As another independent provider who's rate is all inclusive, I do not expect a tip either after outstanding service (which is what I provide regardless) nor should a gentlemen assume that the level of service he receives from me is dependent on if he tips or not and how much that tip is.
Of course, tipping is always appreciated and I never feel insulted when someone does. It has made me feel awkward on occasion though because let's face it...some tips or gifts come with strings attached in the form of entitlement to preferential treatment or are an attempt to take the relationship to a level that is not transactional.
In my opinion the best kinds of tip you can give are to have a polite, respectful and appreciative attitude, give genuine compliments on the provider and her performance, respect her boundaries, adhere to whatever scheduling policy she has, don't try to negotiate the rate down, don't have to be told "no" twice, arrive on time, etc.
I can't speak for other girls, but for me the little things like those will go a lot farther towards me remembering you than an extra $50 or $100. You will also have the extra piece of mind that it is you and our time together that I enjoy, not your practice of tipping...
Originally Posted by ms_elizabeth
ms elizabeth,
I truly like and appreciate your views here. You are a " class act " and your comments should be a MUST READ for any new providers ( as well as some of the existing providers ).
I hope that you have a happy holiday season and a great 2012.