There are a couple different threads on this subject right now.
It's definitely in the best interest of everyone if give references, so let's be nice to each other about it.
I say ask what you want. I typically just give as much info as I have about the gent that could be used by the other lady to identify and remember him, and ask for whatever info the other lady can provide that will help me out if she has seen the man.
I get answers that range from anywhere from "GTG" to a little paragraph telling me all about him and what he likes and to give him a kiss from the other provider (which I always do), to hmmm it's been awhile don't really remember see at your own risk.
Whatever response I get, I thank the other provider and leave it at that, and I appreciate her for her response - truly.
Now that I see the reponses to this thread and the other thread I see that some girls keep more notes than others and and some have their own reasons for not keeping notes. We all have our own reasons for what we do and how we do it. We should respect each other.
I don't blame some of the ladies if they prefer to give the 'good to go' kind of reply, for getting frustrated if some of the girls or their assistants are sending them loads of emails about the same dude. That's too much. If you don't like a particular lady's way of answering, then don't ask her again, or just be ready for what you are going to get.
Bottom line we should all respect each other's time and style. If we were all the same girl, there wouldn't be the need for so many of use ladies. We should not fight each other.