I apologize in advance if this is intrusive for some of you; directed towards those who don't mind opening up and sharing. I greatly appreciate all input.

I just have to say EE that I have truly always been impressed with how genuine and sincere you have been to me whenever I saw you as Minstrel3 or Evrygoodboy or whoever. 7 years? Goodness how time flies when you're having fun! I can't believe it's been that long. I remember when you first showed up. You are such a good looking fresh young hottie with your slender model body it created a real buzz in this town and Austin. I remember who brought you here (C......) also because I was seeing her then. And I feel the same way you do about this place so thanks for saying it.

Even tho it's been a while I've seen you a bunch of times and even had you at my house a few times. And you are one of those girls I was talking about who really lift up my spirit and drive away the loneliness and make life's down times bearable. Not only do you give sweet GFE sessions but I have been deeply impressed by your attitude. A lot of really hot girls act stuck up like they are doing a guy a big favor just to show up. But you always seem grateful that I called and always have something really nice to say to compliment me in some way. And it never sounds phony or contrived but just an authentic showing of appreciation kind of like the way you have come across in this thread. Like once you said to me "You know how to have sex with a girl for just the right amount of time. Not too short or not too long but just right." Like as if it was a real lover commenting that she likes my style because I satisfy her but don't try to wear her out. Little things like that really make a overweight older guy feel great coming from a hot young model. LOL.

Well I don't mean to hijack this thread but the topic is about why we hobby and for me it's also moments like that that are the reason I do it. You wade thru a lot of mediocre times with some girls who are indifferent and make you feel like you wasted your money and then you find a diamond like you EE. And it makes an aging lonely man feel like he's a king for a while.

Ive been married to my wife 15 years, and lived in "sin" 2 years before that. Oh how I miss the "sin" I very very much love my wife and we have a wonderful relationship.. best friends, partners.. polar opposites in some ways completing each other, and sometimes finishing each others sentences. Our first several years together we lived like college kids far longer than we needed to, and partied, drank and other things alot. Shes bi.. was actually not with a man for about a year when we met and I recall when telling a mutual friend we hooked up him looking dumbfounded and saying "isnt she a dyke?". We had an incredible sex life.. shes leave me bitten and clawed up.. we did some "swinging" (such a cheesy term) a few times and pretty much agreed that humans were not intended to be monogamous creatures.
That stopped when the female half of one of the other couples, who had become good friends of ours, tried to convince her to go 'Thelma and Louise', clean out both joint bank accounts and take off together. My wife being practical and pragmatic told her she was a loony and to piss off... and since then has said in her words "Sex with women is nice, but I could never be in a relationship with one because theyre all crazy". That was pretty much the end of that, weve talked about it since many times but she just doesnt want the drama.
Also since our daughter was born 8 years ago, her sex drive plummeted. Difficult pregnancy, did a number on her hormonally and she refuses to see a doc. Shes also had a growing social anxiety and has very little interest in even leaving the house.. she works from home and literally never goes anywhere unless she has to. She might get horny once a month, almost like clockwork right before her period, and even then only if shes had a few drinks.. shes a drinker, Id almost say fnctioning alkie now. I've long outgrown 'getting drunk for getting drunks sake' but if she doesnt have to get up in the morning, she will sit up and drink till she passes out.
Anyway its longer and more complicated.. but Im sexually deprived.. when we do it its good.. but after all these years its no challenge.. I know all her triggers and what she likes, and the steadfast list of what she doesnt like and won't do. She also has little endurance and once she cums, she's done.. more like a guy than I am.. whereas Im ready for round 2 in 10 mins or less. So I seek more adventurous lovers, variety of course because thats the spice of life, and more attentiveness to my needs. Im a very giving and generous person in bed and want to make every time wonderful and treat a woman with an enthusiastic passion. Just dont got that anymore at home so need the illusion elsewhere.. as well as good old fashioned animal release with no pretense once in awhile.
Im too poor to do ths often, especially with the ladies who provide that experience..so lately Ive been blessed with.. actually 2 now.. very receptive and understanding FWBs.
We all need to do what we need to to in order to feel complete.

Tough stories. After many years of marriage I got sick and don't look as young as I used to. I gained weight and lost some "life force".

Last summer, my wife who has some issues of her own, told me to "make other arrangements." I don't wish to get a divorce or to have an entangling relationship so here I am.

I am very self conscious about my weight as I have never never been so large and experience all the time what one hears from many places how many people ignore/discount/avoid heavy people.

Therefore, it would be nice to know which providers are sympathetic to the cause. I would have to cite Brandy Lee as being my first and, after I explained my plight, she was absolutely wonderful. It would also be nice to visit some others just for the fun as long as I am here, but enthusiasm by the provider seems to be essential to my enjoyment.

So if any of you ladies want to PM your willingness it would be appreciated. For my part, except for weight, I am pretty clean cut, educated and very gentle. I don't get out much, but when I do I don't want to be worried about my reception. I have always gone out of my way to "provide" pleasure for dates in my single days. I would like to do it again for those willing to see me and be my girlfriend for an hour.

Aaaaye!!! Uparoundnoon, you are goin to make me cryyyyy !! Lol you are sooo sweet!!! I have never had someone say so many sincerely kind things about me. You are such a sweet heart. Pepper called me and told me what happend the past few days!!! That's horrible. I'm so sorry babe. But email to my yahoo because I'm interested. Anyway, I completely understand yals reasoning for being here. It's a shame , but in a way, I'm so glad we all have had to go thru these hard things. Because now we are all here, for eachother. It's awesome. It's our 12 step program. Lol. Love it!! Ty again for such beautiful words Uparoundnoon.

Ezra,

I had the chance to meet you last month and you my dear are a class act! Anyone who can not see that is BLIND. I am personally now divorced but in the past have been in those same shoes.

I think we all are feeling some type of loneliness no matter what our status is in civi land. That is why I am so happy that I have found this hobby and met so many wonderful people. Some of the best people in my life right now are people I have met here and through the hobby period.

Ezra I hope we can go to dinner or lunch or just hang out when I return to SA and please look me up if you ever want to come to Dallas. I really enjoyed chatting with you

Jules,

You are an awesome person babe. It was such a pleasure to meet you and I'm so sorry that we had to meet under the crappy circumstance you were going thru, that bastard made a big mistake and definitely missed out. Ty for such kind words and yes!!! I would definitely love to plan a meet up for us to have lunch or some drinks.

Well, many of you would be happy to know, about a week ago I had made my final decision to get the fuck out. Lol. I will be getting my own place right after Xmas, and starting my life from scratch. Family and friends ( including many of you) have finally convinced me that my baby will be ok, he's resilient and the longer I wait the worse it will become. And I believe that. I am starting from scratch and starting out small. Then go from there on life. But I have never been happier w my short term goal. For some of my closest friends email me and I will catch you up. It looks like, I'll end up having an incall real soon again. Lol. But of course only to my close circle. Lol.

Ty to everyone for all the reasons why you're here, and helping me get rid of such bad poison. Ha. See you on the next page of my life!!! Mmmuah.

Ezra,

Count your blessings. You are young, beautiful, smart, vunerable, charming, fun to be with, etc...AND you have a fan club of boys and girls willing to help in anyway they can. It's something...I think your future looks bright. I've only met you a couple times but having read this thread I feel I understand you better and you must know us a little better too now. If you ever need anyone to talk to you can include me in the long line of people who would love to chat with you.

SeeMore+Butts, guys are genetically programmed to hunt for new strange. Its biological. We can resist it, but cant change it. So, you are not an asshole.

You are just not repressed.

Gals want to nest. Guys don't. No matter how hard a guy tries, he cant change what he is. Can pretend he can. Can believe he can. But he cant. Originally Posted by flinde

Very true.. if only more ( on both sides) would admit and understand this...
I guess I need to post my reasons as well... soon to follow...

Well, my SO travels allot and I get bored... but to be honest even if I were in the most perfect relationship with everything I could ever ask for, I would still look at other women lol... so sad but so true... I don't "play" much though, I fantasize about playing way more than actually playing.

mt so is spectacular. its just as men we crave the variety. there is little chance in real life i would get to bang a woman as physically spectacular as yourself and as based on your reviews as sexually talented. while i hobby infrequently i savor the chance to have sex with women that look and perform as you do.

I'm in tears about some of these posts. Lol. I guess I relate just the same. I'm glad I asked. I thank you so much for sharing. Ty for being brutally honest. Originally Posted by ExoticEzra

Ezra....we almost met and work got in the way, eventually I'll have the honor of meeting you. You sound like a class act...you have SO many friends who love and respect you....and that dear is what is important.

interesting thread.

i was married for 15 years (together a total of 17). When we first met sex was great. But like most of the people above, our marriage turned into a friendship.

I am a very emmotional guy (feelings wise) and felt like my ex abandoned me early on in our marriage. She would always go out to NYC with her sisters or mother and leave me at home. I eventually got tired of it and turned myselft off to her completely. It got to the point where i couldn't even get an erection when she wanted to suck me. I just lost all interest because I felt she abandoned me and chose her family over me. To make things worse, I even held out on having any children with her. In the long run, this turned out to be a bad idea since I am now too old to have children and feel a big part of my life is unfulfilled.

I started looking for attention at SC's because I would get all the attention I needed. Of course it was all artificial as long as I had money to spend. I found this site (actually the old site) several years ago and have enjoyed the company of many through posts. We are like an extended family on this site. I don't hobby much but the times I do, I get to escape from reality and enjoy a fantasy that I cannot get with my current SO.

EE, looking back on my life I can say one thing. DON'T STAY IN A MARRIAGE (OR RELATIONSHIP) IF YOU ARE UNHAPPY! I stayed 12 years too long and wasted time hoping things would get better. You can never get back the time you waste. And I don't believe a couple should stay together for the sake of the children. Children will sense the lack of love between you two and they will grow up thinking that is the way relationships are supposed to be. Move on and find someone that will love you they way you want.

... So here I am doing this hobby because I want to take care of my needs..meaning I want to feel wanted ....at least for a moment. I know that sounds sappy (is that a word?). Every person should be made to feel special in my opinion. I miss hugs and small kisses,cuddling on the couch,holding hands and all that mushy stuff. =) ...=) Originally Posted by initial d

Wow. I think you just described me.

I hobby because I enjoy all of those things (kissing, holding hands, cuddling before and after, all the sweet things I miss) and hope to appeal to a man who needs those things too. I also hobby mostly because I love the adrenaline rush, the excitement, plus it's nice to meet a man just as 'randy' as me.

I'm not sure that I would want a serious relationship at this time, but I suppose if I found one, then I would be open to it. I'm just not looking for it.

It's nice to be excited over meeting someone new or someone I've met before. I didn't find that in my previous relationship. I found dread.

...Every person has the need to be desired... Originally Posted by JMcB

Reading your post almost made me cry.

So true.. I don't feel that need 24/7, but there are a few times a week where I feel that need to be desired, loved, and cared about.

...So if any of you ladies want to PM your willingness it would be appreciated. For my part, except for weight, I am pretty clean cut, educated and very gentle. I don't get out much, but when I do I don't want to be worried about my reception. I have always gone out of my way to "provide" pleasure for dates in my single days. I would like to do it again for those willing to see me and be my girlfriend for an hour. Originally Posted by Tall Tex

Any lady who wouldn't see you based on your weight is missing out big time. Just by you admitting that on a public board says a lot about you and I can tell you're a sweetheart. I'm sure you will have a box full of pm's from willing ladies very soon.

It seems that in most everyone's stories that the story line is similar. I wonder why it is that either HE isn't sexually attracted to her anymore, or SHE isn't attracted to him anymore, or SHE isn't interested in sex at all anymore.

Do we get content in our relationships and think that we don't have to put makeup on anymore, or shave our faces anymore (men), or eat healthy, or whatever the case may be? It might just be a human thing since this is the oldest profession in the history of mankind.

Anyway, EroticEzra - this is a wonderful topic and there were a few stories that made me see that this site has people on it who are like me and feel what I feel and like you, I'm glad to know that. Good luck in your own relationship, EE. I know you will be happy again.

Just read the last few posts, Ty again to you who have been a great support, and for expressing your reasons. I am here for all of you gents and ladies as you are for me. Swear it! The kind self esteem boosts have meant so much. God I love this site!!!!

Ezra.....you made the right decision to start over while you are still young. I just don't think people should stay in a bad relationship for any reason. Everyone around you will now see tat you are happier now.
I have been invited to over 50 weddings in my life. Out of those 50 weddings, only 6 couples are still together. Out of those 6 couples that are still together, 3 are probably in a bad relationship. I feel like I am wasting my money when I buy a wedding gift!