I apologize in advance if this is intrusive for some of you; directed towards those who don't mind opening up and sharing. I greatly appreciate all input.

See!! I would be happy with that! I think that as long as it was never spoken of, if I was the center of my partner's world still, yet he had his fun on the side, It would still be way more satisfying than what I'm in now. I leave tomorrow. I thought what better day than the first day of a new year. Here goes nothing!

I have similar stories with some of you. Been together a long time. Sex was amazing in the beginning. I guess now, the SO's interest in sex is not there as much as I am. She gave me my hall pass for Christmas. I can hook up with anyone, but just tell her. I should not go behind her back. Should I use this gift?

I'm in the same boat as many of my ECCIE friends. After about 7 years of marriage, The SO lost her sex drive, and instead of divorce I decided to join the hobby to keep the family together. Not much affection around my house. At age 40 she now thinks she is going through menopause now. She is as bitchy as ever even with the Prozac. She keeps throwing out the "D" word at me when she gets in one of those moods. True, I get a bit cranky at times, but that is because sex is non-existant and I can't remember the last time she gave my a BBBJ. And when she did, she never swollowed.

This is interesting, For me I came here to look at things from a different angle, I have always been a faithful and loyal BF in the past, long story short I couldnt do anything right she was up and down, finally got the I think I need a friend rather than a boyfriend line. I thought the last girl was going to be the one and she broke my heart. So a little over a year later and several pounds heavier here I am. I dont intend to dive in but rather dip my toe in, to me nothing takes the place of a real life relationship, there is no fantasy about it,the affection is not forced, ect on the other hand somethings in a real life relationship you do have to worry about that you do not here, such as if you hang out with the same crowd of people and will your friends like my friends ect. I am just looking at it from a different side. I think I got really lucky this time. I never put me first in the relationship, I dont have to worry about that here. I never understood how some guys could get these beautiful women and take them for granted. I am a hopeless romantic so sometimes I have to remind myself to look at things differently and realize Im not in relationship mode, none the less the Goddess I met here I can never take for granted. And I am also about discovery so will I meet others?..I dont know..but I think the option is there, so that is nice in a way. Good luck

I don't usually make new year resolutions but here's what I try to always achieve:
1) be consistent
2) manage stress (take advantage of the great outdoors - mountain bike, hike, trail run...)
3) Eat more healthier (this is the hardest by far
4) work hard and play harder

Happy new year y'all, be safe and have fun life is sort and you only have one shot.

I have similar stories with some of you. Been together a long time. Sex was amazing in the beginning. I guess now, the SO's interest in sex is not there as much as I am. She gave me my hall pass for Christmas. I can hook up with anyone, but just tell her. I should not go behind her back. Should I use this gift? Originally Posted by FlashCardz

I wouldn't tell her. She'll hold it over your head forever.

I wouldn't tell her. She'll hold it over your head forever. Originally Posted by Tori Hastings

That's what I am thinking too hahaha.

Over 20 years of marriage, which had it's up's and downs with sex. The hysterectomy pretty much ended our sex life a few years ago. Sure we tried, but for her it is painful. I don't blame her, and we will be together until death do us part (or until she kills me, which3ever comes first)

Life happens.

That's what I am thinking too hahaha. Originally Posted by FlashCardz

Yep every time there's a fight or whatever, she'll remind you. They may give you a hall pass, but they don't want to know. lol If you tell her, it's something she may never forgive or forget. That's why it's a hall pass. But really, did you need one anyway? You're in the hobby. Deny, deny, deny.

Actually, for me, the hobby would not even be considered, if I got laid once a week. Even a BBBJ would be acceptable. But as we all know, intercourse satisfies us guys 90%. BBBJ Helps with a release but good old fashion fucking is the best for more complete satisfaction.