got here in a round about way [was checking out Lovely Lexy MILF's profile and postings and found her posting on this thread on 11-02-2012, 02:25 AM]...
a woman talking about her business is something that bugs me, too.
I get what your saying. regardless of how many men they fuck in an hour or a day.
It's TMI to be relating to the date within her presence at the moment. Most respectable men who Enjoy the hobby & women, as not just a means of treating women like an object as other men. Those kind respectable men simply do NOT want to know how many men the woman he's with, fucks/sucks in a day.
There's some things that need not be expressed!
Originally Posted by Wicked Milf
I think that even if a provider says she only see's 1-2 guys a day........you never really know.......some of us don't have the time to just fuck around all day hehe pun intended lalalala.........just giving my honest opinion
I also never talk about the hobby (I have shared a few details with guys I have been seeing for years or when a guy has a question or is just interested-but I would never make someone feel like they are on a assembly line lol) I like to think of our time as a casual encounter rather than a scheduled arrangement.
Originally Posted by XOXO Karla
... I get what your explaining Rover14 its not like I want to know how many providers a hobbyist does in a day. Its just not good pillow talk...
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Originally Posted by SENSUALCITA
ladies, i think that is what rover14 was talking about.
to me, it's just not very erotically stimulating to know how many guys and/or gals the woman has been with that day, week, month or year. nor how much money she has made! [one woman told me how she was able to buy her house & 5 cars and how she's making enough to support her younger kids and some nieces/nephews. - YIKES!!!].
i mean, how is that supposed to stimulate me to get into some intimate activities with her?? or maybe she was attempting to intimidate or belittle me or make me feel monetarily inferior to her??
or how about a woman telling me how her family life is filled w/ conflicts, how her boyfriend will be getting out of state pen soon, how she needs some money for rent or car payment, how many snakes live on her country farm, how she really doesnt like sex [she's just doing it to get enough money to move to florida], how she's gone w/ some hobbyists to a swinger's club and the fun they had there, etc. etc. etc.
ALL OF THOSE topics were related to me by women.
by women that i crossed of my go-visit-her list!!!
like XOXO Karla said, after i've had many encounters with a woman [over a year or years], we have had discussions about the hobby world or even real life activities. but discussions like that should not be the main focus of our encounter. and i'm not there to help them out of their predicament. i might offer empathy. and if she wants some ideas, i may give them.
i'm there for intimate delites!! i hope she's there for the same reason [or close enough].
if the shoe were on the other foot, how many folks would think that a provider would enjoy listening to or be erotically stimulated by a guy saying she was the 2nd, 3rd, 4th, or nth woman he'd been with that day, week, etc?? or how much money he has or the problems in his real world, or ....
bottom line, "be here, now!" especially on a first encounter!!
do what you can so that both parties enjoy their time together.
btw, XOXO Karla, i really like how you think about these engagements:
"
a casual encounter rather than a scheduled arrangement."
i also like to think of them as
encounters, tho
maybe more intimate and less casual.
and, when i want to "hide" them, i call them "consulting sessions."
Originally Posted by SENSUALCITA
