Who is actually "COOL WITH" (and can handle) having a Provider as an S.O.?

I think the fact you believe that says more about you. Originally Posted by Fort Worth Punk

Well, duh. I'll bet you blew the top out with your SAT scores.

I enjoy being a cuckold. So I can only dreamof having a gf as Serivce provider

I wanna be Jules' boyfriend so I can find out.


Originally Posted by Rambro Creed

I have had a great relationship with a former provider from the old aspd days. It was awesome and didn't end because of her job. Yes you have to put that in proper perspective. My advice is simple, If you are doing it for the thrill or for extra free sex, it will fail quickly and in flames. do it because you generally like her and she likes you. Maybe just my opinion but it was pretty much like a normal relationship. These ladies are real people too. You have to have romance not just sex.

If someone strongly wants to pursue a relationship with a lady in this thing of ours, an arrangement is not the worst way to go. If both of you are madly in love then hey head down the aisle, but if you are sure you want to date a provider, offering her something as a show of your seriousness is a good idea.

Its about how much you want to step up. If you want just sex, stay on the clock.

just my two cents and probably not worth that.

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It would work for me, right up to the point where we are laying in bed and she slaps me on the ass and say, "Get your ass out of bed, I have a customer coming over."

Actually I think it would work better with two bi-sexual women.

I love it.

It turns me on.

It is an extension of our swinging relationship.

Whether or not guys are paying for her time I like it when she goes out and has fun without me. We are to the point where we know we cannot be 100% of everything for each other sexually. I know I have fun when I have the time and budget to hobby so I damn sure won't get jealous if she does. Originally Posted by Boltfan

I agree with Bolt. My wife and I are swingers. She travels often for work and 99% of the time she will meet with a single or guy or more depending on how long she's gone. It turns me on to no end.

The only jealousy that might arise is that she's getting to have more sex than I do.

I have actually been matched on eHarmony with 3 providers. Two here and 1 where I used to live. It made me think but I never pursued them, but, not because of the fact that they were providers.

I have dated strippers few times and I think it was sexy. Now a provider, hmmm I would say NO BBBJ, DATY ok, DFK no....Then it might work. I am greedy like that

I had a very serious relationship with a provider for almost a year. We met as client / provider, and after several visits, things began to escalate. It was obvious we enjoyed one another, and got along well together. After a while we decided to only see each other as boyfriend / girlfriend.

I saw our relationship as pretty normal. Some days she would be tired, and not want sex, other days... she had a very healthy sex drive. :-) She would get a bit cranky and irratible some days, as would I.

I was fine with her providing, but the truth was that she didn't want me to see other women. I found it a bit funny actually. She wanted to get away from providing, it was merely a short term means to an end for her, otherwise she wanted a manogamous relationship.

We broke up in the end, but it had nothing to do with client / provider issues. We simply both decided that we weren't a match in some ways. If I were to see her tomorrow, I'd hope to hear that she was happy. There will always be a part of me that loves her. I think she feels the same way about me.

Interesting question (sure brings back some memories)......

A long time ago (35+ years), I was approached by a young, beautiful girl at the JCPenney store I was working in during my college years. She invited me out for a drink after work and proposed a working relationship to me. She admitted that she was a stripper who worked bachelor parties and private parties, but was recently taken advantage of by the men at the party. She hired me for $ a night to act as her security escort when she would work a bachelor party or private party. We did this for several months and everything worked out fine -- I would pick her up and drive her to the party, I would generally act like a bouncer if anyone got too handsy. Worst I ever did was pull a guy off her who tried to crawl in her costume. I collected her fee from the sponsors of the party and kept what ever money she brought to me for the night. One stormy night in Wisconsin we were stuck at a small town motel because of snow and were forced to share a room. I kind of knew we were going to be good friends when she decided to share my shower with me. We were together for several months until two guys tried to pull her into a different hotel room to forceably rape her and I damned near got my throat cut when I commenced to beat the shit out of the dirtbags. She stayed with me for three months taking care of me so I didn't have to stay in the hospital. I genuinely think we liked each other a lot, but my getting messed up put a lot of guilt in her head. She was kind of around for a while after I got better, but eventually set up her girlfriend as my new SO so she could move to the big city.

Damn, Harry...a definite walk on the wild side!

I've had this conversation with a provider as to this situation. She was serious about this guy and asked me what I thought. I told her we as men are "dogs" we say one thing but mean another and we never forget! I told her that he's probably cool sober but once he starts boozing, watch out! I told her if she ever wanted a relationship was to skip to a different big city and pray she doesn't run into a John, while she's married. "The less you know the better"

I always thought it would be fun if she came home from a session and said "he fucked me pretty good, but it wasn't enough. I need some more" all while pulling my pants down then dive bombing my cock.

This is a great thread. I personally would not have a problem if my SO/GF was a provider. I would guess that many girls here have a partner. The relationship would have to be completely open and honest. The thought of her with other men/women would be a total turn on and would be a great topic in bed with the stories. This goes vice versa as well. She would have to be open to my activities with other women as well. I have never been in a swinging relationship but have often thought about it. The thought of her with other men/women is very erotic to me. Now there is no room for jealously, that goes out that door. We would have to be very open about our relationship and other people that we meet. I have met some incredible women on here and find some of them as someone to spend more time with outside of BCD. Just my 2 cents.

I admire anyone who "puts it on the line" to earn a living. I don't know if I could handle being the kept man of a provider but if it came to it and I was unable to contribute financially, I would rather an SO making an honest living as a provider than being on the dole. Women that become providers out of necessity to provide for a single parent family or similar circumstance should be admired for their choice.

Most of the best providers I have been with have ultimately chosen the life and enjoy it. How cool is it to do something your really enjoy (at least sometimes) and get compensated for your time (and skills)? A swinging lifestyle for couples, whether professional or amateur, requires two people that are very secure in their feelings. Long term relationships are fragile at best. All this is, of course, IMHO.