Why Is It So Tough To Walk Away From This Hobby?

Lots of different perspectives here.
Everyone has their own experiences and views them in certain ways,
Try to take all of this advice and meld it into something that you think would be best for YOU.

My thoughts about leaving the hobby world (and I've done it several times myself),
is that....well, what keeps me returning is the memorable moments and amazing people I've met,
adding to the fact that all is on the table and neither party has to hide shamelessly or make excuses.
It's always a mutual feeling that we somehow justify between us.

Look, I know you want to have a meaningful relationship and be "normal" in societies eyes. The fact is this hobby time will always be with you.
You can move on ..... but it is still part of your past and the rendezvous' will linger in your dreams.

Just learn balance, as so many have said. Financially and emotionally.

Perhaps, if you CHOOSE the providers who are more mature and can discuss with you how to make this transition ..... while also keeping up your mojo skills....there is nothing wrong with that.
FIND ONE ..... and stick with her.
Dont walk around with blue balls always looking for fresh pussy.

A relationship CAN actually be built here on ECCIE ..... but again you have to find one of the diamonds in the rough.
And by a "relationship", I mean someone who understands your dilemma and willing to guide you AWAY in some sense.

My next move in this type of service (since the law is breathing down) is to establish a counseling business.....
which will actually help gentleman learn how to not only hone in on their sensual skills (to attract a lady in the RW), but also help them with a plan to move forward to find THE ONE lady they want to commit to.

Don't beat yourself up.
ECCIE is a good place if you work it properly.
You did venture out .... just went a bit overboard.
Nothing you can't fix, just don't deprive yourself endlessly.


A last question ...... do you think you will compare your new lady with the providers you've seen .... like BCD?


Hugs,
Torre

Torre,

Thanks for sharing your perspective on this topic. Definitely, I’ve met so many wonderful providers over the years. Some of them became very close friends. And I’ve dated a few of these fine ladies as well. This place will always be a part of me, whether I’m completely out or not.

Y&M

Well, thank you for taking the time to read it ....

But one question still lingers....

WILL YOU compare your new lady BCD with the provider skills you've encountered on this board?

Do you think this might be an issue?

Well, thank you for taking the time to read it ....

But one question still lingers....

WILL YOU compare your new lady BCD with the provider skills you've encountered on this board?

Do you think this might be an issue? Originally Posted by Torre Tames

Yes, of course I will mentally compare her skills to the ladies whom I've encountered on this board. There are just so many awesome ladies on this board.

Torre,

Thanks for sharing your perspective on this topic. Definitely, I’ve met so many wonderful providers over the years. Some of them became very close friends. And I’ve dated a few of these fine ladies as well. This place will always be a part of me, whether I’m completely out or not.

Y&M Originally Posted by You&Me

I understand that, Y&M. I do not think there has been a day that I have known about this board that I have not logged on multiple times a day.

The real question is Why would you leave ,,,,,,,,,,,,,

OP -

stop your whining and disable your account already.. damn Originally Posted by honest_abe

H.A. keeping it honest, OP won't be gone long if he ever leaves. Why would anyone want to leave this candy land in the first place

To address the OP's question:

Most of the grass on the hobby side of the fence is brown. But we keep stumbling around, hoping to find a few blades of green because all of the grass on the home side of the fence is brown, has been forever, and always will be.

The fact that you want to leave is the start. Getting off this board and deleting your contacts would be the way I would go. You were able to leave for a couple of years before, so you know what may work.

Anyhow...Wish you the best on whatever you decide.

Why is it hard to leave?? This is the easiest way to bang pretty girls. Duh. When you’re old, fat, and ugly, there’s no convenient way to bang chicks half or a third of your age outside of involving cash. I’m sorry. There’s just no way. Maybe if you’re really charming, with rugged handsomeness, a physique half your age, or you have a lot of nice things, you can pull a few ladies. There are always exceptions. Women are just about as shallow as men when it comes to physical attraction.

I’ve resigned to the fact that I’m not young and handsome anymore, and this is who I am. Of course, I could GET this way with maybe days of dedicated self improvement (harder to do the older you get, btw). I’ll get out of the hobby when my dick stops working...or the love of my life knocks on the door. Right now, I don’t worry about getting out.

Want to get out of the hobby? Get yourself in shape, increase your net worth, spruce up your wardrobe. Outward appearance opens doors (to free pussy).

If you’re already at this point, walking away should be easy.

If you quit, send your bank and credit card account details to me.
Originally Posted by mtabsw

mtabsw It didn't work.

I've turn to class 3 NFA as a second hobby. Still not working.


Not trying to hijack this but I've been trying to quit or walk away. Just too hard to leave.

The shut down helped. I think I would need to delete my account to quit, but the question is do I want to really quit.

Y&M when you figure this out please let me know so I can join you.

A while ago, I was sitting with a dancer in a strip club, we had this very interesting conversation about the fun part of stripclubs and why me as customer was hooked into it and also her as a stripper/dancer was hooked to it as well.

I confessed to her I like to look at pretty ladies and get dances from them. In return, she also said she liked the money and the friends she made here. She told me more about why she can't quit but I can't write it here, though.

She feels lonely because she left her man and she can't hold any serious relationships right now because she is dancing and it makes her emotions run wild/go crazy, some customers can really have an effect on her. Perhaps when the right man shows up, she will quit dancing.

I told her about why I can't quit, plain and simple, too many beautiful ladies wanting to give me lapdances.

Same thing with the hobby, there's just too many pretty girls around here on Eccie.

She spent about close to 90 to 120 minutes talking to me in a nice corner of the strip club.

Bottomline here is basically I have to ride this one through, get down there and pull-up at the bottom.

It is the only way out.

OP- I've hobbied for decades. Even long before the aspd days, just not as often early on because the civilians were my preferred hunting grounds.

Not too long ago, I gathered all of my thoughts, and many of the thoughts expressed here.

I decided to never quit. It gives me too much pleasure.

What I've done that makes it much easier is I hobby several days a week but I decreased the variety of ladies dramatically.

This works well for me. There is something to be said about developing a closer relationship than not.

I have no interest in the flavor of the month.

Hope you find your piece!

"Why Is It So Tough To Walk Away From This Hobby?"

YOU'RE HORNY.

And you prefer pleasure-seeking instead of life enriching activities. You're no different to 98% of most Americans.


You like to bathe your brain in dopamine (pleasure) as opposed to serotonin (happiness/life satisfaction).



You can not satisfy pleasure-seeking behavior. If you continue down that rabbit hole, you will end up alone, old, bitter, hollow, and full of regret. You're consolation will be looking back and taking comfort in all the "fun" you had.


Good luck. ;-)