Why do some providers not want to be fingered?

I like to FIV from a 69 positon. I like to multi-task

I never do FIV, I'm always afraid my nails might hurt a lady. Besides, a tongue down there feels better anyway. Am I right?

I've only ever had two providers ask me to put my fingers in there and I declined. Originally Posted by pipefitter73

I would rather have a finger in my pussy than a tongue on my clit. Why did you decline?

I would rather have a finger in my pussy than a tongue on my clit. Why did you decline? Originally Posted by SarahAndFriends

I guess its because I just don't feel comfortable doing FIV out of fear that a nail will be sharp. Besides, I'd say most woman prefer DATY over FIV anyway.

People carry a lot of germs on their fingers/under their nails. And fingering a woman can cause her to get an infection. Fingering feels like an instant UTI coming on. If you've ever had a bladder infection, you know how uncomfortable that is. And that's exactly what it feels like the moment someone sticks a finger in the pussy.
Not to mention. Fingers in the pussy is one of the most unpleasant feelings ever! For me personally, It's not a turn on. The so called G spot your trying to finger is NOT there where your poking. It's simply not something some women enjoy.
It may NOT make sense to men. But it sure as hell makes sense to women who don't like it.

There is one NO in my sexual vocabulary. And that would be it!

I've heard from 'a friend' that some of the provider's he's had sex with would have a problem with fingers in the vagina. These same providers would have no problem with his penis, which is many times larger.

This never made any sense : a penis can have all kinds of STIs, not to mention that the semen causes pregnancy. A finger is smaller, gentler, and it helps my friend get in the mood because he likes feeling a hot, wet vagina in a way that he can't feel with his penis strangled in latex.

He wonders why that is. The providers are fine with a penis rammed in there over and over, but they don't like a gentle finger? How could that be? It's kind of like the rumored providers who won't kiss. Originally Posted by Habeed

I could not have said it better!! .....thanks wicked milf !!

I do like fingering if the guy does it right. Scraping my cervix does nothing for me, like some guys seem to think. I had a session about a week ago and I was literally like wtf are you doing, cut that out, because his finger was just exploring my vagina rather than bringing it pleasure.

Penises don't have nails and men watch entirely too much porn. Originally Posted by eccl3

There is NEVER too much porn.

There is NEVER too much porn. Originally Posted by pyramider

Point well taken. Poor choice of words.

I've never had a lady refuse to be fingered once we got started. It is part of foreplay in my book. You have to slowly build up to it. Kissing, caressing, rubbing, massaging, etc get a gal turned on. She should be well moist when you hands begin exploring the nether regions. It is all technique. When done right, you should hear small, shallow moan as your fingers gently separate her pussy lips and a finger is slowly inserted. Any guy who just jams his fingers in a lady is a cad.

Mmmmm, CP that sounds yummy. You definitely 'get it'. That should be a sticky somewhere.

As a big daty fan there's some great info here esp trimmed nails and don't use fingers as a speculum. But I've always gotten good results using fingers gently to allow better tongue access. Your tongue & her wetness should be doing the work. Fingers should only gently allow better labia access.

Of course, face sitting takes away that temptation to use fingers and lets her move and set a tempo which I prefer anyway. Nothing like getting direct feedback.

Spicegirl was here lurking, don't hold it against me unless it's a Big Fat
One!! lol

Plus, your imaginary "gentle" finger is so rare as to be nonexistent; while penises behave themselves indoors by standing rigidly erect, most men tend to let their fingers run wild like unruly children, wriggling them about madly as though they were trying to stretch out the inside of the vagina.

Your so-called "gentle" fingers are anything but; they're often acutely painful in a way penises aren't. Originally Posted by AngelOK

Angel,

Your strong tone makes me wonder if ladies have been feigning pleasure from my fingers over the years. I really understand the need for scrupulous hygiene and nail care and the need to gently insert a digit with permission (I always ask) and after sufficient warm up (usually DATY) but this unruly children thing has me thinking. I usually try to massage the G spot (at least that's what I am hoping) and I can do this enthusiastically if the lady seems to be responding, but from your post I am now feeling that I may be wasting valuable time on an activity shunned by many providers.

But I have to say one of my hottest experiences in the hobby was when a model perfect provider placed my two clean, manicured fingers in her vagina to help her get her final O after a long day in the saddle. It was thrilling to feel her vagina clamp on my fingers as she came hard and long. It was a good day for Awl4knot.

Although most women probably LOVE to be played with, many will not only have sharp nails and dirty hands like mentioned above, but they will start ATTACKING the clit and fingering us without ANY lube.

It HURTS!!!

Also, we're sensitive. Grinding a finger on the clit isn't the way for many to enjoy sexual activity. Also, if a woman hasn't even begun to get excited and a man shoves two dry fingers up her pussy, then she's going to say stop and quit it at best. Get pissed off or get tears in her eyes (it has happened to me) as another reaction.

Otherwise, it can be just a wonderful activity.

Elisabeth Originally Posted by ElisabethWhispers

So True! And some will try to shove too hard! The penis is softer and doesnt matter the size doesnt have the nails!
I personally might like it sometimes and hate it the others. It all depends if and how excited i am and how well the gent is doing wit other touches. I would say i like it 35% most of the time.

so maybe we need a course on nail management and etiquette huh.....

seems to me if the environment is correct...then the fingers can take a dip.