentally challenged.



Let's keep the discussion to activities involving adults.

ztonk
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Originally Posted by ztonk
Which is a good argument that newbies should pay until they can contribute and earn it..

BCD access is more valuable than the fee.... Originally Posted by Whispers
Very true, too bad website does not come with user instructions.
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I pay in advance, although with a regular the timing is completely irrelevant. Pay in advance is what almost all ladies request, so I view this as part of the 'contract' when visiting them. I guess I would have to bring this up and negotiate if I didn't like the stated terms that include pay in advance.

Frankly, I don't see the big deal. Perhaps this is because I have never felt burned. Pay at beginning or pay at the end, it is just a matter of convention as long as I end up paying. Most retail makes me pay up front, but there are exceptions. (With restaurants, especially, the issue is that I order food and drink and dessert in increments, so pay in advance -- except at McDonalds -- is somewhat impractial. But haircuts also pay after delivery of service, and then there is usually no incremental ordering. Why is the convention pay in advance for BCD with an escort?)

Some want to change what is apparently the convention. Why? As noted above, if both provider and client behave themselves, it really does not matter when payment is delivered. Only someone taking the money and running would make this an issue, or someone taking the services and running without paying, or someone providing poor service and expecting full payment. So I guess those who care about when payment is made envision the other side possibly not behaving. This could be either the provider or client, of course. Providers may have more to fear in this regard and hence the pay in advance convention. But I do not know the statistics on cut and run by providers versus cut and run (or f*ck and run) by clients.

While I have never felt shortchanged on service from an escort, I can see the potential problem. One solution is the widely recommended screening. Didn't someone recommend that to (almost) make sure there would not be problems?

Oh well, just one opinion on this issue. Feeling confident in the lady and agreeing to pay in advance has never done me wrong, but I am sure others have had different experiences.
Really? 10 points for including a link to a university website that was relevant to the topic? Do people have no sense of context?! Jesus wept, sometimes I really feel like I'm surrounded by reta-wait! PC Check! the mentally challenged. Originally Posted by Reya Sunshine
Welcome to the infraction club.
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Really? 10 points for including a link to a university website that was relevant to the topic? Do people have no sense of context?! Jesus wept, sometimes I really feel like I'm surrounded by reta-wait! PC Check! the mentally challenged. Originally Posted by Reya Sunshine

Good to know I am not the only one pointed from time to time...

sixx
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I've always paid upfront even without being specifically requested to.

I think it helps by implying I've lived up to my part of the agreement - now it's her turn. It also puts her at ease, not worrying if I'm going to be a jerk about paying, which allows her to concentrate on my needs.

I have never been burned, and perhaps I'll change my ways if I ever do. But then again, maybe not since it works 99+% of the time. Where else are you going to get those odds?
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I never endeavor to change a woman's mind about how she conducts her business in this type of manner. Originally Posted by Whispers
But that is exactly what you are doing. No one pays first at a restaurant, but because you did and further make an analogy from maggiano's half assed Italian food to Austin's pussy is in very poor taste and way off mark IMO of course.

But in the spirit of things the women should be able to withhold the pussy till the money is presented. or are you saying that you can renegotiate after the deed?

otherwise this is a stupid fucking post. Unless she grabs the cash and dashes, asking them to render services to our satisfaction before paying is bullshit IMO.
Whispers's Avatar
But that is exactly what you are doing.

Nope.... Wrong again..... Just reminding newer guys and a few others that they are more at risk by paying up front. They are safer not doing it.

No one pays first at a restaurant, but because you did and further make an analogy from maggiano's half assed Italian food to Austin's pussy is in very poor taste and way off mark IMO of course.

of course.... you think it is all about the ladies and that they need to be catered to at all times..... I wouldn't expect anything different from you..... you probably are the kind of guy that will make excuses for her when she cuts your session short and delivers a half ass performance.. hell.. man... you probably tip for it....


But in the spirit of things the women should be able to withhold the pussy till the money is presented. or are you saying that you can renegotiate after the deed?

Ladies can do whatever they want. I could care less so long as they are not trying to tell me or other guys how WE have to spend OUR money....

I'm saying that guys have a better choice at having better experiences in the long run as well as exposing them self to less risk.....

Renegoitating after the deed? I would ask where the hell you got that but I've come to realize most of what you see that isn't there you are getting from the bottom of some bottle....


otherwise this is a stupid fucking post. Unless she grabs the cash and dashes, asking them to render services to our satisfaction before paying is bullshit IMO. Originally Posted by budman33
Or maybe it's on a billboard on the side of a pink elephant walking through the room you are in.....
levibob56's Avatar
When it's the first time I've met a provider I pay up front. If I go back I pay at the end.That's just now I like it.
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Really? 10 points for including a link to a university website that was relevant to the topic? Do people have no sense of context?! Jesus wept, sometimes I really feel like I'm surrounded by reta-wait! PC Check! the mentally challenged. Originally Posted by Reya Sunshine

I like it when you cuss.
It's hot!

Dang it! Have I been drawn in by a threAd ?
Rand Al'Thor's Avatar
I pay at the end of the month.