do you consider having sex with a provider and walking away without paying rape?

Still Looking's Avatar
Not as much as you're into generalizations and minimally entertaining YouTube vids, though. Originally Posted by JadeRose
I'm starting to grow on you... aren't I?
I'd say no since everyone should be going in having the notion and agreement of donating for time. Donations, in theory, should never be discussed nor mentioned. No matter what happens bcd, it is irrelevant, to a point (see below). Now if the lady is not compensated for her agreed amount of time (sex does not even have to be part of it, could be anything), then it's theft.

Now if the provider strictly asks for X amount for X service, we have other issues at hand I think.

In either case, if a gent goes outside the boundaries of the provider and forces himself onto a lady after she declines to see him, or declines a certain activity, then it could be rape whether a donation is left or not. Just my thoughts, but who knows.
Not rape if they had consensual sex first. If he doesnt pay after he broke a verbal agreement to pay. But the contract wont be enforced by a court. So no crime is comitted. It would be a civil matter not a criminal case.
Whoa, dream big! "Top level high goal is "not raping." Lofty ambitions you speak of there stud.


The odds of a provider raping a dude seem kind of low, so who else should be thinking about what constitutes rape?

I get the whole "look asshole, if you think it might even conceivably amount to rape you shouldn't ever do it" argument (feminists who argue marriage is rape aside), but "what's rape" is a not a completely pointless thing to think about if one of your top-level life goals is "not raping".

I suppose someone somewhere might be like "I want to rape at least once, it's on my bucket list, but I'm not into that whole mask/alley scene and rufies are gauche. I wonder if I can find some way to do it technically so I can knock it off my list". But probably not. Originally Posted by irishlad
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Addressing the question in the poll, No, it is not rape.

Rape is when you force sex on someone else.
Theft of services, is when you sleep with someone, and don't compensate them after you agreed to.
Thankfully, providers have figured out to get paid first and that solves most of the not getting paid issue (aside from the guys who are willing to hit them to get the money back- but other than real screening with real names I don't see a way around that).
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I think when it happens to a lady you can feel raped or robbed.
You feel taken advantage of and well if you didn't get the donation up
front and he left you may even feel a little stupid. (IMO)


We all know how things work. We are not on here to hand out.
What is given out is only based upon agreement that it has or is
being compensated for. What they agree is being given out and how
much is between the original party but point is we know there
is something for something. When you go and take something and
this agreement is not into play then well, you can feel that way and
it makes since to. You were sexually taken advantage. She was coerced into
thinking she was doing something she was agreeing to when reality is
this is NOT what she agreed to.
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Not if she makes me a sammich after I rock her world
Still Looking's Avatar
Thankfully, providers have figured out to get paid first and that solves most of the not getting paid issue (aside from the guys who are willing to hit them to get the money back- but other than real screening with real names I don't see a way around that). Originally Posted by HobbyTranslationService
And thankfully some of us hobbyists have learned to pay AFTER so we don't become victims of the "I don't do that and you are paying me for my time" bullshit. Or the I need to give the money to my driver BS. Or the I need to go get covers. Or the phone call that requires you to leave the room. Or the opps I just started my period. And it eliminates the "well that will be extra" crapolla!
FWIW when you and I met up you always paid me in advance. Maybe that will narrow it down for you.

And thankfully some of us hobbyists have learned to pay AFTER so we don't become victims of the "I don't do that and you are paying me for my time" bullshit. Or the I need to give the money to my driver BS. Or the I need to go get covers. Or the phone call that requires you to leave the room. Or the opps I just started my period. And it eliminates the "well that will be extra" crapolla! Originally Posted by Still Looking
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FWIW when you and I met up you always paid me in advance. Maybe that will narrow it down for you. Originally Posted by HobbyTranslationService
He DID say he "learned" as in may have paid a few up front along the way....
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FWIW when you and I met up you always paid me in advance. Maybe that will narrow it down for you. Originally Posted by HobbyTranslationService
He DID say he "learned" as in may have paid a few up front along the way.... Originally Posted by Whispers
I don't think so.
I could send you an email and have you eat those words if you care about truth in the hobby as much as you claim.


I don't think so. Originally Posted by Still Looking
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I could send you an email and have you eat those words if you care about truth in the hobby as much as you claim. Originally Posted by HobbyTranslationService
HOBBYTRANSLATIONSERVICE= JADE ROSE BUT ON A DIFFERENT IP
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HOBBYTRANSLATIONSERVICE= JADE ROSE BUT ON A DIFFERENT IP
Originally Posted by LittleRedWagon
Jade Rose does fancy herself to be smarter than all of us..... She does have some experience with College Campuses!

It wouldn't surprise me. I believe her to be behind 2 other handles as well.