I personally just don't like to book with guys who seem like they completely self-actualize from their life on this board. Makes me sad, like watching an old person crying alone on a bench. Worthy of sympathy, but not at all sexy.
And honestly, every time I have spoken mt mind on this board, I have gotten several appts out of it, or at least a couple of pms from both gentlemen and ladies saying thank you, or I enjoyed your post or some such thing. So, as one woman put it in our ladies section, may look like we are being bullied, but at the end of the day, we win. Most of the people on here are good folks, adults with appropriate boundaries and empathetic skills above that of a particularly intelligent chimpanzee.